Wishing I had more of a social life. How do I get one when I have no friends and very introverted . Work is killing me again and still. I lack the guts to take charge and change my ways. Just keep letting them walk on me cause I am afraid of what ifs.
Don't be to tough with yourself, is not a matter of having guts or not, it's just the way SA works.
I can't really tell you how to make friends since due to my introvert nature, i tend to lose them because I suck at keeping contact. BUT, it's always easier if you look for them in places where you have a common interest. Probably the easiest way for someone with SA is the internet or therapy groups (keep in mind tho, that you must share more things than just having SA, but at least you won't feel as judged).
As for Coworkers and ppl closer to you, there's no easier way unfortunately, I'd advice you to not overthink stuff because our brain is our greatest enemy more times than not.
Also, if you are an introvert, don't force it. Don't try to be who you really aren't. Introverts usually need more time alone in order to "recharge" after social interactions. It's ok, don't feel bad for it.
It is important that you be transparent with those closer to you, or those who are getting close. My friends know that I'm an introvert (and about my SA) and that sometimes I suck at keeping in contact so they know at least why sometimes Im absent. Then, when that happens, they try to keep in touch with me or don't mind when I talk to them after taking some time.
But yeah, there is no easy way other than places (outdoor activities, forums, therapy groups, etc.) where at least you'll have something in common. And you may meet ppl who aren't meant to be your best friends but they can still be nice and help you developing social skills and practicing those interactions.
If your fears are taking control of your life, seek help, never be afraid of that or ashamed.
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