While I try to express a "love everybody" mentality, I will often say it then act differently. This usually becomes not saying anything and avoiding eye contact; on the internet this usually manifests as me not getting too involved in any thread or user. However, like many others, closeness is what I really want. It's like my personality has an exoskeleton. A damn strong one too.
The thing about behaviors is that they can predict attitudes, but attitudes can't necessarily predict behavior. So while I try to love everyone and treat everyone the same, that is pretty much impossible. It is natural to give what you are comfortable with more of your time. I can't really say what the right thing to do would be because I don't have a clue. My best, and most frustrating, answer would be to try your best. Believe me, I wish I could say something more concrete, this is what gets my mind going in loops (What is my best? Why aren't I doing it? Is this my best? How do I make my best better? etc...)
Because I haven't allowed myself to get too close to anyone on this site I don't often feel comfortable posting anything anywhere. But I do because I hope that if I can get myself out there online and deal with whatever events/feelings that come from that I might also be able to do it in real life. My idea of freedom is being able to say what is on my mind, no mater how stupid it may sound, and not caring what others think. It is accepting myself including all my flaws and my ability to fix some of them.
This is why I started a journal thread. I can write whatever I want and don't have to worry about a continuing conversation, getting in the way, or saying something stupid. The downside is I don't get to know anyone. Every time I post in my journal I get anxious because I know that it will jump to the top of the home page and I know people might read it and judge me in some way. Yet at the same time I fear that no one else will post in it even though I'm not sure what I would do getting caught up in a conversation. Chances are I would spend too long coming back and posting that the other person would get disinterested and stop coming back. But then again, that is just the type of thought I have to keep me away from people.
I also fear posting in my journal because it feels like I am not helping anyone, therefore I am being selfish. It feels like I'm showcasing my egotism. I know this isn't necessarily true, but it's something I haven't been able to shake yet. I feel the same way about this post. Even though the instructions were to "feel free", I still feel like I am doing something wrong by centering my post on myself.
I often fear I ignore people, but I feel ignored myself just as much. Perhaps neither of these things are true and perhaps both are. I would certainly prefer the former, but then again I would probably come up with some twisted logic to make myself not believe it.