Agent_Violet
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After my divorce I did the obligatory "soul searching" thing. I didn't get much out of it lol
But I did realize one important thing about myself that i needed to fix. I was constantly living in the past. Holding on to regrets,resentment,bitterness,etc. constantly torturing myself by remembering all the wrongs that were done to me. Remembering all my mistakes. Pouting over things that happened.
Why do we do this. Why can't we just live in the present and the look to the future?
Wouldn't leaving all the negativity behind leave room in your head for positive things?
Now I crack the whip on myself mentally when i catch myself living in the past.
Im not totally able to stop myself but I can tell you that even the smallest attempt to live in the present makes a HUGE difference in the way you see yourself and others.
Anyone have any tricks or tips for how to just be present instead of dwelling and letting the past rent space in your head?
But I did realize one important thing about myself that i needed to fix. I was constantly living in the past. Holding on to regrets,resentment,bitterness,etc. constantly torturing myself by remembering all the wrongs that were done to me. Remembering all my mistakes. Pouting over things that happened.
Why do we do this. Why can't we just live in the present and the look to the future?
Wouldn't leaving all the negativity behind leave room in your head for positive things?
Now I crack the whip on myself mentally when i catch myself living in the past.
Im not totally able to stop myself but I can tell you that even the smallest attempt to live in the present makes a HUGE difference in the way you see yourself and others.
Anyone have any tricks or tips for how to just be present instead of dwelling and letting the past rent space in your head?