HHDisturbed
Well-known member
I am about to "out" myself but here goes...
I realize that society as a whole still tends to look down on open marriages and swinging but why? Studies show that 50% to 60% of married individuals will engage in infidelity at some point during their marriage. The simple fact is that no matter how happy you are in your relationship, the urge to have sexual relations with others is often to strong to resist. It simply is human nature. Monogamy is possible but unrealistic.
But there is an alternative to cheating and destroying your marriage. Instead of lying, deceiving and sneaking around behind the back of your spouse (which is cheating) it is so much fun and exciting to participate "together" in a threesome, foursome or moresome.
Now I am sure that there will likely be a flood of replies condemning this concept, but why? It is NOT cheating if a married couple consensually agrees to participate in sexual activities with others together WITH their spouse. To believe otherwise is simply wrong because sex is not love and love is not sex. Let's face it, life is way too short not to experience all the wonderful things life has to offer. Monogamy is merely a "societal norm" pushed by religion which we are all expected to conform to.
My wife and I have been married for 11+ years and are still very happy and in love. After many long discussions we decided to move forward in 2006 and seek out a perfect match for us. I know it may be difficult for most to understand but participating together in sexual activities with other sexy and secure couples has actually brought us even closer together. And why on earth would we ever have the desire to cheat when we can fulfill all of our deepest sexual fantasies together? If anything, it has spiced up our love life at home. I consider myself a VERY lucky guy.
Now don't everyone start wigging out. It is far more normal than anyone would ever expect. Many couples think about swinging but few are secure enough in their relationship to engage in such activities. We are extremely secure, have no jealousy issues, very happy and are totally in love. We are also very safe and very picky about our potential playmates. We seek out other married couples who are the same and particularly those who we would want as best friends.
Just wanted to know other people's thoughts on the subject. However, negative comments will not change our feelings on the subject. We are simply having WAY to much fun. And hey, that's really all it is...just fun.
I realize that society as a whole still tends to look down on open marriages and swinging but why? Studies show that 50% to 60% of married individuals will engage in infidelity at some point during their marriage. The simple fact is that no matter how happy you are in your relationship, the urge to have sexual relations with others is often to strong to resist. It simply is human nature. Monogamy is possible but unrealistic.
But there is an alternative to cheating and destroying your marriage. Instead of lying, deceiving and sneaking around behind the back of your spouse (which is cheating) it is so much fun and exciting to participate "together" in a threesome, foursome or moresome.
Now I am sure that there will likely be a flood of replies condemning this concept, but why? It is NOT cheating if a married couple consensually agrees to participate in sexual activities with others together WITH their spouse. To believe otherwise is simply wrong because sex is not love and love is not sex. Let's face it, life is way too short not to experience all the wonderful things life has to offer. Monogamy is merely a "societal norm" pushed by religion which we are all expected to conform to.
My wife and I have been married for 11+ years and are still very happy and in love. After many long discussions we decided to move forward in 2006 and seek out a perfect match for us. I know it may be difficult for most to understand but participating together in sexual activities with other sexy and secure couples has actually brought us even closer together. And why on earth would we ever have the desire to cheat when we can fulfill all of our deepest sexual fantasies together? If anything, it has spiced up our love life at home. I consider myself a VERY lucky guy.
Now don't everyone start wigging out. It is far more normal than anyone would ever expect. Many couples think about swinging but few are secure enough in their relationship to engage in such activities. We are extremely secure, have no jealousy issues, very happy and are totally in love. We are also very safe and very picky about our potential playmates. We seek out other married couples who are the same and particularly those who we would want as best friends.
Just wanted to know other people's thoughts on the subject. However, negative comments will not change our feelings on the subject. We are simply having WAY to much fun. And hey, that's really all it is...just fun.