Post your random thoughts/feelings etc

[BlueDays]

Well, I am searching for someone who wants an actual future out of a relationship. And most of the men who want families and such already have them...

Just a thought

ah I see.

 

[MikeyC]

I've told my best friend I'm going into therapy soon and he has not even asked why I'm going.

Hmmm....

 

[Pyrophosphate]

I've told my best friend I'm going into therapy soon and he has not even asked why I'm going.

Hmmm....

Does that bother you?

 

[Silatuyok]

It seems that whenever I do get a chance to socialize more than normal, I get completely overwhelmed by it. I need to find a good balance between my own desired amount of solitude, and the small amount of interaction that I need with others.
Actually, having a routine would do the trick, i.e., having a planned outing on a certain day of the week, or something like that. Unfortunately, sometimes friends and family members come from out of the blue and make routines impossible. I just don't have the flexibility to be a spontaneous socializer.
Yeah, I'm stressing. But I'm learning something about myself in the process. If I can just coast through the rest of October, things will be swell..

 

[MikeyC]

Actually, having a routine would do the trick, i.e., having a planned outing on a certain day of the week, or something like that.

This never works. I have a schedule of things I do, but it's hard to keep it that way when things come up unexpectedly. However, if a schedule will help you, go for it.

Your schedule will be booked for the next few days moving house, anyway.

 

[DeadmanWalking]

It seems that whenever I do get a chance to socialize more than normal, I get completely overwhelmed by it. I need to find a good balance between my own desired amount of solitude, and the small amount of interaction that I need with others.
Actually, having a routine would do the trick, i.e., having a planned outing on a certain day of the week, or something like that. Unfortunately, sometimes friends and family members come from out of the blue and make routines impossible. I just don't have the flexibility to be a spontaneous socializer.
Yeah, I'm stressing. But I'm learning something about myself in the process. If I can just coast through the rest of October, things will be swell..

Well, I suggest taking a break and getting away from the crowd when you begin to feel uncomfortable. Like, when you're at a social event and you begin to feel overwhelmed, just find a clear spot or go off into a solitary area (now not too far off: and catch your breath. When you feel up to it, return back and keep it up; you should be able to last longer as time goes on and don't worry about looking weird.
It's good that you're learning and I'm sure that you'll get your break soon!

 

[Phoenixx]

I've been doing a lot of thinking and it's become apparent to me that things aren't going in the right direction. I've been here too long and I can't seem to beat this. So I've made up my mind that if I cant change things by my next birthday I will be ending my life. Dont bother with your it can be worse bs because its my choice and thats what I want to do. THe only thing that will change my mind is if I can change myself. That is all.

^ This post makes me very sad. :: I've just been getting to know you Pips, and you're such an incredibly nice person. You give such great advice. How do you know you can't beat this, Pips? Please don't give up. Hang in there, stay strong. I know it's hard, I know it's a struggle, but please keep trying. You can change, you can do this, I know you can.

 

[MikeyC]

Does that bother you?

Kind of. I want to open up to him a little more but he's tending to shy away from the subject. Maybe he's not the guy for this situation.

 

[Phoenixx]

...I feel like people are avoiding me....

^ *pokes*

 

[BlueDays]

Just when you think there could not possibly be another level of boredom to experience (other then being locked in jail), you get unexpectedly surprised.

 

[Silatuyok]

When the home page gets filled up with threads that I'm the last commenter on, then I know it's time to go to bed. Goodnight world!

 

[Deus_Ex_Lemur]

Just when you think there could not possibly be another level of boredom to experience (other then being locked in jail), you get unexpectedly surprised.

Such as? Hopefully a pleasant surprise. (and jails arent all boring, never know the cell mate you may get...

 

[WeirdyMcGee]

... ***** ...

 

[Srijita52]

When the home page gets filled up with threads that I'm the last commenter on, then I know it's time to go to bed. Goodnight world!

Good night!

 

[MikeyC]

If you'd met me in person before online you wouldnt say that. I've been trying very hard to be social, smiling, waving at people who I've met before, but I've been learning the hard way that my awkwardness makes people not enjoy being around me. **** whether Im a nice guy or not, in the end it doesnt matter. Because if you dont make the other person feel comfortable somehow in the first few minutes they wont waste anymore getting to see who you are. They just look the other way and find other people that are easier to talk to. I dont see things getting better for me with time. In fact once my parents are gone I see myself living the life of a lonely old man. Nice or not

I'm sorry you're feeling this way, mate. Sometimes it is tough to climb out of the pits of despair and I can tell you're really hurting.

Please, for the sake of the people that do love you, and for the sake of us here at SPW, don't take your own life. You have no idea of the ramifications that will have from your family. Believe it or not, they will miss you and so will others.

Have you considered taking something that will make you less awkward around people? Psychiatrists can prescribe drugs, as you'd be well aware. I know it's a substantial step to take - but you're considering suicide and anything else will be better.

Stay strong, my friend. My inbox is always available if you want to let anything out. I mean it.

 

[FountainandFairfax]

Shelled peanuts are the worst snack. Totally not worth the effort.

 

[BlueDays]

Sorry about yesterday. I'll figure something out.

You don't have to say your sorry for expressing the way you feel. Thats what this site is for. This is a place where we can all get our feelings out amoung people who may be going through something similar, this is a support site after all. I hope you can find a way to make it through this hard time Pips. ((Hugs))

 

[Phoenixx]

If you'd met me in person before online you wouldnt say that. I've been trying very hard to be social, smiling, waving at people who I've met before, but I've been learning the hard way that my awkwardness makes people not enjoy being around me. **** whether Im a nice guy or not, in the end it doesnt matter. Because if you dont make the other person feel comfortable somehow in the first few minutes they wont waste anymore getting to see who you are. They just look the other way and find other people that are easier to talk to. I dont see things getting better for me with time. In fact once my parents are gone I see myself living the life of a lonely old man. Nice or not

^ How do you know? I'm always uncomfortable around people, but if someone makes the effort to try to talk to me, even if it's just saying hello, I'll make the effort to talk back, no matter how much it terrifies me.

Keep trying, Pips. Sorry you're going through such a hard time. Just hang in there!

 

[Ms Cloud]

In fact once my parents are gone I see myself living the life of a lonely old man.

Lonely old men and lonely old women find each other all the time. Being old is not an impediment to having a social life, in fact for some people it gets easier to connect with others as they age.

That's what I'm counting on, at any rate.

 

[Srijita52]

^Me too.....