How are you feeling?

Why not point-out that you undervalued yourself from the start and mention all the solid work you've done for the company since? They got a good deal, it's only fair they should recognize it.
But that doesn't reflect well on me that I didn't know my own value, and to be honest, if I was in their position I'd think: "This guy is taking the piss and wants a raise because he knows others have got more." I've done my job as per my new job specification but added major extra value? Probably not enough for the money I want.

Good point, and also in 1 year you'll have more experience (and maybe a little more confidence) and you can say that you've realized that you could get more elsewhere but of course you would prefere to stay with them if they were decent enough to give you what you deserve.
I'm looking at possibly September/October to renegotiate and I'm not sure I can be fully motivated. I'll be a professional and get the job done but go that extra mile? I'm not sure. The office dynamic has changed and I'm not sure I enjoy it, maybe after five years it's time to move on. I don't know.
 

LoyalXenite

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Gus wakes me up every morning at 6:30. The problem is that he takes 5 naps a day so six hours sleep at night is fine for him.

Oh man I do not miss that phase, I would take them out for a pee and then try and get them to sleep again but it rarely worked so I ended up giving them a bunch of toys that were relatively quiet and dozing on and off :LOL:
 
Oh man I do not miss that phase, I would take them out for a pee and then try and get them to sleep again but it rarely worked so I ended up giving them a bunch of toys that were relatively quiet and dozing on and off :LOL:
Oh, I'd happily do that but I worry about him chewing into power cords. He's already so big that putting them out of reach is a no-go. For the time being, he's just dictating my sleep schedule... which ain't all bad. You get so much more done when it's super early, there's no one to get in your way. If I get up at six and go do some errands, I'll be back home by eight. If I get up at eight and do the same errands, it'll be one in the afternoon before I get done.

Still, I'm not a true convert... I'm definitely not singing the praises of pre-dawn wake-ups when it's pitch-black outside and that fat little puppy belly slides across my face. :mad: :LOL:
 
Funny how the folk that claim to love n' care aboot ye only seem to do so when yer gone.... :(

I've felt like an afterthought to my mother for the last 2 years, yet she continues to deny this and tell me that am wrong. :mad: The fact am living off ready-made meals, porridge or cuppa soups has bugger all to do with it. Oh, and how ah only get a cooked meal when my older sister n' nieces visit. Cuz apparently my mobility issue mean am liking to burn the hoose down if am aroon the cooker.

My older sister and nieces seem more welcome in the house than me n' am f__kin' paying to keep things running smoothly. Cannae ask fur even a month to maself cuz that's no nice or fair on the wee yins. But hey, sod the fact my oldest sister is always placing the responsibility o' care for our mother on my shoulder just cuz am still living in the family home. Even though our Mum is too bloody lazy to actually take care of herself. Not that she can't, she just cannae be arse. And would rather spend more time laying on the couch, watching the telly.

My family seems to forget I've got my own life, but they seems to determined to make sure I'm as miserable as them. :mad:
 
Just surviving each day is getting harder and harder and harder and harder.
You'd think I would have run out of tears by now. I don't know how your body can make so many tears, week after week after week. :(

It is very difficult to drive when you have eyes full of tears. I need someone to invent little, soft silicon eye-lens-wipers, to put on when you have to be driving somewhere, but can't stop crying.
 
Just surviving each day is getting harder and harder and harder and harder.
You'd think I would have run out of tears by now. I don't know how your body can make so many tears, week after week after week. :(

It is very difficult to drive when you have eyes full of tears. I need someone to invent little, soft silicon eye-lens-wipers, to put on when you have to be driving somewhere, but can't stop crying.
Sorry yer feeling that way, Blue. Though, I can kinda relate to how yer feeling, given what’s been happening in my life lately. :(
 
I am f__kin’ sick, fed-up wae how ah git treated... :mad: Yet if I ever treat them how they treat me, am the “bad yin” or “no being very nice” Got bloody snapped at, mid-sentence, this morning by ma mother. Aw cuz ah made the merest mention o’ getting house a bit more tidy, since my oldest sister will be away for the weekend n’ the middle child isn’t likely to visit, either. “Aye !! Awrite then... !!”, wus what ah got fur daring to open ma gob ! God for-f__kin’-bid she actually get up off yer lazy arse to do summit productive. But naw, am the yin who supposed tae look after her ! Then, after snapping at me fur nay reason, she’s aw apologetic n’ asking me tae help ! :cautious: :mad:

Seriously starting to think they’d be better without me aroon, since they rarely treat me with the love n’ respect they claim tae huv fur me. :( But hey, am used to it... par for the course being the youngest. Yer always treated like $h!%*
 
Sorry to hear how you've been feeling lately Bluedays and Graeme1988! :( Wish things get better soon!!
Thanks lily, appreciate the concern darlin’. :)

Today wus just pure crap, been in right grumpy mood since my mother snapped at me. :mad: Something I’ll be telling my oldest sister about when she get back, cuz I‘ve had enough o’ being spoken to like that by our mother. It’s only ever me who get treated like that, then am expected to accept the half-arsed apology. My sisters don’t, cuz they storm off, oot the front door, in the huff

Ah very nearly swore at my oldest niece cuz she wus getting on my nerves today as well. Though, if ah did, I’d probably have a few words to say to her mother about how my oldest niece is being raised. Thankfully, though - before going away for the weekend - my oldest sister got my new stereo hooked up to the speakers from my old stereo that I haven’t gotten rid of yet. So I’ve just been blasting my music loud enough to drown out the noise of my niece running about n’ shouting. The only thing that perked me up today was seeing a relatively cheap bass guitar for sale online and deciding to just buy it.
 

lily

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I'm glad sth made your day :) The only thing that made my day today was replying to PM's and eating and drinking sth I liked lol! No, I haven't been doing that all day, it was just a part of my meal.
 

Kiwong

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When having a conversation with some people, I notice they might say something quietly, that I don't quite catch. It's an aside they don't want me to hear. It leaves me thinking do they dissaprove, have I done something wrong?

Equally annoying is the cultural curiosity of the rhetorical question. It happens when someone asks me indirectly a question, often fired at a distance, that I can, but it seems they don't want an answer, just fire an arrow.

Finally when I bring attention to certain behaviours of people, like gossip, it's like suddenly it never happened.
 
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Depressed today, just want to take a couple of Unisom tablets and sleep this one out.
I hope you are feeling a bit better tomorrow, Fountain. At least you have adorable little Gus to snuggle up with you when you're feeling down. (y)

Wish I had a little cute doggy to keep me company when I am at my worst.

I am feeling very lost (mentally).
It's like I got off the bus at the wrong stop in 2014 and have been trying to work out a way to get back home, ever since. Now I'm so lost I've ended up in a city I don't even recognise.
 
I hope you are feeling a bit better tomorrow, Fountain. At least you have adorable little Gus to snuggle up with you when you're feeling down. (y)

Wish I had a little cute doggy to keep me company when I am at my worst.

I am feeling very lost (mentally).
It's like I got off the bus at the wrong stop in 2014 and have been trying to work out a way to get back home, ever since. Now I'm so lost I've ended up in a city I don't even recognise.
I do feel better Blue, thank you.

Gus definitely helps me, he shines like a constellation. I just hate that you can't find a star to see your way home. :(
 
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