serafina is exactly right, always listen to her
lol
having the experience is one thing, but honestly, when it comes to sex, it's all so very unique depending on the person and your experience together, that it's always new no matter how many times you've done it.. and you can still be extremely knowledgeable without ever even doing it.... when i was 12-14, i reeeeeally thought i wanted to be a sex therapist when i grew up (ha!) i read up on cosmopolitan and all kinds of sex/sex doctor stuff like it was my job! ohhhh man.. i guess i still wouldn't mind doing that, but i've chosen psychology type therapy, lol..
anyway.. i'm highly self conscious as well.. which is pretty much why i don't currently have sex. i always use the excuse of "i don't have sex unless i'm in a relationship" with all of my little "make out buddies" (which explains my hella make out partners and 2 sexual parters, haha! when most of my friends are pretty up there in their "number".. i don't think any high number is something to brag about anyway, so i'm fine with my 2
) ...anyway! it's really because because i'm that girl that is constantly thinking "do i look fat?" "does he like me?" "does he like this?" "what's he looking at?" and it completely ruins everything for me =/ buzz kill!! so yeah, i've had enjoyable sex, but only with the guy i was in a relationship with and lived with, and that was because i was very comfortable with him.... so, like everyone's said, when you feel comfortable enough, you'll know and you'll be fine.. it's just about finding someone who really understands that, and no matter what you may think about guys, there
are some good ones out there who can understand that and they're more than willing to do whatever they can to make you feel comfortable
don't fret!