Would you date someone way older/younger than you?
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coyote
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sorry, you'll have to repeat it
i was busy having adult relations with my very sexy 54 year old girlfriend
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userremoved
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Y'all nasty =\
ScaredToBreathe
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whoa. a lot of arguments going on here! these are just personal opinions, so whether you agree with them or not you should still respect them, we aren't making official laws on dating here!
Age does NOT define maturity, intelligence, physical development or anything else. It is an idicator of the developmental stages most people go through at that time in life. For example, most people hit puberty around the ages of 13 to 18, but it could be younger or older for another individual. (just using "puberty" as one of the stages a person goes through in their life.)
So, what I'm saying is that people develop and learn at different rates; a 10 year old girl may act, think, and look like her 15 year old sister. Or the other way around.
A 25 year old man could use and hurt a 15 year old girl as much as a 15 year old boy could. It depends on their personality and how they feel about the girl that makes them act the way they do, not necessarily their age.
I'm not saying that all teenagers/minors should go out and date all the 20 and 30 year olds, because they are often at different stages. The younger people are still in school and should be making the best of their childhood and not rushing off to the "adult world" and the older people probably have careers and want different things like a family and marriage.
BUT, if a young person and an older person really have true feelings for each other and love to be together, and they will wait until an acceptable time that they are both ready for marriage or intimacy or a family, then they should have the freedom to be with each other.
The thing is, many people are emotionally immature. If 2 people are emotionally mature I think their relationship can work no matter their age. For example, my brother is in his 20s and he is not emotionally mature. When he had a girlfriend he told her that he loved her (which pissed me off cause he has NO clue what love is and he was clearly infatuated) and he always called her his girlfriend, instead of her name (she is not a possession she has a name), he was convinced he was going to marry her (slow down, this is your first girlfriend), and when she broke up with him he cried his heart out.
I never told my boyfriends I loved them and wasn't upset when they broke up with me. I know there will be more in the future and that the best time for me to get into a serious relationship is after im finished university or find a career. I know the difference between love, like, and infatuation. and I don't let guys use me.
It is not IMPOSSIBLE for a relationship to work out perfectly fine for someone very young and someone a lot older. However, in most cases it's best for people to date others around their age, give or take a few years.
Age does NOT define maturity, intelligence, physical development or anything else. It is an idicator of the developmental stages most people go through at that time in life. For example, most people hit puberty around the ages of 13 to 18, but it could be younger or older for another individual. (just using "puberty" as one of the stages a person goes through in their life.)
So, what I'm saying is that people develop and learn at different rates; a 10 year old girl may act, think, and look like her 15 year old sister. Or the other way around.
A 25 year old man could use and hurt a 15 year old girl as much as a 15 year old boy could. It depends on their personality and how they feel about the girl that makes them act the way they do, not necessarily their age.
I'm not saying that all teenagers/minors should go out and date all the 20 and 30 year olds, because they are often at different stages. The younger people are still in school and should be making the best of their childhood and not rushing off to the "adult world" and the older people probably have careers and want different things like a family and marriage.
BUT, if a young person and an older person really have true feelings for each other and love to be together, and they will wait until an acceptable time that they are both ready for marriage or intimacy or a family, then they should have the freedom to be with each other.
The thing is, many people are emotionally immature. If 2 people are emotionally mature I think their relationship can work no matter their age. For example, my brother is in his 20s and he is not emotionally mature. When he had a girlfriend he told her that he loved her (which pissed me off cause he has NO clue what love is and he was clearly infatuated) and he always called her his girlfriend, instead of her name (she is not a possession she has a name), he was convinced he was going to marry her (slow down, this is your first girlfriend), and when she broke up with him he cried his heart out.
I never told my boyfriends I loved them and wasn't upset when they broke up with me. I know there will be more in the future and that the best time for me to get into a serious relationship is after im finished university or find a career. I know the difference between love, like, and infatuation. and I don't let guys use me.
It is not IMPOSSIBLE for a relationship to work out perfectly fine for someone very young and someone a lot older. However, in most cases it's best for people to date others around their age, give or take a few years.
lilmutegirl
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I would not date someone much younger than me (I think 2 years would be my limit). I have only dated on younger guy (by 1 year and 2 weeks). I didn't like him, so that didn't help...
My boyfriend is almost a decade older than me (I like to say 9.75 years). He is very mature, but also extremely laid-back, so he's perfect, in my eyes.
I don't think much about our age difference, since I just love being with him.
It probably helps that he doesn't look old...he's only pushing 40, though, I wouldn't expect him to look old anyway.
It is weird to think that he is 18 years older than my ex-husband's gf (my ex is 3 weeks older than me)...
My boyfriend is almost a decade older than me (I like to say 9.75 years). He is very mature, but also extremely laid-back, so he's perfect, in my eyes.
I don't think much about our age difference, since I just love being with him.
It probably helps that he doesn't look old...he's only pushing 40, though, I wouldn't expect him to look old anyway.
It is weird to think that he is 18 years older than my ex-husband's gf (my ex is 3 weeks older than me)...
awkwardamanda
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Just last night I was reading a thread in another forum about two site members announcing their plans to get married. He's like, twice her age! She's in her thirties and he's in his seventies. o_0 Ew!! People were mostly congratulating them. Personally, I was disgusted. I couldn't imagine ever having a decent sex life in that situation. Ok, I couldn't imagine ever being a young adult and physically/sexually attracted to a senior. I couldn't imagine living life with the expectation of being a young widow. How could someone get into a relationship with someone well old enough to be their father?! Ugh, I just don't get it.
drewjanes
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ummm for me, i unno it kinda, matters like.... id date some one a few years younger, and a few years older, im 21 now, and id date 18 up and id date 25 down. but as i get older those numbers will probably stay in sync with my age.
18 21 25
20 23 29
20 25 32
and thats as far into the future as i can think ahah
18 21 25
20 23 29
20 25 32
and thats as far into the future as i can think ahah
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Beatrice
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10 year old girls looking like 15 year olds?
12-14 years old and can pass by adults?
Anyone really saw this?
I must not get out much.....
LOL
This is my favorite post in this thread
10 year old girls looking like 15 year olds?
12-14 years old and can pass by adults?
Anyone really saw this?
I must not get out much.....
I don't get out much either, but I have seen 15 year olds that could pass for 20 or so, just a matter of dress and make-up. My own sister looked 16 at 12 and took advantage of that fact, and was pregnant by an older man by the time she was 16...
Section_31
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Here is one reason i dont think its a good idea.
Richardson family murders - Wikipedia, the free encyclopedia
This girl was 12 or 13 and was dating a 23 yr old guy, and they murdered her whole family because they were trying to stop them from seeing eachother. My dad was very good friends with this girls dad who was killed.
Now, that said, this is obviously a very extreme case and i wouldnt at all say this would happen in allrelationships of this nature, but i think its asking for trouble nonetheless.
Richardson family murders - Wikipedia, the free encyclopedia
This girl was 12 or 13 and was dating a 23 yr old guy, and they murdered her whole family because they were trying to stop them from seeing eachother. My dad was very good friends with this girls dad who was killed.
Now, that said, this is obviously a very extreme case and i wouldnt at all say this would happen in allrelationships of this nature, but i think its asking for trouble nonetheless.
Agent_Violet
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unbelievable. they killed her parents AND her little brother. And she's getting out in 2015 with a college education that she obtained behind bars. UGH these things make me SO ANGRY!!!
She has no right to a life now...her poor little 8 yr old brother has no life at all bc of her and her stupid boyfriend...why should she get to be free???
sorry for the hijack...this stuff is just pure evidence of our broken the justice system truly is these days.
She has no right to a life now...her poor little 8 yr old brother has no life at all bc of her and her stupid boyfriend...why should she get to be free???
sorry for the hijack...this stuff is just pure evidence of our broken the justice system truly is these days.
Dead_on_Arrival
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If that was in the UK she would have got a slap on the wrist and sent to an open young offenders institute and sent on holiday. Justice sucks these days.
da_illest101
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My dad was watching that story on tv the other day. She got off to easily seriously. I rarely wish bad things to someone but I wish she has the most horrible life ever
I know, I tend to think 15 and up is where it gets confusing,but I am training,and everybody(guys)should as well,btw are you sure the guy didnt know she was 12 years old or younger than 16,I find it hard to believe.
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Only got 2 wrong,which were legal and I thought they were ilegal btw.
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Dead_on_Arrival
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Reading this thread I have noticed one thing.
Guys predominantly like younger women.
Women predominantly like older men.
Should my marriage fail for any reason at least I know that when I'm older (mid to late 40's) I'll be more attractive to younger women (within tolerable reason, 10/15 years). Now show me an older man who would not take that opportunity. Few and far between.
Guys predominantly like younger women.
Women predominantly like older men.
Should my marriage fail for any reason at least I know that when I'm older (mid to late 40's) I'll be more attractive to younger women (within tolerable reason, 10/15 years). Now show me an older man who would not take that opportunity. Few and far between.