I re-approved the thread. Try not to attack each other. To me this sounds like some SA style paranoia about people's intentions that is totally off base. I have SA and have irrational thoughts too. The thing is recognizing they are irrational.
I hope we can have a reasonable respectful dialogue without getting flamey and attacky. Woohoo!
The Problem is the OP already puts ppl on a defensive and attacks ppl and makes irrational claims with no proof, despite at the core an important message which Remus just said.
A lot of people are excluded and deliberately rubbed up the wrong way on this forum.
Just for the fun of it.
For the lulz.
I don't think meticulous post preparation is to blame.
I am sorry you feel or felt these ways but where's the proof to your claims aside from just paranoia? I don't mean to belittle your comments by saying that - I'm extremely paranoid about social things, MANY of us are - but what we think we see isn't always what's seen. That's our SA! What it does to us. Such ppl doing as you say should be dealt with or looked into or reported... you make it sound as though it's a conspiracy.
Now to the general OP - People are going to get hurt regardless - ppl are going to feel left out. That doesn't mean we cannot be more aware and open to ppl who are new and less vocal. It's easy to put blinders on. There's only so much we all can do, that's part of being a community. Ppl who've been here longer of course get more comfortable and open and know ppl better of course are going to be more "chatty" or "bubbly". Does that negate THEIR issues less? Make them socially capable because they can be more communicative online and don't need help others need more... that's just salacious and personally offensive. I know members who have severe SA and spent months saying nothing, working up to communicate here and post a lot now... nothings exactly as it may seem on the outset.
Many people try to be open and welcoming FAR more than not. 90% of us are here for a REASON. It's not to make others feel bad and us better. I believe yes, I've seen ppl get off on tangents in a thread, perhaps could be done elsewhere, but it's not intentionally leaving others out.
At some point there's only so much other members can do, the rest is up to you. I myself have hot and cold moments here ... it's hard to communicate and sometimes easier and sometimes I can seemingly feel left out so to speak. I seemingly communicate well and am more "social" here, and would fall into the OP's category. BUT trust me I am not slick or anything in RL I am not at all as communicative or "bubbly". On the inside Im dying... or can feel that way... that's the key, feel that way, I know it's really not other's intent or have EVER felt ppl rub me for kicks those who do are OBVIOUS usually and get banned.
My issues shouldn't be belittled because of that JUST like the OP says less vocal, timid at first and newer ppl shouldn't either.
We're all (or most) here to feel acknowledged. To socially get support and interact with ppl who can relate with our problems and not feel so judged and be honest and open. But this isn't a swiss clockwork - we're all human (maybe Im not, so most of us anyways
It's human nature to BE social, form cliques, despite our anxieties, why else would we be here... and certain ppl gravitating towards others is NATURAL... nothing wrong with that...
deliberately excluding ppl and "rubbing" ppl the wrong way INTENTIONALLY REQUIRES PROOF and examples, making that generalized claim just puts oil on a fire... and genuinely the majority of ppl are trying to help I think. I think it's more ppl just "forget" -
ppl have different levels and issues, which CANNOT merely be categorized post counts and communication. It's NOT that simple. I don't think any alienation of members is intentional.
At the end of the day, ppl can make others feel welcome only so much, it's up to that person to make the next step.
It’s not what happens to us, but our response to what happens to us that hurts us. Kinda BS, kinda truth.
We all can forget what it's like to be a new person and ppl have varying levels of SA and issues. I do and forget... I try my best, not always, I have my mega issues, and I can post a lot, and be bubbly, and chatty, I guess, I TRY to include all I can and be friendly to new ppl, etc. and my quirky responses and certainly have my friends, and respond to them more but not out of devious intention, But I'm only prosimian
BUT I AM NOT BEING socially slick and networking or using this site for my own glee or fun - But we can make these forums a better place! And I think it's a fairly good place already that can get better.