one comment which has affected your confidence

Gaucho

Well-known member
well i went down town the other night, a typical saturday night, people out and about going to pubs etc. i was sitting on a public seat at the end of a street and along drives this car with 5 guys in it roughly aged 18 -24 and the music thumping the windows down when one of them noticing me sitting by myself shouted out at me 'hey i have more friends than you lad'. it hurt me, i have no friends. thats why it upset me the most, because its true. here i was sitting there feeling sorry for myself on a saturday night when its pointed out to me by a complete stranger just how much of a loser i am.

i know that feeling:(
 

Nathália

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I've suffered some really heinous comments from others over the years. The ones that hurt the most were from my own brother.
I can't really repeat them, even here. But they were deeply personal, & very vicious. He has since apologized, kind of...
But, that cruelty from someone I love and trusted really tore me to shreds.

I know, even though someone may apologize. the damage is still there, no matter how much we forgive and try to forget sometimes.

well i went down town the other night, a typical saturday night, people out and about going to pubs etc. i was sitting on a public seat at the end of a street and along drives this car with 5 guys in it roughly aged 18 -24 and the music thumping the windows down when one of them noticing me sitting by myself shouted out at me 'hey i have more friends than you lad'. it hurt me, i have no friends. thats why it upset me the most, because its true. here i was sitting there feeling sorry for myself on a saturday night when its pointed out to me by a complete stranger just how much of a loser i am.

What ****s. Why would it matter to him and he feel like he has to brag to the world about it? No that guy is a loser/idiot if he has the guts to yell at and make an assumption about a complete stranger.
 

MikeyC

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I've suffered some really heinous comments from others over the years. The ones that hurt the most were from my own brother.
I can't really repeat them, even here. But they were deeply personal, & very vicious. He has since apologized, kind of...
But, that cruelty from someone I love and trusted really tore me to shreds.
Having trust shattered by those close to you can ruin a person. I'm really sorry.
 

Phoenixx

Well-known member
"It's all your fault." (I actually hear this one quite often)
"Stop being so serious all the time!"
"You can't be sensitive! People walk all over you and take advantage of you!"
"Shut up! You don't even know. You think you know everything and you don't."
"You never listen to me because you think you're right all the time."
"What's wrong with you?"
"Oh my god don't you ever talk?!"
"You're putting me to sleep because you never talk."
"What goes on in that head of yours? You're always so quiet. You must have major psychological problems."
"Oh my god, I wish I had a camera. You should see your face right now!" (After my cousin made me cry)

^ That is what I endured today. I never yelled at her. I never stood up for myself. I just took it and tried not to bawl even though I shed a few tears. What good is it going to do to get angry since we were on the road and she was driving? Still, I feel stupid for even listening to her and taking it all in. Worst roadtrip I've ever taken. I won't ride with her again. Well yeah, on the way back, but that's it. No more travelling with just her.
 

Nathália

Well-known member
"It's all your fault." (I actually hear this one quite often)
"Stop being so serious all the time!"
"You can't be sensitive! People walk all over you and take advantage of you!"
"Shut up! You don't even know. You think you know everything and you don't."
"You never listen to me because you think you're right all the time."
"What's wrong with you?"
"Oh my god don't you ever talk?!"
"You're putting me to sleep because you never talk."
"What goes on in that head of yours? You're always so quiet. You must have major psychological problems."
"Oh my god, I wish I had a camera. You should see your face right now!" (After my cousin made me cry)

^ That is what I endured today. I never yelled at her. I never stood up for myself. I just took it and tried not to bawl even though I shed a few tears. What good is it going to do to get angry since we were on the road and she was driving? Still, I feel stupid for even listening to her and taking it all in. Worst roadtrip I've ever taken. I won't ride with her again. Well yeah, on the way back, but that's it. No more travelling with just her.

That's mean. Maybe she can't handle people not talking and that's probably why you guys get along when you talk more? Yea, some people are puzzled by quite people, it literately makes them nervous and upset. I'm the exact opposite, when people talk too much, it makes me nervous and upset. She shouldn't lash out like that though.
 

speakerheart

Active member
The comments that hurt me the most.I would have to say were by family and friends.I've always been compared to my younger sister. The comments my mother made towards me hurt me the most.Friends come and go.Butt... Family is supposed to be there for you.I don't actually feel that my mother intentionally wanted to hurt me.I have forgave her.And now me and my sister are getting close again:) Words do hurt.Holding on to anger and or a grudge does too.
 

outsideroftheoutsiders

Well-known member
Recently my ex decided to have go at me about never "making an effort" with his friends and that I was "socially awkward"

guy I like recently said I was "weird"

These comments have really affected me and I feel like I will forever be a failure and I'm a pathetic excuse for a human.
 

Unfunny64

Member
A lot of things...
"Your Fat"
"You can't do anything right"
"Your Ugly"
"Your lazy"
"Hey look its the loser"
"Lets get away from this guy"
"Your not funny, no one likes to hear you talk"

That and when I told a girl I liked her she said "Eww No". I feel like the lowest.
 

Srijita52

Well-known member
A lot of things...
"Your Fat"
"You can't do anything right"
"Your Ugly"
"Your lazy"
"Hey look its the loser"
"Lets get away from this guy"
"Your not funny, no one likes to hear you talk"

That and when I told a girl I liked her she said "Eww No". I feel like the lowest.

That's awful. I'm so sorry. But yeah, just replace guy with girl and these are the exact comments that I've heard.
 

Graeme1988

Hie yer hence from me heath!
My oldest sister used tease me about my weight when I was a teenager. So did my cousin.

"Look at that spare tire!" *My sister grabs my belly, then laughs.

While at a family gathering (cousin's wedding) when I was 14, my cousin Tina - her sister was the one getting married - finds me sitting, making small talk with her wee brother Will, who's quite a chubby lad. Anyway, my cousin jokingly says to both of us that "We'll need bras, if we get any big". Nice one! Her brother and I just shrug our shoulders. And then sarastically say: "Aye, right! Ha! Ha! Funny!"
 

Srijita52

Well-known member
My oldest sister used tease me about my weight when I was a teenager. So did my cousin.

"Look at that spare tire!" *My sister grabs my belly, then laughs.

While at a family gathering (cousin's wedding) when I was 14, my cousin Tina - her sister was the one getting married - finds me sitting, making small talk with her wee brother Will, who's quite a chubby lad. Anyway, my cousin jokingly says to both of us that "We'll need bras, if we get any big". Nice one! Her brother and I just shrug our shoulders. And then sarastically say: "Aye, right! Ha! Ha! Funny!"
I'm sorry, sometimes people can't even realize how much their comments can hurt the other person.
 

goodways

Member
Humans are devastatingly brutal creatures. We hurt each other so easily...


For me, it came several years ago. An ex-girlfriend told me `Nobody else will ever love you`. I`ve heard a lot of crap over the years, but that one stuck with me. Still does. And guess what? She was right!

That part makes it hurt the most of all!
 

Kiwong

Well-known member
no thanks to you.

you know nothing

he's bludging again. I was sitting at my desk while that one was said.

This is making me unwell.
 

MikeyC

Well-known member
Recently my ex decided to have go at me about never "making an effort" with his friends and that I was "socially awkward"

guy I like recently said I was "weird"

These comments have really affected me and I feel like I will forever be a failure and I'm a pathetic excuse for a human.
You're not a "pathetic excuse for a human" because of the opinion of two people. I'm sorry they've affected you so much but you know you're better than that. :)
 

Ashiene

Well-known member
You're not a "pathetic excuse for a human" because of the opinion of two people. I'm sorry they've affected you so much but you know you're better than that. :)

When two people are the only people you have ever known, two people can mean the world to you.
 
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