Who is the "Real" you

[Pacific_Loner]

I'm just curious. I see a lot of people here talking about the "real" you, saying that you wish you could show it up instead of this shy, introvert, probably boring "fake" you.

I sometimes wonder if this "real" person we are refering to is really what we are, or just what we wish we could be.

 

[Bustn Justin]

I am 31 and still have no idea of who I really am.

When I was younger I was always put down for my interests and felt for me to be social I needed to be someone else. Being someone else is alot of work so I decided to keep to myself and not do anything.

Now I am at the age I am confused and totally anxious to try new things becuase I fear disapproval and/or failure.

 

[coyote]

i like to think i'm "multi-faceted"

different people in different situations

but all part of the "real" me

 

[Nouveau]

I've thought about that, too, but I've come to the conclusion that the 'real' me is me.
The real me is pretty much exactly how I am with social anxiety (I think I'll always be the quiet, thinking, sarcastic, bookish type), but if it wasn't in the way I know I'd be much more happy, talk a lot more, be funny, go everywhere, do everything and I'd probably never stay in one place too long.

Social anxiety (and depression, in a way) just makes me feel so awkward, afraid and sad, I don't feel I can really be like that.

 

[Iluv]

The real me is just a confused, unorganized and odd human being. But I can find the good things in it I guess.

 

[Steppen-Wolf]

The day I can answer that question truthfully, is the day I will be cured.

 

[awkwardamanda]

I honestly don't want people to know the real me. It's not that I'm being fake around people, either. It's just that nobody sees that much of me. Different people know different things, but nobody gets to know all of me. And unless I meet some amazing person that actually makes me feel comfortable, then I'd like to keep it that way. Generally, people aren't worth opening up to.

 

[Shyangel]

Someone who's mushy and spiritual with alot of dreams and aspirations.
So keen to have fun that I'll jump off a roof if it will give me excitement.
That last one might be true already. Of course, though, my anxiety makes me seem afraid to have fun, so I guess that's what this is about.

I'm not sure, though. I haven't experienced much in life, so I don't really have a clue who I am.

 

[lurknomore]

I have no idea. I'm not even sure if I want to know, much less let other people find out.

 

[LazyHermitCrab]

My real self is introvert mostly but I wanna feel comfortable around people. I want to say my thoughts clearly. My voice changes when I go out so would like to just have my normal voice, that would be realllly great

 

[KiaKaha]

If I wasnt so unconfident and shy - people would see that I only have peoples best interests at heart. I think I would probably gain a lot of respect and people would open up to me more easily and take me more seriously.

I also would be a lot more courageous when it comes to dealing with other people.... I would not be so concerned as to "overstepping my bounds" or potentially offending someone and combating this by being overly polite and courteous. I would be more firm with people, particularly if I sense they are taking advantage of me.

I would be friendlier, I would smile more, I wouldnt get hurt so easily, and I wouldnt let other peoples perception of me hold me back..

 

[razzle dazzle rose]

The real me will always be a work in progress. My depression and anxiety muddy things a bit; but overcoming them will make me a stronger person.

 

[doubtmyself]

The Unreal Me... is far more interesting!!

 

[Aletheia]

dance

defined by the space I'm in
relative to
the world around me

moment by moment

 

[Pyrophosphate]

The "real" me is the anxious, quiet, unsocial, unexpressive introvert everybody knows me as.

 

[WeirdyMcGee]

dunno!

...
yep.

 

[MikeyC]

The day I can answer that question truthfully, is the day I will be cured.

But even now you are the "real" you because what you're struggling with is all too real. The day you're cured will still be the real you.

 

[MrJones]

I don't know.

Probably no one,

And if not, I don't want to know anymore.

 

[doubtmyself]

Will the real me please stand up?::

Which one sir?

 

[hippiechild]

I'm kinda like the me that you see, but fuzzier... like a sorta blurry, smeary version that gradually becomes less and less opaque the farther you get from my center

some sort of trend gradient.

it also depends on what angle you look at me from, your individual perspective... my blurriness is a bit different looking, depending on what your own probability smear looks like from my personal perspective (which is only one of infinitely many)

so, who I am depends on who you are, depends on who I am... and a little bit like the overall "who WE are" which, of course, is blurry and varies slightly in the light.

ad nauseum..