Why are people so cold?

[emre43]

I was with a friend of mine at college and I was in a daydream staring at this girl that I really like. A blonde girl behind me asked "Do you like her?" To which I replied "Yes". She then said "Why? She's so flat-chested". I told her that "It's not the size of her chest that attracts me to her". My friend next to me then said "I've got to admit I find women with flat chests disgusting". This really angered me as she is the kindest, sweetest, loveliest (sp?) girl that I have ever met. If only I knew how to flirt with girls and ask them out I would have a long time ago as I think she likes me too. She's the most beautiful woman that I have ever seen. But the blonde girl that I mentioned earlier said that "I'm not a proper man as proper men prefer a challenge" in reference to the size of her chest. I adore this woman and yet I feel so sorry for her. She wouldn't say anything bad about anybody and wouldn't hurt a fly and yet there are people who don't care how personal and nasty they are behind her back. She's worth a million of the girl behind me and the person that I called a friend.

Edit: Can I just add that I don't even think that she is flat-chested. She has noticable breasts but they're just below average size.

 

[fitftw]

You should go talk to the flat-chested girl. College kids are still extremely immature. Some people NEVER grow up, but most people do it between the ages of 25-30.

 

[Section_31]

People are morons.

Talk to her. Dont listen to your friends. Follow your heart, it wont steer you wrong.
People are too obsessed with appearance.

 

[coyote]

wait,.... this IS 2011, right?

did these people just crawl out from under a rock?

didn't we put all those old stupid stereotypes to rest a long time ago?

or does each new generation breed a whole new set of idiots?

 

[emre43]

wait,.... this IS 2011, right?

did these people just crawl out from under a rock?

didn't we put all those old stupid stereotypes to rest a long time ago?

or does each new generation breed a whole new set of idiots?

I know, I can't believe it, words are beyond me.

 

[BlackPuma]

Well, you know what she's worth. That's all that really matters. It would be nice if others would be less judgmental, and recognize beauty beyond their simplistic standards,or what they have been told, so that we could actually work toward having some kind of equality/harmony regardless of looks, status, sex, religion or sexuality.

But unfortunately, that seems to be impossible with the current human biological programming. It's better to take pride in that you're not like that.

 

[LazyHermitCrab]

go out with her and show them your in charge not their opinions

 

[da_illest101]

wow some people are idiots, personally i love big breast, but I have been interested in so many flat chested girls in my life lol. Screw them and go fo it

 

[emre43]

go out with her and show them your in charge not their opinions

I would love to, I just don't know what to say. any tips?

 

[Agent_Violet]

does each new generation breed a whole new set of idiots?

^this. every generation has the same set of idiots with different faces and names.

 

[LazyHermitCrab]

I would love to, I just don't know what to say. any tips?

you can say hey i heard this new movie is coming out it looks scary, would you be interested in seeing it with me?.... since it's halloween month it would work great. Then watch it together and maybe get ice cream after and take a walk.. the walk is pretty important though since you have to talk on the date and not just watch the movie.. innocent and sweet then plan on a seeing a concert for the next date and something more activity like

 

[emre43]

you can say hey i heard this new movie is coming out it looks scary, would you be interested in seeing it with me?.... since it's halloween month it would work great. Then watch it together and maybe get ice cream after and take a walk.. the walk is pretty important though since you have to talk on the date and not just watch the movie.. innocent and sweet then plan on a seeing a concert for the next date and something more activity like

Sounds good, I think I'm going to give it a go. I've got myself into the mindset that I'm not going to die if it goes wrong and anyway you don't get the apple if you don't shake the tree. I've got a lesson with her tomorrow, I'll try to speak to her then. I just hope that I can pluck up the courage...

 

[fitftw]

I believe it was South Park that brought to light the fact that at LEAST 25% of people are retarded in regards to intelligence/intellect.

 

[WeirdyMcGee]

Ohhh... that was really rude...
Some people will make fun of a girl for ANY reason - be it an aspect of her personality; her intelligence level; her looks;--- I get the chest thing alot.
If someone can't find anything else to pick out about me, they'll make fun of my 'flat chest'.

I always said; "Well~ you can 'fix' a flat chest and get implants-- but you can't fix a ****ty personality."
I wouldn't get implants, but it's just a saying...
There will always be mean people out there. Always. Always idiots... all you can do is try your best to skim past them.

Talk to that girl!
You've got a whole forum behind you.

 

[Silatuyok]

But the blonde girl that I mentioned earlier said that "I'm not a proper man as proper men prefer a challenge" in reference to the size of her chest.

I've never heard breasts referred to in terms of being challenging. What a strange statement.

 

[twiggle]

It would be nice if others would be less judgmental, and recognize beauty beyond their simplistic standards,or what they have been told, so that we could actually work toward having some kind of equality/harmony regardless of looks, status, sex, religion or sexuality.

Precisely.

I do wonder if peoples' judgments about chest size and all the other variables within our image and personality are cast from what they believe to be more aesthetically or emotionally pleasing, or just what society tells them is.

 

[u_name]

Wow, what a misogynistic society we live in. Boys as young as 11 are obsessed with girls and women, they're obsessed with 'faulting' them. I think it was before the summer, they were going round asking the girls in my friendship group what their cup size was. And of course, my 'friends' buy into it too. So when I refused to tell them what mine was, Mareyah (mentioned her before, the girl who gets picked on for being 5ft and 'a midget') told them!
Does it truly exert their masculinity to pick on a woman on her own? When you're in a group,too?
I see the boys outside Challoner school in my area, they sit and wait for the bus to come (of course, in groups) and will shout at women who pass. 'Fat!' 'Ugly!' 'Boobs are too small!' 'Too short!' 'Too pasty and ugly!' 'Spotty!'
Christ, where does it end.

I'm all for bringing people down a peg or two if they're arrogant+self obsessed +deluded. It's justified sometimes....But if you're picking on a stranger just walking past you on their way to somewhere, why must you sit in a group and call out to her?


Sorry. Go for it. Talk to her.

Very simple. Being in a group gives you more confidence in doing a lot of things. The reason is they don't have the balls to do it on their own.

Also, you should talk to her.

 

[vj288]

I have to wonder why the blonde haired girl would say that, I'd like to believe it's not just because she's a cold and heartless person. Maybe she's jealous of her, or insecure with herself in some way and does this to raise herself (presuming she does not have small breasts). It seems odd to me she'd just ask you that out of the blue, it seems as if she had a goal in mind when saying it. There's no chance she likes you, or your friend by any chance? This whole interactions seems to me like her building up positive qualities about herself and instilling negative qualities in her "competition." And you know your friend better than I do, but him agreeing with her sounds more like a him complimenting the blonde haired girl than insulting the less-busty girl (indirectly, the way he worded it is an insult obviously). I still don't approve of their comments at all, but that's just my take on what may have been going on.

 

[MrJones]

I think I will never understand people... but for things like this it makes me wonder if I really want to.

You should go and talk to the girl (I couldn't tell what to do exactly, I have no idea what to say to women ) and just try to ignore the other girls.

...disgusting?? Disgusting is someone who thinks that way, in my opinion.

I think every kind of women can be pretty, no matter if they have small or big breasts, if they are fat, thin, tall, short, blonde, brunette, or from Mars. Not saying that everyone is beautiful in my eyes, I'm not going to lie, but having small breasts doesn't make you less attractive at all.

 

[Metal_isthe_Answer]

or does each new generation breed a whole new set of idiots?

Well, yeah, definitely.