How was your first sexual experience?

[Pookah]

^^ Really? I think it is an important part of intimacy to have no inhibitions when it comes to being in a sexual relationship with someone. When you are naked in front of someone, you are putting total trust in them to love you for who you are in your entirety, and that is something very special.

I agree with you, but I have an intense loathing for the way I look. I pretty much believe no one could ever find me attractive, especially not my body and it makes me feel sort of disgusted when I think someone might ever have to be exposed to me in that way.

OMG, I can relate to this completely... The few times I have had to do this for medical tests and what not, I am sure I had a panic attack at the urology clinic.... The nurse, and only female to have ever seen me naked, had to put lidocaine in the urethra... Needless to say I was 5 shades of red, and just about in tears... Embarrassed and humiliated beyond words. I wanted to die right there... It was terrifying for me. I'll never forget it any time soon...::

I'm sorry you had to experience that. Its the main reason I don't want to go to the gynecologist.

 

[Rembrandt Broam]

I agree with you, but I have an intense loathing for the way I look. I pretty much believe no one could ever find me attractive, especially not my body and it makes me feel sort of disgusted when I think someone might ever have to be exposed to me in that way.

But since you aren't someone who would ever get involved in a casual sexual relationship, if you were in a situation where you were naked in front of someone it would be someone who cared about you a great deal, and you would know that you could only ever be beautiful to them, regardless of how you might feel about yourself.

 

[Pookah]

But since you aren't someone who would ever get involved in a casual sexual relationship, if you were in a situation where you were naked in front of someone it would be someone who cared about you a great deal, and you would know that you could only ever be beautiful to them, regardless of how you might feel about yourself.

But its kind of part and parcel of the SA/anxiety/insecurity to feel like that might be the part where I get rejected. The person said they cared but when faced with the reality, they might be revolted by me.

 

[Rembrandt Broam]

I remember the where and when of my first sexual experience, but I can't remember much about the actual act itself, other than I think I managed not to mess it up too much.

That sounds bad, doesn't it? That I can't recall every minute detail of the first time I made love. It probably sounds worse if I say that it wasn't some casual thing, but was with someone I was in love with. The thing is, there were quite a lot of subsequent times and, well, they all kind of merge together after a while. ::

 

[Beatrice]

I don't find them unattractive at all btw, at least I didn't until my brother asked me to google-image a certain phrase involving waffles. If you know what I mean, you've probably been traumatised by it too

Ahahahahahaha!!!! I just did this to someone the other night

 

[Rembrandt Broam]

Originally Posted by MagicPotion
I don't find them unattractive at all btw, at least I didn't until my brother asked me to google-image a certain phrase involving waffles. If you know what I mean, you've probably been traumatised by it too

Ahahahahahaha!!!! I just did this to someone the other night

I think I'm happy to remain blissfully ignorant of this waffle thing.

 

[Rembrandt Broam]

But its kind of part and parcel of the SA/anxiety/insecurity to feel like that might be the part where I get rejected. The person said they cared but when faced with the reality, they might be revolted by me.

I can't imagine anyone being revolted by you, but I do understand the SA/insecurity and fear of rejection. We all face that even in ordinary day to day situations, so I can see how it would be a major issue for some people in such a deeply intimate and personal situation.

 

[Death Rider]

You know I always thought that sex was just fun no matter with who you have it with lol. There is no way in hell that i'm doing it with a random girl ever again. I'll stay picky as hell. Sometimes you need to do a mistake to learn

@ Coyote: LMAO

@ Beatrice: same here

@EnigmatiConduit: nope just some random girl, biggest mistake of my life so far. Never again will i do that

@ MagicPotion: my friend told me the same thing but for now i'm staying the hell away from any chance at intimacy with anyone

I'd urge you to go for the trial an error method - you will not regret it Surely, for your next attempt I recommend getting a girlfriend and try and try and try It's fun

About my first time - I'd like to quote some person in the first page of this thread and say "porn lied to me" A total disappointment. Took me maybe a year of more to start having it good. Btw, picky is good, but blue-balls ain't. Just go with the flow and toss the survey.

 

[da_illest101]

I'd urge you to go for the trial an error method - you will not regret it Surely, for your next attempt I recommend getting a girlfriend and try and try and try It's fun

About my first time - I'd like to quote some person in the first page of this thread and say "porn lied to me" A total disappointment. Took me maybe a year of more to start having it good. Btw, picky is good, but blue-balls ain't. Just go with the flow and toss the survey.

. i like your advice, i'm definitely waiting for a girlfriend or someone i like. LMAO porn lied to me, i wasn't laughing when i wrote that now i'm good. I'm really surprised that this idiot came up with such an interesting thread.

Seriously when I started this thread I was traumatised, couldn't eat or sleep. Now i feel a thousand time better. Not a 100% but getting there. I'm not glad I put myself into such an extreme stress but at least i'll become stronger from it

 

[Kiwong]

I can't even talk to someone without feeling anxious. I can imagine this anxiety would be magnified exponentially if I attempted to get intimate with someone.

This survey is hardly a glowing endorsement for those planning to break their virginal duck.

 

[megalon]

I have an intense loathing for the way I look. I pretty much believe no one could ever find me attractive

I'm sure there are many of us males on this forum who would strongly disagree with you on that.

 

[Aussie_Lad]

This survey is hardly a glowing endorsement for those planning to break their virginal duck.

You don't learn to ride a bike without falling off a few times.

I think it's a good thread, because if there was ever thought toward going to a professional to lose your virginity, then this will help discourage such an event.

 

[Kiwong]

You don't learn to ride a bike without falling off a few times.

I think it's a good thread, because if there was ever thought toward going to a professional to lose your virginity, then this will help discourage such an event.

Well, I can list at least a dozen things in my life that I consider better than horrible or average. Why bother falling off the bike if the experience is average at best? I suspect the large majority who voted as virgins in this thread aren't missing out at all.

The consensus is that this activity is average at best. Why bother?

 

[megalon]

I suspect the large majority who voted as virgins in this thread aren't missing out at all.

The consensus is that this activity is average at best. Why bother?

I would rather find out for myself than just go along with "the consensus".

 

[Kiwong]

I would rather find out for myself than just go along with "the consensus".

I already have found out for myself.

I'd prefer to go along and do the things I know I enjoy, and not waste my life thinking about this biological bull****.

 

[iamthenra]

I'm sorry you had to experience that. Its the main reason I don't want to go to the gynecologist.

Don't apologize... But I do understand...

At least you have one advantage... Being female you don't have to worry about "shrinkage"... Kind of like being embarrassed and blushing, the more you realize you are blushing the worse it gets... The same is true for shrinkage... embarrassing enough getting naked, then to have to deal with that. The nurse must have thought I was the smallest guy on the planet... I guess it doesn't really matter, when it's use will only be for urinating...nothing more. Which does make me depressed thinking about that. As crazy as it sounds, "sex" intimacy is something I would have liked to have experienced at least once before I die... Same thing with having a girl friend and a love life, but at my age... (42) not likely.

 

[AGR]

I dont care much about sex,I have been without for years,even turned down smoking hot girls,what I care about is if I would love her,sex would be secondary and doesnt need to be great,that without talking about my body/symetry issues,which makes most unlikely for me to have a girlfriend.

 

[Rembrandt Broam]

Don't apologize... But I do understand...

At least you have one advantage... Being female you don't have to worry about "shrinkage"... Kind of like being embarrassed and blushing, the more you realize you are blushing the worse it gets... The same is true for shrinkage... embarrassing enough getting naked, then to have to deal with that. The nurse must have thought I was the smallest guy on the planet...

I'm sure she didn't. As everyone probably suffers from some degree of embarrassment and therefore shrinkage, it's all relative. Besides, as she probably sees many of them every day, I'm sure she stopped thinking about them in that way a long time ago. They're probably just like fingers or toes to her now.

 

[Rembrandt Broam]

Originally Posted by Pookah
I have an intense loathing for the way I look. I pretty much believe no one could ever find me attractive

I'm sure there are many of us males on this forum who would strongly disagree with you on that.

There's probably enough of us to create our own forum.

 

[Lccska]

I had my 1st experience at age 20. I only did it so I wouldn't be a virgin anymore. I enjoyed it very much. Sex, like most things in life, is all about attitude. If you feel badly about yourself, there is no way you're going to enjoy sex. I find it to be a wonderful, stress relieving experience. Passion is always a good thing! In order to be passionate, I think you have to have fairly good self esteem.