At times it desn't bother me so much, but then when I get into it more and my desire ges up, at times it just makes me feel worse. Browsing though so many profiles knowing that they're not interested in you haha. (Andyes Ive tried messaging lots of times, Im not just saying that)
On one that I have been on for "ages", it tells you when people alter their profie info, and it showed that one had said under where in the profile it says "You should messae me if", to which under it you write your answer, and they'd put "If you've never gone had to see a therapist". And that just.......I can't find the words to explain how that annoys/makes me feel bad hah.
If anyone relates to this I'd like to hear from you. Its bothering me abit today! hah.
I knoe exactly what you mean. I get put off by most of these profiles. The girlsare either very confident and I can't imagine them taking the slightest interest in me, or they post rude, insulting, prudish things in their profiles that just make me close the tab and move on to the next profile. It's a real struggle to find girls I want to message...and then of course they never respond.
I think I'd rather be single than spend time with these women as described by their profiles. However I suspect a lot say things they don't really mean. I've found on okCupid that I've changed a lot of my answers to match questions over the years and been somewhat surprised by some of my previous responses to those questions, so I guess its easy to say things in a profile you wouldn't say irl.
Not sure you can rely much on the profile tbh. Some people have said just ignore the profile text and only look at the photos. Not sure I can do that though.
I guess the frustrating thing sometimes, is knowing that you're not an idiot like so many on there, that you would treat girls nicley, and are honest and just want to experience intimacy, but yet feel invisible in that way that, if no one else knows this, it is baically just you who know it.
So true. I don't think dating sites are good for our self-esteem. As some others have asid forums and communities like this are better for meeting people, though I've not had much luck on forums making new friends over the last few years. (I find most people too young now. Getting older on the net is crap too. The average age remains lower whilst you grow older. lol). Still forums and good chat rooms have to be a better alternative.
That's insane. Only 3% of women who look at my profile are interested enough to message me? Does anybody else have a similar percentage to this? Is it normal for 97% of the people viewing your profile of the opposite sex to look at your profile and not message you?
I never look at viewing figures as their totally meaningless. I only message a tiny fraction of the profiles I view, so I assume everyone else does the same. However if your getting several messages per year your doing better than I've ever done. I too think 3% is above average.
Basically as a guy you will have a ton of rejection, and as a girl you will be sexually harassed.
Pretty much sums it all up.
If you're into finding a girl on the internet, try an open web community rather than a dating site.
