what do you think - am i a 'nice guy'?
- Thread starter coyote
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Though, isn't it possible that these ''bad guys'' have good qualities to them? Maybe the type of girls that are attracted to them aren't attracted to them because they're jerks, but because they exert a form of strength and safety, and perhaps they even admire what kind of person he is. He could even be very nice in private.
We really shouldn't force standards onto people. Even if all women and girls were attracted to bad guys, and I put great emphasis on ''if'', we would have no right to tell them they shouldn't. The mere notion that feeling attracted to bad guys would be a bad thing on any level is quite disrespectful. We might not like it, but that's a completely separate element to this story.
We really shouldn't force standards onto people. Even if all women and girls were attracted to bad guys, and I put great emphasis on ''if'', we would have no right to tell them they shouldn't. The mere notion that feeling attracted to bad guys would be a bad thing on any level is quite disrespectful. We might not like it, but that's a completely separate element to this story.
Nanita
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bcsr
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Very good point. But again, I typically only see that attitude expressed by guys who are unlucky in love. It's easy to become bitter, and it's even easier to blame someone else rather than address personal shortcomings.
In all seriousness, I couldn't seriously call you a 'nice guy' because you're a Coyote :thinking:....but you're a very nice Coyote. You haven't hunted anyone here's livestock that I know of and neither have you bitten any human here, in fact, you've given some very sound advice to many, I'd say you're an outstanding nice Coyote.
KiaKaha
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Nah. I think it would actually.
Just ask that same question to anyone who wishes to assert anything about themselves to anyone else in any other kind of context. But I hear what you are trying to say.
Saying that you are a nice person does not mean that you aren't actually nice - or what have you.
KiaKaha
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That is pretty much what VJ was saying I think. And that isn't really the kind of person that I am describing. I am talking about *******s. Abusive inconsiderate wankers that think only of themselves - and all that jazz. But you are quite right - no one has the right to dictate the kind of person they wish to be with. Be with whoever you want. If you make your bed lie in it.
Well of course that attitude is expressed by guys who are unlucky in love - just like how anything is expressed by anyone who can't achieve satisfaction or happiness in other areas of life. Why would anybody complain or feel bad about anything if you always got what you desired? This forum is full of examples - but that doesn't mean that there is not some truth to it - nor has it got anything to do with personal short comings or blaming others.
I mean if that is our attitude - hell, you may as well get rid of this forum altogether.
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bcsr
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How is that a relevant response to what I said? You can be unhappy without blaming your unhappiness on other people.
KiaKaha
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It is perfectly relevant. Yes. Just as much as unhappiness and blaming (if that is the word you want to use) can be brought about by others. If you can't understand the relevance, then I don't think I have the patience to explain it to you further.
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They just lost there modesty = not so nice.
Why do you defend the nice guy syndrome so much? Do you deem yourself a 'nice guy'? God! For myself I certainly don't lol
I think I'm pretty average in the good vs bad traits.
But where is the yardstick? One mans nice may be another mans nasty.
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Don't worry about it Coy because you're just you. All this 'nice guy' category stuff is just a load of tosh really. People are people. How nice you're perceived to be depends on each respondent's individual interaction with you. Nobody's 100%nice. Everybody has the ability to be nice and not nice.
What I will say is you're a very likeable guy
And much loved on spw
What I will say is you're a very likeable guy
And much loved on spw
bcsr
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It's not relevant at all. It's not the girls fault that they aren't attracted to the guy. You expect the girl to change what she looks for in a guy to suit what you want?
MikeyC
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Hellhound
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I think a lot of guys here are awfully confused.
Girls are not attracted to jerks. I don't understand why the term "bad boy" is associated with "wife beater".
Just because a guy looks big, muscular, confident and wears shades it doesn't mean he beats his girlfriend. You "nice guys" wouldn't like to be viewed as weak and unconfident, right? Then why doing that to others? Besides, like it or not, you can't tell women what they should or should not like. They aren't obligated to be attracted to you just because you claim to be "nice".
Hellhound
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He doesn't attack humans. His main and only target is Road Runner.
MikeyC
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Exactly.
Being nice is a good quality, but it's not the totality of a man's desirability. What can you do with that niceness? Going up to a woman and declaring how nice you are is not going to win her over, but showing her how nice you can be might.
Lea
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Some men say "I am nice, but it is of no use to me, women just overlook me for the bad guys, I am so fed up with it, so I will too turn into ******* and show everyone how bad I can be". How the crap someone really nice would say that?? Why this bargaining, are they nice just for the sake of getting something out of it? Why not just be nice without expecting any reward? I really don´t think if these guys have difficulty getting women that it´s because they are nice. They just may not be someone´s type or there can be so many reasons. I don´t know why to assume straight away that it´s because they´re nice. I am a woman and consider myself quite nice too, haha, but if someone doesn´t like me I wouldn´t blame it on that. Even if it was the case, then that´s their problem. I understand if I´m not someone´s type though, which is a bit something else.
Hellhound
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Actions speak louder than words.