Would you forgive bullies years later

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redtear

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I have forgiven my bullies. Doesn't mean I've forgotten, or gotten over it or that I wanna be friends with any of them. But I understand, and through understanding I have forgiven. Even my worst bully, my own mother.

The only one I'm still working on forgiving is myself. I have become my new biggest bully.
 
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FriendlessGirl

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Yep, I will. Although I do get it that not all sorts of bullies can be forgiven nor they should. But I'll still try to forgive them cos it'll help me to move on with my with my life. I used to be too much bitter about my school bullies all the time but then one day I decided to forgive them and it really worked like magic. I mean I still didn't like them but wierdly the extreame hatred was gone. In fact only a few days ago I saw the girl who used to torment me most, she gave a real nasty expression to me, i know at other times it'd definitely make me mad and depressed. But strangely it just made me laugh and I was thinking 'Omg she still hasn't change, she must be crazy' lol.
 
Panther

Panther

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Well people do deserve a second chance and they may have grown up and stuff, but you never forget what was said so it could be hard but id give it a go if they've changed or whatever.
 
Honda

Honda

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Where was my second chance when I got bullied???

It is important for me that i never get bullied again!! What will forgiveness do?? They will cross the line with you as soon as they see a certain weakness in you..
 
MercySparx

MercySparx

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Absolutely. The cruel things I did to kids haunt me far more then what others did to me. Although most of the "bullies" I have reincountered grew up to be scum, so now I don't like them because of who they are, not because of who they were back then.
 
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anti-bullying

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I think it is tough to forget the bullying, but for your own sake and health, we need to find a way to forgive and move forward. Easier said than done, I am sure.
 
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Melissa66

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I've tried over the years to forgive the bullies who persecuted me for 12 years in school. Unfortunately, the wounds of anxiety and depression are profound and have never fully healed despite psychotherapy and medication. I can't forgive any of them -- they don't deserve it.
 
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davidburke

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MercySparx said:
Why not? We were all just kids. People grow up and change.
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well first of all i don't want to see or hear from them ever again for my own sake. it was was one main guy who bullied me constantly and of course his mates went along with it too and last i heard he is far from changing.
 
MercySparx

MercySparx

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davidburke said:
well first of all i don't want to see or hear from them ever again for my own sake. it was was one main guy who bullied me constantly and of course his mates went along with it too and last i heard he is far from changing.
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I was sexually harrased constantly by this one guy, and of course his buddies played along too. The ring leader hasn't changed, infact he's more of a tool, but I don't hate him for what he did to me when we were kids, I hate him because of the tool he is now.
 
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therealdeal

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Nope. They are probably the same or worse anyway.
I don't think they'd be sorry for ruining part of my life. In fact they probably still see it as an accomplishment.
 
Dark angel

Dark angel

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No! Not to hold any grudge or anything but I couldn't do it. Their comments, even when everything happened years ago and I don't even remember their nasty comments, are sort of responsible for my lack of trust in myself. Sure, part of that lack of trust has been co-founded on my own but still...
... One of them recently wanted to add me on facebook, I just ignored his friend request. I think is something that should be done in order to move on, but really, I don't feel like I should forgive them.
 
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9407

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Not really. Some guy I used to know back at my old high school ( lame white kid who though he was cool because he hung out with gangster black kids) used to make fun of me a bit in grade 10. He actually lives near me and I haven't talked to him since I transferred out of that school 2 and a half years ago, in June 2009. We walk right by each other sometimes and he doesn't say anything to me. I'd like to keep it that way.



As for bullies I had in Elementary school, sure. After all, we were just little kids.
 
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