This really inspires me, thanks! I need to develop an attitude more like yours and accept myself and my life more. As you point out, it's a waste of time to worry about romance/sex...I need to keep in mind that if and when it's meant to happen, it will happen. I think if I didn't constantly compare myself to others I wouldn't feel so bad. There are so many people my age getting married, having babies...but it's ridiculous to use others as a measure of my own "normalcy".
Sexual inexperience makes me feel so bad
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This really inspires me, thanks! I need to develop an attitude more like yours and accept myself and my life more. As you point out, it's a waste of time to worry about romance/sex...I need to keep in mind that if and when it's meant to happen, it will happen. I think if I didn't constantly compare myself to others I wouldn't feel so bad. There are so many people my age getting married, having babies...but it's ridiculous to use others as a measure of my own "normalcy".
Do you think you've accepted it partly due to the fact that you've had trouble achieving it?
Okay, I must have missed something lol
Are you after sexual experience or the pleasure of sex ?
Kiwong
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I've never really tried, so I can honestly say I haven't had trouble achieving 'it.'
Rembrandt Broam
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It depends entirely on when you feel ready to tell him. It's not even as if you have to tell him. Your relationship will be with him, and him alone. Whether you've previously had relationships with 0, 10 or 100 guys should really have no bearing on your relationship with him.
hmm, how i missed when i' m in a relationship. Sigh!
Honda
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Dont give it much thought; everybody is horny at a young age... Dont give it too much importance or attention or you will wear your mind off...
rodinski
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haha, you'd be surprise. I am in fact a lot more hornier then average
In time, you'll grow a pair of horn on your forehead... lol
Probably
Damaged
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Don't feel abnormal
I'm sure that when you do come to a time when you feel comfortable it will be because you've found the right guy.
And tbh when it comes down to sexual stuff, you will just know what to do and it will honestly get better. I wouldn't worry about being inexperienced or being a virgin, you just have sex when you feel ready dont feel the need to rush, because other people are having sex.
I'm sure that when you do come to a time when you feel comfortable it will be because you've found the right guy.
And tbh when it comes down to sexual stuff, you will just know what to do and it will honestly get better. I wouldn't worry about being inexperienced or being a virgin, you just have sex when you feel ready dont feel the need to rush, because other people are having sex.
I'm sure you've done many things that some people haven't done, and maybe they're envious of that. Continuing to put pressure on yourself is a maintenance factor for anxiety, I know it's not intentional, but try to relax a little bit about it. Just go with your instincts in regards to when you're ready and when opportunities arise. It really isn't the end of the world, your time will come.
IamThisOne
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I don't think I could ever have a sexual experience with a girl because I am too shy. I don't even think I could make out with one. I tend to think about like the scientific aspects of stuff like that and it takes away the "magic".
For instance, if I were making out with a girl, I might be thinking, "Our mouths are locked together and our tongues are coming into contact with each other, saliva is being exchanged. There are wet noises."
I don't know maybe when you get into that sort of situation something happens to you where you don't focus on anything but the matter at hand. Sort of like when you are in a "dangerous" situation, your adrenaline takes over and some systems of your body shut down while others speed up in order for you to deal with the stress.
For instance, if I were making out with a girl, I might be thinking, "Our mouths are locked together and our tongues are coming into contact with each other, saliva is being exchanged. There are wet noises."
I don't know maybe when you get into that sort of situation something happens to you where you don't focus on anything but the matter at hand. Sort of like when you are in a "dangerous" situation, your adrenaline takes over and some systems of your body shut down while others speed up in order for you to deal with the stress.
Tiercel
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I foresee a future where you write romance novels for lonely female scientists. You might not make them weak in the knees, but you'll light up their brain scans like a Christmas tree.
lol Tiercel!!!
I think with the right girl, it can be magic...
Also, you don't have to kiss if you don't want to, some people just don't like it.. (me & Julia Roberts in Pretty Woman included)
So maybe you just need to find a girl that's fun and good to be with in all other aspects, and if anything happens, happens...? There are some asexual people too, and it's a completely legitimate way to be too..
I think with the right girl, it can be magic...
Also, you don't have to kiss if you don't want to, some people just don't like it.. (me & Julia Roberts in Pretty Woman included
) So maybe you just need to find a girl that's fun and good to be with in all other aspects, and if anything happens, happens...? There are some asexual people too, and it's a completely legitimate way to be too..
Rembrandt Broam
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lunarla
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Seriously excellent post.