How are you feeling?
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MikeyC
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Perhaps that's exactly the thing you could tell your therapist and the two of you can work out how to get past that. You seem to find it quite easy to open up on this site, so the desire to do it is there.
To go from daily drinking to drinking only when stressed is a phenomenal achievement! I have also cut down on drinking, but I was not as heavy a drinker as you were. Good to see that your resolution is working out well for you, my friend.
I'm sorry you feel this way, Phoenixx. :
: I know what that's all about. If you need to chat privately, you can contact me.That's not good! What's wrong?
Hellhound
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MikeyC
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I believe you. As long as you're feeling okay.Don't worry. I'll be fine
KiaKaha
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I am sure a dung beetle wouldnt think you are worthless...
I hope you feel better though x
dottie
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feeling obsessive. not well.
tonight, mutual friends of my ex and i called to check on me. it was a relief to be able to vent and hear unbiased input. they are very well-rounded people whose opinion i trust. they seem surprised by my ex's behavior and admitted they addressed his rationale face-to-face with him the other day. to be honest, i thought he would have charmed everyone's pants off so they wouldn't question him. but they see through him. something is off. i am pretty sure i have my finger on it (specific mental disorder) because it fits the bill.
this hurts and i can't stop obsessing over it. there is more to say but i will leave it at that for now.
tonight, mutual friends of my ex and i called to check on me. it was a relief to be able to vent and hear unbiased input. they are very well-rounded people whose opinion i trust. they seem surprised by my ex's behavior and admitted they addressed his rationale face-to-face with him the other day. to be honest, i thought he would have charmed everyone's pants off so they wouldn't question him. but they see through him. something is off. i am pretty sure i have my finger on it (specific mental disorder) because it fits the bill.
this hurts and i can't stop obsessing over it. there is more to say but i will leave it at that for now.
Graeme1988
Hie yer hence from me heath!
Yeah. I guess. Though, it's a lot easier to open up on this site, knowing I'm not alone in feeling the way I do. Though, I did try talking about the emotional distance I have with my mother during my first session, but y therapist kind of dismissed, in a way.
Besides, I can't really talk openly about my dysfunctional - for lack of a better word - relationship I have with my mum, without getting really upset about it when, and after, I do. :
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MikeyC
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If you get upset talking about your dysfunctional relationship with your mother, then that is precisely what you need to talk about! It's going to be difficult, and your therapist will sympathise and understand, but if it upsets you just to talk about it, it's obviously something that's gnawing away at your mental health.Yeah. I guess. Though, it's a lot easier to open up on this site, knowing I'm not alone in feeling the way I do. Though, I did try talking about the emotional distance I have with my mother during my first session, but y therapist kind of dismissed, in a way.
Besides, I can't really talk openly about my dysfunctional - for lack of a better word - relationship I have with my mum, without getting really upset about it when, and after, I do. :
I'm not saying you should barge in to your therapist's office and start unleashing, but talk about it in increments and see how you feel. It's something that needs to be addressed if it's got that much effect on your well-being.
twiggle
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I hope you're alright, dottie. This all sounds rather difficult - but I'm glad you've got the support of those mutual friends.
KiaKaha
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A bit insecure. And a touch misunderstood. I get the feeling I just bug people. An annoyance. An irritation.
You know I always have this underlying quiet thought in the back of my mind - and it speaks to me constantly - like a whisper - and it says "People dont like you - they can do better. No one wants you around - people want you to go away but they cant tell you this outright - nobody really likes you - they just say that they do"
Going to go offline before I start getting myself wound up.
You know I always have this underlying quiet thought in the back of my mind - and it speaks to me constantly - like a whisper - and it says "People dont like you - they can do better. No one wants you around - people want you to go away but they cant tell you this outright - nobody really likes you - they just say that they do"
Going to go offline before I start getting myself wound up.
MikeyC
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I've said this a thousand times to you, but it's worth saying again: you're not an annoyance to me, or an irritation, and I do like you, sincerely.
I understand your thought patterns, though, because I get them sometimes, too.
Graeme1988
Hie yer hence from me heath!
I can relate there, Kia. I have the exact same thought in the back of my mind as well. I mean, despite you tellin' me the opposite, recently, when I said I wasn't worth knowing. Not true. The same can be said of people not liking you.
I know automatic negative thoughts can be a right pain in the arse. And mess with yer thinkin'. But, don't put yerself down, mate. Which is easier said than done, I know!
MikeyC
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Ooh, this isn't good! What's wrong with your roommate?
Srijita52
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Well, its just that we've nothing in common. Its not a problem though. The thing is it can work if both of us try to adjust without manipulating or changing each other but if she's always going to make me feel like I'm inferior because of being "me" and not "her", its impossible for me to accept that.
Both of you are two wonderful people. I always feel great when I talk to you. Don't let those negative thoughts bring you down. Stay strong.
MikeyC
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If she's making you inferior, then that's a lot more her issue than yours. You're not trying to make her feel inferior because she's not like you, right? That only means that she's not used to being around people so different and she used to people being like her. You're actually at an advantage in that you can deal with different people and she can't, and she doesn't know how to handle it.
Don't let her get you down. If possible, even speak up when she's trying to make you feel low. You don't need to deal with that when you're already trying to tackle your fears by being there in the first place.
Srijita52
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Thanks Mikey, yeah, I'm trying my best. Its getting pretty depressing at times though.
Graeme1988
Hie yer hence from me heath!
Indeed, Srijita.
I've got a therapy session shortly, can't say I'm lookin' forward to it. Since I don't have anything to add to my progress as of late.
Srijita52
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Good luck Graeme, I hope it does help you.