Hey Flowerie!
Parents can get 'burst outs' like this - my mom has done it many times, with me or sis.. or dad did.. they don't understand the internet/computer and may get 'jealous' of it..
on the other hand, 'internet' can be an addiction, so some balance is good.. I read 5+ hours computer a day can cause depression and memory/concentration problems (!) so... it's better to limit your time a bit..
Your mom just cares about you and has odd ways of showing it!!
Sorry to hear she can't be more sympathetic or inspirational..
Good techniques to combat 'mom anger' are doing the dishes or doing the laundry.. have you tried that yet?
Also, I had a 'day without computer' (almost) yesterday and found I could go to bed more early and get up more early too.. So your sleeping times can be adjusted.. Do you have 'Delayed Sleep Phase' syndrome too? (can't go to sleep at night, can't get up in the morning..)
Also, if you are working on a project, maybe you can include your mom? (works for some things, like she can help with contacts or how to approach someone or something she knows better..) my mom has helped me with eco things quite a bit.. (and she also understands my concerns better if I talk to her about them.. like specifically, 'I'm afraid this person will think/say/do... what do you think would be the best thing to say/way to approach them?') So maybe your mom could become 'project partner' instead of 'obstacle'/additional problem?
It may take a while, do not expect miracles...
And can you go for a walk every day? Works wonders against depression, also she won't know if you went alone or with a friend/relative/etc?
Thanks Feathers, First of all, I would do the laundry and dishes anytime when I could occur these kind of situations! So bring it on with the dishes, I don´t mind at all! I just scrubbed the floor, I let the dog out, I re-organized the Dishwasher (Yeah, we´ve got one, but we do the dishes alot too).
I really don´t mind doing that.
But I can relate to what you say about the Sleep Phase syndrome, I can´t fall asleep at night, Just keep staying up, and in the morning I wake up TOOOOO late. I should start make a difference today. Because I know my mom will say the same tomorrow again. Pff... I´ll wake up early tomorrow
. I will set my timer, I know the time my mom wakes up, so I will suprise her, with breakfast, I will show her I can make a change!!
This gives me a good feeling, that I actually have the will to do this, but sadly It only lasts for a week and I take the same old stupid habit.
Maybe I should make a schedule, or a planning list.
Yeah men, having great ideas!!! Everything to occur these situations.
Well Internet sure is very important to me, But I love doing other activities too, Just E-mailed my coach about an Activity centre in my town.
I hope he can help me to get there. The activities are like ´´Painting,Drawing,doing sports,Cooking.´´ It´s for people who cannot go to school or work.
Doing a walk is a good idea, but now it´s raining.
At least my mom and I watch a tv serie every evening, I´m glad we have some time together, those moments make me feel good. Because I know we can have a good time too, But when we´re all just doing our own thing and when we´re frustrated.. Pff, But we just need a huge life change, we all need that, that will do alot.
About the project partner idea, I think she likes to help me with projects, so that´s a good idea. Maybe I share too much of my probs with her, but at the same time she asks alot about it. She´s overly protective, but she cares for me. That´s really good. But sometimes the frustration of bringing it this way, It hits me. But I know she loves me and I love her so much
Wow long post, sorry