Good point.
If it's just a random girl that I don't even know - then no, I wouldn't give her a chance. If I do know her (and she doesn't have to be friends with me, e.g. she is just in the same class as me), then definitely yes.
The best way to approach Girls
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Good point.
If it's just a random girl that I don't even know - then no, I wouldn't give her a chance. If I do know her (and she doesn't have to be friends with me, e.g. she is just in the same class as me), then definitely yes.
I had one girl that made the first move, but the thing was I didn't even know her/ seen her before. I guess she was one of those who secretly watches from the background and then jumps when the pressure is too much. But, yea essentially I turned her down, you can't expect me to fall for someone I don't even know. I got a bag of goodies from it though
Yeah, well, I only said I wouldn't give a chance in that situation because it freaks me out when that happens. And even if I do know that person, she has to be someone who is very open/outgoing, or I'd be convinced that everything would be too awkward.
Edit: Heh, I think we are hijacking the thread with this discussion.lol
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Newtype
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Back in high skool I was with my friend and some girl came up to him and give him a love letter. He took the letter and ripped it in two right in front of her. She just walked back to where she came from all disappointed and my friend had a look in his face like he didn't care. In my head, I was thinking: "WTF!?" But I didn't say anything. I felt too embarassed being beside him. I'm not his friend anymore.
Moral of the story: Girls, if you're gonna make the first movie, make sure the guy is not evil first.
Moral of the story: Girls, if you're gonna make the first movie, make sure the guy is not evil first.
Eam
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Urgh! It's people like this who are messing things up for everyone. Sorry to hear about that experience.
Ladies, Serafina is leading the charge for a revolution, follow her lead!
Good for you too for not shying away, Eam.
Now to find Miss hypothetical who I'm already starting to get smitten with.
BlackKids
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I'd love to try that but can't help but think if It goes wrong its gunna be a disaster. Don't really wanna get pepper sprayed and labeled a sex offender. Then again think of the glory. If I pulled this off it would only be right to change my name to Alfie
If it weren't for girls who make the first move, I would probably have 0 experience with girls. :And I can assure you that there are plenty of ladies here that see things same as me as far as making the first move is concerned.
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coyote
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Whatever happened to the sexual revolution that leveled this playing field? Aren't men and women supposed to be equal now? Did this younger generation reverse all of that? Was it all a myth?
In 40 years - I have never been hit on by a woman....
Possible reasons:
1. There was no "sexual revolution" - that was just a hype product of popular media designed to sell consumer goods.
2. I'm so unattractive or unapproachable as to repulse all females I've encountered in 40 years.
3. I'm so obtuse or oblivious to social cues that I've been hit on countless times but didn't recognize it.
4. Perhaps I'm stunningly gorgeous, and women are so intimidated by my good looks that they are reluctant to approach me.
I think I'll go with the last one.
In 40 years - I have never been hit on by a woman....
Possible reasons:
1. There was no "sexual revolution" - that was just a hype product of popular media designed to sell consumer goods.
2. I'm so unattractive or unapproachable as to repulse all females I've encountered in 40 years.
3. I'm so obtuse or oblivious to social cues that I've been hit on countless times but didn't recognize it.
4. Perhaps I'm stunningly gorgeous, and women are so intimidated by my good looks that they are reluctant to approach me.
I think I'll go with the last one.
Newtype
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Ignace
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A Jaguar! Pfft! I'm only talking to him if he has a Ferrarri or a Lamborghini. I will take nothing less.
In all seriousness, I would be impressed with a nice car, the work and discipline that it took for someone to work to afford the nice car, but that doesn't mean that I'd be impressed with the person driving it if they were jerks. Especially if he (or she) is pretentious. A person who has to impress someone with things like cars, money, and ludicrously priced watches...clearly does not understand the true human value.
Not everyone who owns a Ferrari has worked for it.:
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mrb
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now people i keep telling you girls are no diff from us males , just diff bumps in diff places , we all just want someone nice we can relate to and share our lives with .... you just have to find someone that you enjoy spending time with ... then build up from there really .. OMG did i just do a sensible post jesus i must be slipping
Masychefx2
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i dont think its good for a woman to apporach a man, first thing comes to mind is damn she is desperate.
ありがとう
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It's the social norm to think guys should make the first move, make them seem more confident and more appealing (who knows?)... I think maybe we just think that way due to the influence of tv programs and mass media, as well as in science term that men are seen as the dominate species as oppose to female.
But technically that's not true, I have known girls who make the first moves and asked guys out. I wondered many times why the guy I liked never asked me out as it was plain obvious I liked him, so I asked him out. Turns out he fears rejection. Is that what all of you fear? Is that why you don't ask them out or make the move? I think a lot of people need to get over that, if it doesn't work out, it just doesn't, there's nothing to be ashamed about. I'd be happy to know a guy liked me even if I didn't return my feelings.
And best way to approach a girl? Just casually say "hi, nice to meet you, my name is..." Less awkward in my opinion, it just shows you're friendly... Or comment on something she has, something like "Oh, that book, I read it before..."
But technically that's not true, I have known girls who make the first moves and asked guys out. I wondered many times why the guy I liked never asked me out as it was plain obvious I liked him, so I asked him out. Turns out he fears rejection. Is that what all of you fear? Is that why you don't ask them out or make the move? I think a lot of people need to get over that, if it doesn't work out, it just doesn't, there's nothing to be ashamed about. I'd be happy to know a guy liked me even if I didn't return my feelings.
And best way to approach a girl? Just casually say "hi, nice to meet you, my name is..." Less awkward in my opinion, it just shows you're friendly... Or comment on something she has, something like "Oh, that book, I read it before..."
shore_of_glass
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If a woman made the move on me, I wouldn't care, although society can say you're a pussy because you need to approach women and not the other way around. Oh and, as I've never been approached by someone I'd like, I don't know if I would "black out" or something and push her away....
so yeah, I think I'd only hit on a woman in this life time if I was pretty drunk (and I've never been drunk). It sucks.
so yeah, I think I'd only hit on a woman in this life time if I was pretty drunk (and I've never been drunk). It sucks.
shore_of_glass
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ありがとう;291534 said:
yeah because fear is no big thing really
oh wait...
Felgen
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Short answer: No.
Long answer: How you say it is more important than what you say. A very confident person might pull it off with a cheesy pick-up line, but the vast majority of men (not just the social phobics) would not.