MikeyC
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I can relate. I did 29 straight days earlier this year and I was mulch after that. I needed some rest.
I hope you enjoy your three days off! How do you plan on spending them?
How are you feeling?
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I hope you enjoy your three days off! How do you plan on spending them?
Kiwong
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A three day weekend that's a decent break. Hope you can recoup your mental energy for next week.
Kiwong
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I kinda maybe haven't told my parents I'm going yet. I want to complete my first therapy session and then tell them, so it's then too late for them to try and get me out of it. Having somebody there would've helped me get across the line, but I couldn't get anyone else there and even if I could I wouldn't drag them to a doctor.
I would've done it over the phone but that makes me just as nervous, which is why I decided going in would've been the better option.
I don't think I would've had any trouble with being tongue-tied at reception - if I made it that far I knew what I wanted to say. It's just getting that far. Maybe I'll try again tomorrow.
Thanks for replying.
Keep trying Mikey C, your taking a step in the right direction . I managed to get in for an appointment with a new doctor (my regualar one left the practice). It was worth the effort.
MikeyC
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Cheers, Kiwong. I still don't understand why I was so fearful. It makes no sense. I reckon I'll feel exactly the same tomorrow for reasons I can't quite identify. :
:Good for you! I'm glad you made the effort to do it. I just now need to follow in your accomplished footsteps....
Agent_Violet
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I'm not a people person either
in real life, i can't stand people. are you like this with online people too? i find it's easier to connect online and i actually like people online.
this_portrait
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I'm cold and trying to warm up. Really don't want to leave my cozy apartment and walk outside in the horrible wind.
Clara001
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Guilty. I skip A LOT of classes which are obligatory ... I just can't make myself get out of bed in the morning. My family expects so much of me. I used to expect a lot of me, too. I used to be so motivated, so ambicious ... I thought I'm going to make something out of myself. I don't know why I'm studying law ... At least once a day I hear a professor say how important "communication skills" are ... how important it is to know a lot of people ... how important it is to know how to "express your opinion" .. It's like they are describing the total opposite of me.
DeadmanWalking
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You don't have to be able to give a speech like Winston Churchill to be in the field of law. Just be able to hold a conversation with someone. If I remember right, a lot of famous speeches were given by people that were socially anxious like the rest of us. This is your future and you know what will happen if you fail, so force yourself to go to class. You can go see someone about your social inefficiencies to become better. You can do this Clara
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Clara001
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You don't have to be able to give a speech like Winston Churchill to be in the field of law. Just be able to hold a conversation with someone. If I remember right, a lot of famous speeches were given by people that were socially anxious like the rest of us. This is your future and you know what will happen if you fail, so force yourself to go to class. You can go see someone about your social inefficiencies to become better. You can do this Clara
I'm too afraid. Everytime I talk with someone I can't think properly .. I can't concentrate. I can only think about what he/she thinks of me, what if I said or will say something stupid ... There's no way I can contribute to a discusion, I can't argument if I can't think. I do have "good days", though, on which I'm capable of thinking properly in front of people but still unable to speak up, which leads to regret about not saying anything. I'm not making much sense here ...
I went to a psychotherapist 2 times about a year ago, but I felt like she was getting to know me too much and therefore disliked me, so I quit. I've scheduled another appointment with another therapist this month and I hope this one works out.
Thanks for the encouragement, it really helps. It's true, I don't have to be a master of rhetoric to succeed.
DeadmanWalking
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I'm too afraid. Everytime I talk with someone I can't think properly .. I can't concentrate. I can only think about what he/she thinks of me, what if I said or will say something stupid ... There's no way I can contribute to a discusion, I can't argument if I can't think. I do have "good days", though, on which I'm capable of thinking properly in front of people but still unable to speak up, which leads to regret about not saying anything. I'm not making much sense here ...
I went to a psychotherapist 2 times about a year ago, but I felt like she was getting to know me too much and therefore disliked me, so I quit. I've scheduled another appointment with another therapist this month and I hope this one works out.
Thanks for the encouragement, it really helps. It's true, I don't have to be a master of rhetoric to succeed.
No problem.
Anyway, just work on saying "Hello" to people. As that gets easier, push yourself even further by trying to hold a conversation as long as you can with someone. Keep pushing yourself to extend the conversations longer and longer and, eventually, you'll get there. Don't worry about what others think of you; you're a nice person that has a lot of great qualities. Most people won't hate you unless you give them a good reason to, like being a jacka**. Have faith in yourself.
Agent_Violet
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disappointed.
DeadmanWalking
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In who and about what?
Agent_Violet
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just in general. having a moment.
DeadmanWalking
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Doth I need to place a smile of divine elegance upon thine marvelous visage madame?
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Agent_Violet
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Doth I need to place a smile of divine elegance upon thine marvelous visage madame
sorry my dear...that's not gonna do it. but i appreciate the effort.
