I want to be wanted, liked, respected, and thought highly of by others, but more so I want to be able to look at myself from the outside and see myself as someone who I would desire, want, like, respect, and think highly of.
Liking who I am is most important, and in instances that I do others liking me as well is a bonus. When I don't, others liking me is meaningless. It's like failing a test and being told you did an amazing job. I didn't do an amazing job. I have to get an A before praise for my score would be significant.
I think it's a reason I isolate myself a lot and I just lock out the rest of the world a lot, I feel like I am a failing grade. I don't want to be disliked for it, but I also don't want to be praised for something that deserves no praise. If those are the only two outcomes, it feels like I should keep my grade to myself until I bring it up.