Poll: Would you date an SP?
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^or they could help each other get through it as well 
. I imagine a severely social phobic couple being happy being lonely together... but that's my poor imagination/wishes . What I think is that a social phobic couple with a member of it having moderate SA at most, it would be something that could benefit both. Because they would not only be happy with each other but the one with the least "anxiety", could take care of financial and social problems. Etc.. Etc.
Personally, I would prefer a female with SA because it would mean to me an instant understanding of my problems and the things I hide the most (would save me a world of trouble.)
. I imagine a severely social phobic couple being happy being lonely together... but that's my poor imagination/wishes . What I think is that a social phobic couple with a member of it having moderate SA at most, it would be something that could benefit both. Because they would not only be happy with each other but the one with the least "anxiety", could take care of financial and social problems. Etc.. Etc.Personally, I would prefer a female with SA because it would mean to me an instant understanding of my problems and the things I hide the most (would save me a world of trouble.)
vj288
not actually Fiona Apple
I did a project for psych class on SA and for a case study I picked this guy who was married with a wife who recognized he was uncomfortable in social situations. She would do everything for him because she wasn't uncomfortable, from calling the plumber to ordering for him at restaurants. I think a non-SA partner would be more of an enabler than one in the same boat. I think in any situation an enabler can surface.
Aussie_Lad
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I wouldn't date an agrophobe, because it is nice to be able to date someone that is confident enough to go out into the fresh air and sunshine with me and take trips to the shops etc.
I also wouldn't date someone that is too softly spoken and quiet, as I sometimes stuggle to pick out words unless they speak loudly (my hearing tests have been okay though).
I guess all I want from a woman is the above. I would be perfectly happy having someone that likes hanging out with me and encourages me to get off my butt and make something of my life.
I also wouldn't date someone that is too softly spoken and quiet, as I sometimes stuggle to pick out words unless they speak loudly (my hearing tests have been okay though).
I guess all I want from a woman is the above. I would be perfectly happy having someone that likes hanging out with me and encourages me to get off my butt and make something of my life.
Hypothetically, yes I would.
It is entirely possible that the relationship will have a positive effect on both of them over time. After all, when they're together do they not interact socially in real life? If they do things together out of the house and support each other while doing it, it could end up curing their social phobia.
It could also cause their anxieties to resonate, of course. But here's for wishful thinking. ;3
It is entirely possible that the relationship will have a positive effect on both of them over time. After all, when they're together do they not interact socially in real life? If they do things together out of the house and support each other while doing it, it could end up curing their social phobia.
It could also cause their anxieties to resonate, of course. But here's for wishful thinking. ;3
anxiety1408
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Yeah of course, you know people who say no to this technically you are labelling a social phobic as "bad/no go" thus it has a negative effect upon yourself because you are looking for qualities which you dont possess, in hindsight you are doing damage to your self esteem...
Rembrandt Broam
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I agree. I think two people with SA probably works better because a) they understand the other person's perspective (something I think non-SA people have a very hard time with) and b) they can be supportive of one another in overcoming their SA. I do think it helps if one of the two has less severe SA.
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Sure why not. As long as she doesn't run from me everytime I want to talk and avoid me for weeks at a time. If that's how all SP girls are then I would have to say no.
vj288
not actually Fiona Apple
I accidentally hit no, sorry!
but yes I would and have, can safely say she was the sweetest woman once she opened up.
Really? So everyone has said yes so far? A perfect poll!
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LazyHermitCrab
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Yes. It would be a mysterious relationship at times, but with patience so what. It would just take longer to get to know the person instead of knowing more about the person upfront. In fact it would probably work out better..
tweetebird
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My answer is yes, but it's conditional. I wouldn't date someone who has SP but not aware of it, or unwilling to be completely open with me about it.
scarednotshy
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I am new here and have written some posts already. I wrote a long post introducing myself and sharing a bit about myself but the whole thing just vanished. grrrrrrr >( i was so motivated at the time. I guess I can write it again when I'm feeling up to it.
Anyway, I didn't vote yet but I am married to someone with sa. I say he has sa and I have sp because I think there are variables. He gets anxious sometimes about going out to the store or taking the bus/train sometimes and he will gag and sometimes vomit before he has to leave. BUT he never lets it stop him and he isn't always so bad. When in a new situation, like a new job, he's anxious until he's been there a while. Difference between him and I is that I NEVER get past that ice-breaking stage. I'll have moments when I'm more comfortable than others but I'm never myself. H'es very funny and quick to make jokes. I thinks he's very natural with people and I admire and am a little jealous I can't do that. I want so badly to be myself yet the minute I leave the house or am around others the straight jacket and muzzle go on. Sometimes I feel like I'm trapped inside myself and wishing I could break out and be me. I'm very funny. I love to laugh and I'm intelligent but I just look like a nervous, mumbling idot to others.
Now I think that him being able to relate to what I go through helps the relationship. We help each other. Sometimes he wants me to go with him somewhere cuz he's feeling nervous/self-conscious and sometimes he's fine. I'm almost ALWAYS like that.
BUT, the drawback is that we have had fights because although he experiences social anxiety, he doesn't experience chronic social phobia (running away when the phone rings and other stuff) and will at times get angry with me. He feels that if he doesn't allow it to get the best of him why should I. I have stood right up to him though and told him he had no right to tell me what I experience and just because he doesn't does not been I don't. I won't allow him to compare and judge me based on him.
We are best of friends though really. We have been through some really rough times and came close to divorce but worked through it. Although I suppose in some ways we enable each other, we also help each other and encourage each other. Our favorite thing to do is spend time together watching family guy or movies.....just being hermits.
Anyway, thought I'd post from the other side of the fence.
I suppose I would vote yes, lol.
Anyway, I didn't vote yet but I am married to someone with sa. I say he has sa and I have sp because I think there are variables. He gets anxious sometimes about going out to the store or taking the bus/train sometimes and he will gag and sometimes vomit before he has to leave. BUT he never lets it stop him and he isn't always so bad. When in a new situation, like a new job, he's anxious until he's been there a while. Difference between him and I is that I NEVER get past that ice-breaking stage. I'll have moments when I'm more comfortable than others but I'm never myself. H'es very funny and quick to make jokes. I thinks he's very natural with people and I admire and am a little jealous I can't do that. I want so badly to be myself yet the minute I leave the house or am around others the straight jacket and muzzle go on.
Sometimes I feel like I'm trapped inside myself and wishing I could break out and be me. I'm very funny. I love to laugh and I'm intelligent but I just look like a nervous, mumbling idot to others.Now I think that him being able to relate to what I go through helps the relationship. We help each other. Sometimes he wants me to go with him somewhere cuz he's feeling nervous/self-conscious and sometimes he's fine. I'm almost ALWAYS like that.
BUT, the drawback is that we have had fights because although he experiences social anxiety, he doesn't experience chronic social phobia (running away when the phone rings and other stuff) and will at times get angry with me. He feels that if he doesn't allow it to get the best of him why should I. I have stood right up to him though and told him he had no right to tell me what I experience and just because he doesn't does not been I don't. I won't allow him to compare and judge me based on him.
We are best of friends though really. We have been through some really rough times and came close to divorce but worked through it. Although I suppose in some ways we enable each other, we also help each other and encourage each other. Our favorite thing to do is spend time together watching family guy or movies.....just being hermits.
Anyway, thought I'd post from the other side of the fence.
I suppose I would vote yes, lol.
fife_girl
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yeah me too! think it might cause problems if they were unaware of it
Social Phobic and not a sociopsychotic?
Yes, of course I would. Imagine it would be very quiet. Along with a massive character indicating total confusion which may lead to the unspoken question:
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Yes, of course I would. Imagine it would be very quiet. Along with a massive character indicating total confusion which may lead to the unspoken question:
'what do I do now?'
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