Who is the "Real" you
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Pacific_Loner
Pirate from the North Pole
Siiick! You just quoted one of my favorite movies!!!
Very sad movie though.......
Yes this is a very relative question... :
:I changed so much in the last years, trying to infiltrate the system to be able to make a living, that I sometimes wonder if I caught myself in the game and killed "the real me" to let place to the "socially acceptable me"
ohheybbyitscorixx
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I consider myself like a chameleon. In different situations, I tend to take on the traits of people surrounding me. But, that in itself, is who I am. Some things like my anxiety and depression may be just traits, but it does contribute to who I am.
MikeyC
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That's very early to have your personality destroyed. :The real me is the person I was up until 8 years of age. Before my natural personality was destroyed.
Oh how I miss that person.:
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SilentBird
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I feel the "real" me when I connect with someone or something.
The real me is a quirky young man that likes to play, build and goof around- with a love for efficiency, and without the tendency to butcher nice things by pointing out its flaws.
The real me is also (unconsciously) highly receptive to behavioral patterns in others. I usually hide it because it makes me look like a demented, childish, stalker. Thus I feel the need to proof to others that I'm capable of complicated thought, and am not retarded or creepy in any way, hoping that both extremes will cancel each other out.
The real me is also (unconsciously) highly receptive to behavioral patterns in others. I usually hide it because it makes me look like a demented, childish, stalker. Thus I feel the need to proof to others that I'm capable of complicated thought, and am not retarded or creepy in any way, hoping that both extremes will cancel each other out.
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twiggle
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I was thinking about this the other day and in all honesty I think it's so complex a question that I'm not even going to begin to try and answer. It's complex, because people are complex!
We seem to have such rigid opinions of people based only on what we see and experience of them when in reality that is only one side of the story, with very limited information.
Is the 'real' us how people see us?
Is it how we feel about ourselves?
Is it what we want ourselves to be like?
The example I was thinking of in question was this... many people describe me as calm and laid back. But in my head I know that I often get very frustrated and even a bit angry sometimes. I don't show it because normally I just reason things out in my head and calm down again about whatever it.But sometimes I don't. I just remain feeling annoyed by it until I busy my mind with something else. Another day the same thing could happen and it doesn't bother me at all. So... am I laid back or not? I don't know. But it gets me thinking about how hard it is to really 'know' somebody. We build up opinions on people based on what we've seen and experienced but there's so much else we don't know about.
I could go on, but writing this is just making me even more confused.... I spend too much time than I should do trying to work myself out, not to mention trying to work other people out. Perhaps the conclusion is that there is just no definitive answer.
We seem to have such rigid opinions of people based only on what we see and experience of them when in reality that is only one side of the story, with very limited information.
Is the 'real' us how people see us?
Is it how we feel about ourselves?
Is it what we want ourselves to be like?
The example I was thinking of in question was this... many people describe me as calm and laid back. But in my head I know that I often get very frustrated and even a bit angry sometimes. I don't show it because normally I just reason things out in my head and calm down again about whatever it.But sometimes I don't. I just remain feeling annoyed by it until I busy my mind with something else. Another day the same thing could happen and it doesn't bother me at all. So... am I laid back or not? I don't know. But it gets me thinking about how hard it is to really 'know' somebody. We build up opinions on people based on what we've seen and experienced but there's so much else we don't know about.
I could go on, but writing this is just making me even more confused....
I spend too much time than I should do trying to work myself out, not to mention trying to work other people out. Perhaps the conclusion is that there is just no definitive answer.
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vj288
not actually Fiona Apple
I was thinking about this the other day. The "real" me is made up of many qualities, including many that are undefined as of yet. As far as this question is concerned I tend to gravitate toward the qualities I feel are repressed, that I would exhibit if I didn't have anything holding me back for reasons x, y, and z.
I am someone who strives to be different, unique, original - to almost to a fault at times. I feel different is better, and act in accordance. Makes me a bit quirky, off beat. Not spontaneous, more spontaneous than I am now, but I still think things though. I'd always take a risk if it gave me a chance to be outside the box, anything but is boring.
I would take advantage of my cleverness and wit, using it regularly in my speech. The peanut gallery - I wouldn't want to be the center of attention but my presence would be known. I'd come off as such, as well as intelligent and funny. It would also come with an undesired air of "I'm better than you." It's hard to poke fun at others without doing so - it would all be in jest though. Maybe a rationalization, as it would bolster my self-esteem. Another double edged quality.
I would be more curious, in a way that will make me look very silly at times. It's not a bad thing, plays into the quirkiness. I'd want to know things, and in turn for me to be known.
I'd still be mysterious and secretive. That is something that is part of the "real" me that everyone sees. That shroud of mystery surrounding me is something that adds to me, not knowing is in fact is knowing me, as I still don't really know myself. Still cautious, and always acting as if I knew what I was doing. I will still be concerned with how people perceive me, that is always important to me. Trying to be my best at everything I do will reflect that.
I'm not sure though, I suppose it could just be this. It's at least who I "feel" the real me would be.
I am someone who strives to be different, unique, original - to almost to a fault at times. I feel different is better, and act in accordance. Makes me a bit quirky, off beat. Not spontaneous, more spontaneous than I am now, but I still think things though. I'd always take a risk if it gave me a chance to be outside the box, anything but is boring.
I would take advantage of my cleverness and wit, using it regularly in my speech. The peanut gallery - I wouldn't want to be the center of attention but my presence would be known. I'd come off as such, as well as intelligent and funny. It would also come with an undesired air of "I'm better than you." It's hard to poke fun at others without doing so - it would all be in jest though. Maybe a rationalization, as it would bolster my self-esteem. Another double edged quality.
I would be more curious, in a way that will make me look very silly at times. It's not a bad thing, plays into the quirkiness. I'd want to know things, and in turn for me to be known.
I'd still be mysterious and secretive. That is something that is part of the "real" me that everyone sees. That shroud of mystery surrounding me is something that adds to me, not knowing is in fact is knowing me, as I still don't really know myself. Still cautious, and always acting as if I knew what I was doing. I will still be concerned with how people perceive me, that is always important to me. Trying to be my best at everything I do will reflect that.
I'm not sure though, I suppose it could just be this. It's at least who I "feel" the real me would be.