How are you feeling?

[MsBuzzkillington]

I don't know what to do. This is really hard to explain but I will try.

So, there is a music festival, called Ultra in Miami sometime in March. It is quite a big thing: three days, 150 000 people, the best djs from all over the world... I live 4 hours from Miami. My mom proposed my stepbrother and me that she could pay for our tickets (they are very expensive) and we could go. The original plan was for me and my stepbrother to go to Miami with some of our friends: three girls and one other guy. We would then stay over at my mom's apartment for three days alone and that sounds amazing! But then, it turned out that the girls can't go. And so, now I would go with my stepbrother and his friend for three days alone to Miami. And that's the problem... I know, sound like a little child, but I'm scared. I'm scared they won't like it (I'm the only girl, I will feel responsible for them having a good time) and I fear it may get a little crazy. Too crazy. But if I say no, even though I want to really badly, I know my stepbrother will blame me because he can't go without me (my mom is paying for his ticket). I feel so bad that I have to let him down like this, I just can't deal with that. I've lived with him for only a month, I don't want him not to like me. Or maybe I should just go with them?

I'm 16 and I don't know, it seems a little too early to just go with two, 19 year-old guys to one condo, to another city.

I think you should go with them! It's something that you really want to do. He really wants to go down there, so you don't have much to worry about as far as them having a good time. Your step brother and his friend will have fun because they want to go down there. I know it's difficult to not put pressure on yourself in these situations, but you aren't responsible for them having a good time. You can pretty much just tag along for the ride and enjoy things and they will still have a good time, because the music festival will be a blast itself.

I think you will enjoy yourself. Don't let the fear take away a fun experience for you.

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Drummer, so sorry to hear about your parents :/. They sound really exhausting. I wish there was a way I could help you with the situation. Some parents are just clueless I guess.

 

[vj288]

Pretty good. I'm trying to get some friends together to go watch roller derby tomorrow. Right now, it's just me and the one friend I have who is shyer than I am. I'm hoping someone else steps up or it might be a bit awkward.

Someone shyer that yourself! I have never met someone shyer than myself, that may or may not have something to do with the fact I don't meet very many new people but... ::

 

[polishgirl]

Uh that sounds like a lot of fun! Ultra festival is that for electronic music? I really think you should go

I'm feeling quite good this night. Went out spontaneously and met my friends in a bar and met some couple of their friends who were unfamiliar for me. At first it was a bit stiff but then I felt it was quite easy to talk. And it was without being drunk

yes, yes that's the one! The festival sounds amazing... the thing is that I'm just scared what it will look like. They are best friends and I'm also a little worried they might leave me behind. I like being around the two of them but I feel very ignored, and I feel like they would be ready to just leave me in the big crowds and go off alone... However, I am very excited! But then I'm just so scared I will ruin it for them.

and I'm so glad you feel good about tonight! The spontaneous meet ups are always the most fun! No high expectations, no stressing out just before, perfect!

I think you should go with them! It's something that you really want to do. He really wants to go down there, so you don't have much to worry about as far as them having a good time. Your step brother and his friend will have fun because they want to go down there. I know it's difficult to not put pressure on yourself in these situations, but you aren't responsible for them having a good time. You can pretty much just tag along for the ride and enjoy things and they will still have a good time, because the music festival will be a blast itself.

I think you will enjoy yourself. Don't let the fear take away a fun experience for you.

Thank you so much, that's great advice! I think I decided I'm going. Although, as I said before, I'm really, really scared. But you are right, I need to try it you made me realize it's an opportunity I can't miss, I don't think I will have another chance like that

 

[jonas89]

I feel like Im getting sick,, just what I needed :/

 

[coyote]

...I'm 16 and I don't know, it seems a little too early to just go with two, 19 year-old guys to one condo, to another city.

you have every reason to be nervous abut this arrangement

sounds like you're pretty level-headed

if you do decide to go - please be sure not to drink anything that has left your sight or that you didn't open yourself - seriously

 

[Phoenixx]

So much better today than I was yesterday. The depression is still there a bit, but as far as negative thoughts go, my mind isn't so clouded.

Now here's hoping for a much better day.

 

[Rainbow Brite]

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[Graeme1988]

Depressed, struggling with negative thoughts. ::

 

[this_portrait]

I'm annoyed that I can't seem to understand this subject at all.

 

[AsTimeBurns]

What subject?

 

[Little Miss Muffet]

Breakdown in communication

Why am I telling one person something and they cannot seem to understand what im saying: I am screaming inside because either they dont believe me or they dont want to hear.

Maybe people should just stay away from me. people cant hear what im saying. Maybe i am too easily influenced by what they say back to me. I think yeah maybe it will be ok but my original feelings always return. Maybe i supress them but they always return.

 

[pop-princess]

Stressed! As usual i've left all my homework to the last day. Funny thing I should be writing my Spanish essays now but instead I logged in to this forum lol. Uhh, wonder when I will start doing them :|

 

[Nala]

I looked up one of my ex-bullies on Facebook, and noticed he had liked "Social anxiety disorder". A part of me, the paranoid one, thinks he just did it to mock us. He helped create my social phobia, and this feels a bit like a slap in the face.

I hated him. I don't want him to be one of us.

 

[jimmie]

no little miss muffet i will never return to you i will really leave you alone cos i need a girl that smiles and gives me love you are to sad for me

 

[Invisibleman]

Stressed! As usual i've left all my homework to the last day. Funny thing I should be writing my Spanish essays now but instead I logged in to this forum lol. Uhh, wonder when I will start doing them :|

Yeah same im supposed to be working on an english essay but I keep procrastinating and stressing myself out more.

 

[jonas89]

Stressed! As usual i've left all my homework to the last day. Funny thing I should be writing my Spanish essays now but instead I logged in to this forum lol. Uhh, wonder when I will start doing them :|

this is a really classic behavior when it comes to studies

I looked up one of my ex-bullies on Facebook, and noticed he had liked "Social anxiety disorder". A part of me, the paranoid one, thinks he just did it to mock us. He helped create my social phobia, and this feels a bit like a slap in the face.

I hated him. I don't want him to be one of us.

Yeah one of the guys that I really hate that was constantly bullying everyone at school, and I didn't know what to think when he was interviewed by the media about how insecure he was and blablabla and that was only because he was good at sports,,

 

[lonely_drummer]

Im ok but one of my eyes is really really red, it looks really disgusting. It's been like this for a few days but I just put eye drops in now, hopefully that'll do the trick.

 

[twiggle]

I'm listening to the beach boys, and google image searching 'beaches', and subsequently wanting to be on a beach. In the sunshine.

 

[Sartana]

Do you ever have one of those moments where you suddently realise what year you're in?

2010 was 2 years ago? Wow, makes me feel old. :-/

 

[MikeyC]

I'm 16 and I don't know, it seems a little too early to just go with two, 19 year-old guys to one condo, to another city.

I can understand your hesitation because you'd be the only girl among two older guys. It seems like you've already made the decision to go and that's good but I would take coyote's advice and not drink too much (you're 16 so that's highly unlikely anyway) and just be careful.

Do you ever have one of those moments where you suddently realise what year you're in?

2010 was 2 years ago? Wow, makes me feel old. :-/

Haha yeah. I know what you mean. 2010 feels like yesterday.

I'm feeling good. We finally got all the drums recorded for our bands' next album so that's me done! It was a massive day yesterday to get all that completed but I'm glad it's over now. It's up to the other two guys to get their stuff done now!