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lynear

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So many things. At this moment I'm holding back tears because tomorrow I turn 31, and my life is shittier than ever. I have no friends, I have no one that understands what it's like, I have extreme hyperhidrosis that makes it hard for me to even go outside and interact with anyone, or touch anything, even as simple as a receipt....I feel like an alien. I feel like I don't belong here. I'm doing my best to "fake it" when I have to, but it's hard. I can't talk to people, I don't know what to say. My family thinks I'm strange; they have always made fun of me. I have no solace.

I'm scared to death that this is my life, that this is it, forever.
 
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jaim38

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It really bothers me that when a married guy cheats with a woman, the woman gets all the blame but the guy is virtually blameless. I was watching this drama where the rich married man cheated with another woman and had a child with her. The woman and her daughter were ridiculed and labeled as "homebreakers" for breaking apart the man's marriage. The woman denied the claim because she said the man loved her, not his wife. I was watching both sides shooting each other down and the entire time, I was thinking, "why aren't they blasting the man? He's a cheater and played 2 women." This show made him look like an angel. They paint the cheating guy as an innocent man caught between b*tches. I'm disappointed. Makes me wonder, are the directors biased or something?

The cheating woman always gets the bad rap, but let me tell ya, it takes 2 to tango. The cheating wouldn't happen without the man's consent. The man has just as much blame in this affair as the woman.

Just saying, if I had a boyfriend/husband and I catch him cheating with another woman and impregnating her, I would break up with/divorce him before he could even bat an eye! The lead male characters in that show are so disrespectful, dishonest, and unfaithful. And the women don't even realize they're being manipulated! SOmetimes I want to grab them and shake some sense into them!
 
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Blackeberg

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jaim38 said:
It really bothers me that when a married guy cheats with a woman, the woman gets all the blame but the guy is virtually blameless. I was watching this drama where the rich married man cheated with another woman and had a child with her. The woman and her daughter were ridiculed and labeled as "homebreakers" for breaking apart the man's marriage. The woman denied the claim because she said the man loved her, not his wife. I was watching both sides shooting each other down and the entire time, I was thinking, "why aren't they blasting the man? He's a cheater and played 2 women." This show made him look like an angel. They paint the cheating guy as an innocent man caught between b*tches. I'm disappointed. Makes me wonder, are the directors biased or something?

The cheating woman always gets the bad rap, but let me tell ya, it takes 2 to tango. The cheating wouldn't happen without the man's consent. The man has just as much blame in this affair as the woman.

Just saying, if I had a boyfriend/husband and I catch him cheating with another woman and impregnating her, I would break up with/divorce him before he could even bat an eye! The lead male characters in that show are so disrespectful, dishonest, and unfaithful. And the women don't even realize they're being manipulated! SOmetimes I want to grab them and shake some sense into them!
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Honestly, most married women encourage that sort of mindset and view their husbands as some victim of a scarlet woman out to 'steal' their man. 'Stealing' implies property, and lack of freewill. Men have freewill and they are no one's property...it stems from the idea that males have no control over their sexuality and will shag anything with the slightest encouragement, it's not their fault, it's biological - however, women who sleep with married men are *****s who are abusing their power. I personally believe that no one is obligated to respect a relationship/marriage if the people in it don't, and I know if a man ever cheated on me, I'd despise the woman but I'd lay the blame entirely on him.
 
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jaim38

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Big game backlash: Protests against celebrity hunter Melissa Bachman mount

I can understand why people are angry/outraged at big game hunters like Melissa Bachman, but I cannot understand why people worship Katniss from the Hunger Games. Both hunters/killers look very similar. If you look at the pictures from the article, Melissa looks a lot like Katniss, with the dark brunette braids and posing with a weapon. They're both hunters, the only difference being that Melissa kills only animals but Katniss kills both humans (children, by the way) and animals. I know Katniss is being driven to kill out of necessity, while Melissa kills for fun. I'm ok with Katniss being admired for her strength, courage, etc, but what I don't get is why Katniss is being WORSHIPPED like some sort of goddess, why people even want to be like her. Personally, I think killing other humans/children is a horrible thing, not something to be proud of/ given medals for.
 
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Silatuyok

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I'm dog tired but I have to get up off my butt and change into some respectable clothing to go out and socialize for a few hours. :crying: I just want to relax at home and go to bed!
 
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Odo

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jaim38 said:
I can understand why people are angry/outraged at big game hunters like Melissa Bachman, but I cannot understand why people worship Katniss from the Hunger Games.
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Because one of them is real and the other is a character from a book that people read for amusement?
 
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Odo

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Nearly every time I read an article about global warming not being real/manmade, I google whoever wrote it and usually find that they have ties to the oil/gas business.

Yesterday I read a 'global warming isn't real/manmade' article written by a man who was basically a professional propagandist, and had also worked on a campaign to try to get people to think that second-hand smoke wasn't poisonous. This campaign was sponsored by the tobacco industry. I read it in Forbes.

The day before that, there was one written by a woman who was the head of a privately funded 'free market' group that turned a $2 million profit each year by spreading pro-natural gas pro-oil propaganda. This was in the Globe and Mail.

Neither of these people were in the 'opinion' section... they were called 'contributors' and 'columnists', AKA, they've probably paid the newspeople a certain amount of money in order to be taken more seriously than 'opinion' writers.

It's not so much that these articles exist, it's that they exist alongside legitimate information and it's a huge hassle to have to track these people down and figure out what they're all about.

There should be a law forcing these people to explain themselves and where they're coming from, because I don't think that most people would bother to check them out... one of the big flaws of letting information flow freely is that there's just so much ridiculous junk and propagandists who don't play fair can always scream louder and get more attention than the people worth listening to.
 
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jaim38

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There's this cop at school who helped me out with directions and stuff. According to the clerk, he is a nice guy who tries to help people. When I saw him afterwards, I just couldn't say hi to him, at all. I just kept walking and pretending to not notice. He probably got kinda hurt.

Here's my problem: I can't say hi unless they make an effort to say hi to me first. I don't have enough courage and confidence to take the initiative to greet someone else first. When they say hi to me, though, I say it back to them. I also don't like calling attention to myself, and I especially dislike yelling "hello" to people at a far distance.

Another issue I'm having: I am scared of people seeing me with my mom, especially at school. Case in point: Yesterday, I was done with the practice presentation so I went to get my mom. When we turned to leave, I suddenly met up with 2 of my teammates, who were heading to the elevators. I immediately ditch the elevators and went for the stairs, with my mom following suit.

Today, I went to get my mom as usual. My teammates took the elevators so I took the stairs with my mom. We ended up walking behind the teammates. I didn't dare talk much to my mom while we were walking. When we got the garage, I finally breathed a sigh of relief.
 
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hardy

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morning all

The fact that simple tasks are making me Anxious..! I find it hard to sit for meditation...have a lack of enthusiasm towards almost anything. Feel like sleeping all day. Angry at the present situation. Do i take the pill to ease some of the anxiety? Meet a professional?

Is doing meditation, exercise etc with expectations making me more anxious? The thoughts that i am getting...some times i feel like a pervert, then i feel like a bad omen for others. A beggar is happier than i am.

I am becoming stronger by taking hits...looking on the positive side...one day i might say it was all worth it. Phew...it isn't easy living with severe Anxiety. May i get some peace.

...sometimes i think i just cannot get rid of anxiety, its hopeless to fight it....learn to live with it. But the thought, how will i do everyday tasks with so much anxiety gives me hard time...need to accept and be patient.

wishing peace an strength to all of us.
 
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laure15

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hardy said:
morning all

The fact that simple tasks are making me Anxious..! I find it hard to sit for meditation...have a lack of enthusiasm towards almost anything. Feel like sleeping all day. Angry at the present situation. Do i take the pill to ease some of the anxiety? Meet a professional?
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I used to dread meditation because I couldn't sit still, at all. Several minutes into it, I would open my eyes look at the clock and wish for it to be over. So I gave up on it. But recently, I'm getting back on meditation again. This time, I have the actual desire/need to do it. My mind has been a mess lately that it's hard to concentrate with so many random thoughts clouding it.

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The fact that I'm turning down all these good guys because I just don't feel a connection.
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Same for me. I met good people but just couldn't connect with them. I'm sure it's the personality issue. I have an easier time connecting with quiet introverts.
 
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Phoenixx

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I want to hang out with a guy, but I don't know what to do or where to go. My face decided to break out overnight, it seems, and I feel ugly. Bleh. Put off making plans for one more day? I really don't feel like it but...
 
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jaim38

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I'm conflicted. Not sure if I should spend money to pay my student loans or get stuff for Christmas. If I use the money to pay my unsubsidized loans, I could lower the amount of interest and shave off a substantial portion of the principal now. The other alternative is using my money to buy an ipad, smartphone, travel, or invest in a start-up/buy some stocks maybe? I am not sure what to do! But one thing's for sure: I need to DO something. I can't sit and just be idle thinking all the time. How can I put the money to good use?
 
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Silatuyok

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jaim38 said:
I'm conflicted. Not sure if I should spend money to pay my student loans or get stuff for Christmas. If I use the money to pay my unsubsidized loans, I could lower the amount of interest and shave off a substantial portion of the principal now. The other alternative is using my money to buy an ipad, smartphone, travel, or invest in a start-up/buy some stocks maybe? I am not sure what to do! But one thing's for sure: I need to DO something. I can't sit and just be idle thinking all the time. How can I put the money to good use?
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My inclination would be to throw all the money at my debt and reap the long-term benefits of lowered interest rates. However, you never know if you're even going to have a long-term, so my second inclination would be to live it up as much as I can while still making sure my bills are paid on time. Can you split the money and pay off a little of your loan, and spend a little toward something fun?
 
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yC1590

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Relationship issues. I don't see why it's so hard to find a girl to love who will love me back. It shouldn't be this hard. Other than that, I'm ok atm. My depression hasn't come back in a few days.
 
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