Imagine your ideal relationship...
- Thread starter kihira
- Start date
best friend., thats all 
*Amy*
Well-known member
He would love me and admire me for what I am. He would understand and support me with my SAD and depressions. He would be by my side whenever I needed him. He would be caring and romantic. And of course, I would be all of that towards him.
And apart from that our relationship would be perfect if we went out together whenever we felt like it (not like many couples who have to see each other a minimum number of times per week), if he let me have my own space. I would like us to travel together, because that would make us closer to each other. And I wouldn't care going to parties with him as long as he was by my side and introduced me to his friends.
But that's what would happen in a perfect world, and it doesn't exist...::
And apart from that our relationship would be perfect if we went out together whenever we felt like it (not like many couples who have to see each other a minimum number of times per week), if he let me have my own space. I would like us to travel together, because that would make us closer to each other. And I wouldn't care going to parties with him as long as he was by my side and introduced me to his friends.
But that's what would happen in a perfect world, and it doesn't exist...:
:
philly2bits
Well-known member
It's best not to imagine what an "ideal" relationship will be like. Any real relationship will only be a letdown compared to this one you created in your own mind. How you take this letdown will affect the relationship. Worst case you'll blame the partner for not living up to your preconceptions. Even in the best case you'll always feel like something is missing and never really be content with what you actually do have. No, it's best to leave the imagining to a minimum when it comes to relationships.
Well, what's with the grim looks?
I actually think it's a good topic...
Amy, what you are asking for doesn't seem too impossible..
The only think not really realistic is: He would be by my side whenever I needed him.
No one can be by your side all the time - what about when they go to work, or to a hospital, or to the loo?? Or pursue their interests/hobbies/sports/... that you might not share? So it's good to have a good support network of friends and relatives so you can be okay 'just you' too... I think you meant 'in the really important moments' and that's a reasonable thing to expect tho..
Going out together 'whenever we felt like it' might be interpreted differently by different people - for someone, every day 2x, for someone, 1x or 3x a week would be enough.. If you are compatible in your wishes, it could probably work too..
Philly, partly you are wise to be cautious - expecting too much can be a let down, yup.. Partly not knowing what you wish for can prevent things from happening too.. And it's good to read about what other people expect or wish for - to compare with own thoughts or expectations..
It's good to be open-minded too, and 'let things happen'...
I actually think it's a good topic...
Amy, what you are asking for doesn't seem too impossible..
The only think not really realistic is: He would be by my side whenever I needed him.
No one can be by your side all the time - what about when they go to work, or to a hospital, or to the loo??
Or pursue their interests/hobbies/sports/... that you might not share? So it's good to have a good support network of friends and relatives so you can be okay 'just you' too... I think you meant 'in the really important moments' and that's a reasonable thing to expect tho..Going out together 'whenever we felt like it' might be interpreted differently by different people - for someone, every day 2x, for someone, 1x or 3x a week would be enough.. If you are compatible in your wishes, it could probably work too..
Philly, partly you are wise to be cautious - expecting too much can be a let down, yup.. Partly not knowing what you wish for can prevent things from happening too.. And it's good to read about what other people expect or wish for - to compare with own thoughts or expectations..
It's good to be open-minded too, and 'let things happen'...
*Amy*
Well-known member
I know, I just said what my "ideal" relationship would be like
Well, what's with the grim looks?
The only think not really realistic is: He would be by my side whenever I needed him.
No one can be by your side all the time - what about when they go to work, or to a hospital, or to the loo??
Well, I didn't mean like all the time, but just in the moments he coulds be there, so that I wouldn't feel so lonely.
A friend
Well-known member
best friend., thats all
Same here.
WeirdyMcGee
Well-known member
I was there before, but it didn't work out obviously--- so I suppose I need to change my idea of what an 'ideal' relationship means.
I won't ever have to though because I'll never want a relationship again.
I won't ever have to though because I'll never want a relationship again.
Kiwong
Well-known member
The most important relationship is the one with myself. Trying to feel more comfortable in my own skin.
Then I want a positive relationship with the world-all people. To finally feel not fearful, and at peace, when I venture out into the world of people. To take my place in the world without fear.
Then I want a positive relationship with the world-all people. To finally feel not fearful, and at peace, when I venture out into the world of people. To take my place in the world without fear.
DespairSoul
Well-known member
Kiwong yes exactly this my unfillful dream.
my unfillful dream.
BlueDays
1
Is a good listener. Is introverted like me, so totally understands when I need alone time. Tells me everything, even things that he thinks are silly because he trusts me. Very loyal and isn't fickle with relationships (would fight for it). Appreciates the little things in life. Appreciates my interests even if we don't share the same ones (I would do the same for him). Is passionate about something.
WriterChick3
Well-known member
Smart, quiet, respectful ... He'd play the guitar and trumpet, love to travel the world together and wouldn't be in any rush to tie the knot. He'd be mature and creative, clever, and also enjoys music ... And he'd be hard-working and know how to treat women, and he'd like kids. Honest ...
I wouldn't mind if he had freckles ... Brown hair, brown eyes, and an accent; He'd enjoy the creativity in the world, too, like of books and theatre.
And looking in to different cultures and their films.
I'd rather dream of an ideal man than realize this kinda guy may not exist.
I wouldn't mind if he had freckles ... Brown hair, brown eyes, and an accent; He'd enjoy the creativity in the world, too, like of books and theatre.
And looking in to different cultures and their films.
I'd rather dream of an ideal man than realize this kinda guy may not exist.
A friend
Well-known member
...
That sounds just like how I am (except for the trumpet and wanting kids part).
:|
Last edited:
awkwardamanda
Well-known member
It's hard not to fantasize at all. I can't help it. It kinda makes me happy, at least for a little while. I'm well aware the things I dream up are probably unrealistic. But it's good to have some idea of what you want and don't want. I'm not willing to settle. There are certain things I require and certain things I just won't put up with. I don't think anyone can really know what they want until they find it. I just think if I'm truly happy, I'll know. I'll know because it's something I've never experienced and it's going to feel different. But that may not happen anyway. Realistically, I'll probably live my life alone. I'll be lucky if I even get a few dates or short lived relationships. Actually finding someone to fall in love with and spend my life with is highly unlikely.