Ive been told Im too quiet, stuff like that, weird girl..not outgoing. When I was a kid I was called a boy a lot, because I had short hair and I was tom boyish, Ive been called ugly to my face in the past.
one comment which has affected your confidence
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planemo
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For me it wasn't so much what was said but more the fact that someone had said something. I mean, even if I don't like you I'm not gonna go around harassing you because of it. I'll just stay away from you. Why would I wanna involve myself with people I don't like?
I was always the odd one, because I was so quiet. So it wasn't so much what people said but more the fact that they felt they could tell me anything and get away with it, which proved to be a real blow to confidence. You feel almost worthless when another person treats you with disdain for seemingly no reason. I mean you don't even know me that well. So on what are you basing your behaviour to me on?
But I can recall one incident which hurt quite a bit. I was at a cricket game between SA and WI, and during the rain interval the person in the row before me for some reason was swinging his arms about (I think he was stretching) and he touched me. He looked at me and said "sorry". I said "no problem".
He then looked at me again and obviously realised that a weak, timid bloke with no self confidence he had just touched. He then decided to scream at me "Sorrrry", made a funny face and started laughing at me. I felt like dying. It made me realise that to people I'm just a joke, and because of it they will treat me anyway they feel fit.:
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I was always the odd one, because I was so quiet. So it wasn't so much what people said but more the fact that they felt they could tell me anything and get away with it, which proved to be a real blow to confidence. You feel almost worthless when another person treats you with disdain for seemingly no reason. I mean you don't even know me that well. So on what are you basing your behaviour to me on?
But I can recall one incident which hurt quite a bit. I was at a cricket game between SA and WI, and during the rain interval the person in the row before me for some reason was swinging his arms about (I think he was stretching) and he touched me. He looked at me and said "sorry". I said "no problem".
He then looked at me again and obviously realised that a weak, timid bloke with no self confidence he had just touched. He then decided to scream at me "Sorrrry", made a funny face and started laughing at me. I felt like dying. It made me realise that to people I'm just a joke, and because of it they will treat me anyway they feel fit.:
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SociallyAwkwardAndShy
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I had quiet a few.....
I will start with the good
GOOD: Roxie don't let anyone ever tell you different your beautiful- My mom
Your have the prettiest skin in the world- My Grandma and my Mother
You have real talent in writing keep up the good work- A teacher
The Bad:
A group of guys were rating girls on a scale of 1-10 and they get to me... and go she's so weird she's not even worth rating.
In gym class between me and 2 other girls... they get chosen.
Teacher: Roxi you go on that team
Kids: Ugggghhh why she's so slow
Some Ghetto Girl: Why do you only talk to that weird white kid? What you don't want to talk the black kids?
Random Kid: Yeah, do you hear how she talks so "white" ( Side note: How do you talk white?)
Me:*walks away*(Btw I'm African Amercan)
Friends: Let's go into 579 or Hollister
Me: No lets go to JcPennys. I don't want to go to those shops
Friends:Just because you can't fit into 579 doesn't mean we have to suffer
Mom: You shouldn't shop in Juniors you need to go to Womens what are you a 16? We need to get you a girdle. All said while in the store
Boyfriend well now ex: I'm outgoing, your not. You don't like to do anything that normal couples like to do. You embarrass me in public with you're constant worrying"
His Mom: You shouldn't suffer your outgoing she has issues.
( referring to me.If you read my other post you know he told his whole family about my SA and made me look like a nut case.)
I will start with the good
GOOD: Roxie don't let anyone ever tell you different your beautiful- My mom
Your have the prettiest skin in the world- My Grandma and my Mother
You have real talent in writing keep up the good work- A teacher
The Bad:
A group of guys were rating girls on a scale of 1-10 and they get to me... and go she's so weird she's not even worth rating.
In gym class between me and 2 other girls... they get chosen.
Teacher: Roxi you go on that team
Kids: Ugggghhh why she's so slow
Some Ghetto Girl: Why do you only talk to that weird white kid? What you don't want to talk the black kids?
Random Kid: Yeah, do you hear how she talks so "white" ( Side note: How do you talk white?)
Me:*walks away*(Btw I'm African Amercan)
Friends: Let's go into 579 or Hollister
Me: No lets go to JcPennys. I don't want to go to those shops
Friends:Just because you can't fit into 579 doesn't mean we have to suffer
Mom: You shouldn't shop in Juniors you need to go to Womens what are you a 16? We need to get you a girdle. All said while in the store
Boyfriend well now ex: I'm outgoing, your not. You don't like to do anything that normal couples like to do. You embarrass me in public with you're constant worrying"
His Mom: You shouldn't suffer your outgoing she has issues.
( referring to me.If you read my other post you know he told his whole family about my SA and made me look like a nut case.)
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during the time when i was 12-15 i used to always get "What are you ****ing stupid?" from my dad , whenever i did something , or broke something by accident.i also often got a "what the **** are u cryin about 'big man'?" from him. he doesnt do it anymore thought , he knows that ill ****en floor the prick... used to to get alot of 'What will people think when they see you?' from my mother , i guess this is really why im so worried of what people think of me all the time...
she a great mom thought , used to work two jobs, took care of me and my little sister and our dad at home, and im really grateful .
she a great mom thought , used to work two jobs, took care of me and my little sister and our dad at home, and im really grateful .
I thought of some other things, one is a question not a comment..people asking me "are you okay?" just different random people, in highschool and elsewhere, it gave me a complex for a while. Like what? do I look sad all the time? or mad? it messed with my head.
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Kids in school used to always tell me I looked like an alien. I guess I should've snatched them up in my space craft to shut them up.
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when i was 13/14 there was a guy who called me alien/teleporter because i am too quiet and it looked like everyday im appearing out of nowhere like teleporting
Da Kid
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Well, my parents have been putting me down with various comments for years, using various words till I just stopped caring what they told me. I guess it beat my confidence down for a while, but strengthened me in the end.
A couple months ago, this fat, ugly chick looked right at me, paused, and said: "Umm, he's average" to her friend, who was also looking at me (and looked decent to me) and she nodded to her friend. It pissed me off a lot for the next couple weeks, now it still bothers me a bit when I think about it, but I just block it out.
A couple months ago, this fat, ugly chick looked right at me, paused, and said: "Umm, he's average" to her friend, who was also looking at me (and looked decent to me) and she nodded to her friend. It pissed me off a lot for the next couple weeks, now it still bothers me a bit when I think about it, but I just block it out.
thecinderfly
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Mother-Your just a stupid b**** and never going to be anything (she constantly called me stupid from childhood up until i moved out)
some guy-I thought you were a robot (random pothead but still kinda hurt my feelings)
boy- Ice-Queen
former classmates- Aids(because i was so fair skin, i punched him in the stomach,that was the last time anyone called me that)
former classmate- said i had a nose like micheal jackson, i snapped back at the girl w/ the comment"at least i don't have muttonchops"
some guy-I thought you were a robot (random pothead but still kinda hurt my feelings)
boy- Ice-Queen
former classmates- Aids(because i was so fair skin, i punched him in the stomach,that was the last time anyone called me that)
former classmate- said i had a nose like micheal jackson, i snapped back at the girl w/ the comment"at least i don't have muttonchops"
black-wings
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I was 15 when a minister called me to warn me about a person who i was hanging with. So told me this person would only do me more harm than good. She said
"Nick, the only reason you're around this person is because you live in a lonely world and need to be accepted. And the only way you won't feel alone anymore is to love yourself. Then you'll see that other people will begin to love you also."
I never felt so depressed in my whole life but I knew what I had to do from that point.
"Nick, the only reason you're around this person is because you live in a lonely world and need to be accepted. And the only way you won't feel alone anymore is to love yourself. Then you'll see that other people will begin to love you also."
I never felt so depressed in my whole life but I knew what I had to do from that point.
BlackKids
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Thats properly just to do with his own insecurities. I know a couple. The husband is always telling the wife shes fat. Shes pretty toned and I see her running almost everyday while he's sat at home eating pies. fecker.
Bama_Heath
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"It's not you it's me". The one line uttered by the fairer sex that I can't stand. Just be freaking honest. I can't stand lies by anybody. How about have some B**ls and just tell the truth. When you don't tell the truth guys don't know what they need to fix and over-analyze what the truth is and can kill one's confidence.
