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PugofCrydee

PugofCrydee

You want to know how I got these scars?
SilentAndShy said:
I am so anxiety filled, miserable and uncommunicative since last week. My driving anxiety makes it so that I have to gee myself up for every time that I drive as I have so much confidence in my ability, and also in my woeful inadequate knowledge of everything relating to cars. I don't even have the courage to ask for help incase I'm belittled, or the close relationships with my siblings.

I've had a car that I've no faith in for 8 months, driving sporadically when I need to. Last weekend, it stopped working and I had no idea what to do. How to solve it. Luckily, I found solace online at least. But since then I ignored it and it took ages to send a text asking for help, that resulted in nothing successful happening to solve the issue. Just as well I haven't got a busy month where I'd be needing my car...

I've barely spoken and have no desire to, even to my wide and kids. I don't deserve them. A poor husband and father I am.
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Mate, as many troubles as you have, stay connected with your kids. They are innocents and you will regret it if you disconnect from them.
 
Graeme1988

Graeme1988

Hie yer hence from me heath!
My oldest niece like the song Thunderstuck by AC/DC. So, there’s hope yet that she’ll develop a good taste in music. Don’t think my older sister’s too chuffed aboot that, though... I could kinda sense that, as she was asking if I had AC/DC’s Razor’s Edge album, and if I’d make a CD copy for my niece, she resisting the urge to go: “Oh, fur fuck sake... Why?!” :LOL:
 
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PugofCrydee

PugofCrydee

You want to know how I got these scars?
Through experience I've found people don't really want to know about your personal problems. And in truth, letting people know in general can only make things worse and make problems.

Best to only mention how things really are to your chosen mental health professionals and closest trusted family members.
 
SoScared

SoScared

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PugofCrydee said:
Through experience I've found people don't really want to know about your personal problems. And in truth, letting people know in general can only make things worse and make problems.

Best to only mention how things really are to your chosen mental health professionals and closest trusted family members.
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I asked the a similar question on this forum recently. Somebody replied saying that if anybody asked how you are best just to say pretty good or alrightly rather than telling them how you actually feel. Good advice for me.
 
SoScared

SoScared

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Kiwong said:
They might not want to hear, but there are those that will, those are the one to reach out to.
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Yes, but i just offloaded to someone i know. Trouble is that she told me that everybody offloads to her. Think that she is a bit tired of it.
 
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SilentAndShy

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In an office space would you be more anxious sitting within the main group or in a smaller room near them? I've done the former and have done the latter for a year or so. I like having my own space however you feel out of conversations so you have to physically get up and join in. When I've tried to you get one person barely engaging (she always gives me, I feel, a behaviour that barely acknowledges me) with what I'm saying and I just feel conscious of myself. To be fair a very extroverted, confident ex-colleague felt similar (alienation). My approach has been not to bother, get my head down and try to work which is difficult when a group of people engage in loud chat that is irritating. So I think I'm better off here.
 
Phoenixx

Phoenixx

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One of my guy friends recently started seeing someone. I'm happy for him, but at the same time I'm really not liking it because we all work together. I'm in the process of training his girlfriend in a particular section at work, and he kept coming over either talking to her or putting me down in front of her by bragging about how much better he does the job (that I also trained him at, mind you) or teasing me. Even at the end of the day when I was showing her how to set up for the next day, he kept hanging around impatiently waiting. It was extremely distracting. Basically he was being a jerk today probably to try to impress his gf. He's never been this cocky towards me before. It was hard to bite my tongue, but if it doesn't stop I think I might actually go to my boss about it. I just don't want to start an argument or eff up a friendship.

Why tf do co-workers date anyway? I'm totally against that. (n)
 
PugofCrydee

PugofCrydee

You want to know how I got these scars?
Phoenixx said:
One of my guy friends recently started seeing someone. I'm happy for him, but at the same time I'm really not liking it because we all work together. I'm in the process of training his girlfriend in a particular section at work, and he kept coming over either talking to her or putting me down in front of her by bragging about how much better he does the job (that I also trained him at, mind you) or teasing me. Even at the end of the day when I was showing her how to set up for the next day, he kept hanging around impatiently waiting. It was extremely distracting. Basically he was being a jerk today probably to try to impress his gf. He's never been this cocky towards me before. It was hard to bite my tongue, but if it doesn't stop I think I might actually go to my boss about it. I just don't want to start an argument or eff up a friendship.

Why tf do co-workers date anyway? I'm totally against that. (n)
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I agree, it's just a recipe for disaster in my books..
 
theoutsider

theoutsider

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SilentAndShy said:
In an office space would you be more anxious sitting within the main group or in a smaller room near them? I've done the former and have done the latter for a year or so. I like having my own space however you feel out of conversations so you have to physically get up and join in. When I've tried to you get one person barely engaging (she always gives me, I feel, a behaviour that barely acknowledges me) with what I'm saying and I just feel conscious of myself. To be fair a very extroverted, confident ex-colleague felt similar (alienation). My approach has been not to bother, get my head down and try to work which is difficult when a group of people engage in loud chat that is irritating. So I think I'm better off here.
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I prefer the latter although I know exactly what you mean. Currently, I have my own office (for the first time in my career) and although it makes me feel isolated sometimes, I LOVE having my own space and the privacy. But I do have to sometimes get up and walk to the action if I hear people talking. There have been days when I've barely said anything to anybody all day. It's weird but my profession pretty much allows me to work independently and, since nobody in my office does my same job, I really don't need to speak to anyone constantly.
 
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SilentAndShy

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theoutsider said:
I prefer the latter although I know exactly what you mean. Currently, I have my own office (for the first time in my career) and although it makes me feel isolated sometimes, I LOVE having my own space and the privacy. But I do have to sometimes get up and walk to the action if I hear people talking. There have been days when I've barely said anything to anybody all day. It's weird but my profession pretty much allows me to work independently and, since nobody in my office does my same job, I really don't need to speak to anyone constantly.
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The latter sentences ring true for me. I'm the specialist for my area so I rarely need to dive out and speak regularly. I think it's more so when there are conversations around non-work things and I can hear them, I could get up and get involved, but I'm conscious of doing as I've experienced an awkwardness jumping out to speak. Glad to know I'm not the only one though 👍
 
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