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FriendlessGirl

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Nanita said:
Yes I know how that is.. My mom has always told me how I couldn´t do this and that. Whenever I´ve told her about an idea, a wish, a plan, she goes "do you believe that´s smart" / "how are you gonna afford that" / "that sounds difficult to achieve". By now I am so tired of her and the way she´s putting me down, that I rarely tell her about anything. I try to keep the conversation subjects to basic boring stuff, I don´t want to share anything important with her anymore.
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^This is exactly how I feel right now. If she continues to be like this I might also not share anything with her in the future.
 
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James_ said:
Hmm ... sorry you feel awful. You're right, she just wants to protect you, but she needs to understand that unless, instead of discouraging you from doing things you're uncomfortable with, she gives you the support and encouragement you need, you're never going to be able to get the confidence you need to not be scared. If she really wants to do what's best for you, I think she should understand if you tell her that you want to try things when you have the courage for them. I know it's hard to talk about things like this to parents ... but they need to understand, and I'm sure they will.

Try talking about it with her if you can ... I hate asking my parents for things, and asking them to see things from where I'm standing, but some of the best things have come out of doing it when I've been able to.

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I have tried talking to her, in fact many times but she just doesn't listen! She gets all emotional like 'Fine if that's what you want to do then do it, don't care for me. If you think you're old enough to ignore your parents then I've nothing to say' then she gets all mad and stops talking to me. I really don't know what should I do...
 
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Beatrice

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In so much pain. Just when my nose clears up a little bit, my stomach starts hurting like a mofo. "If it's not one thing, it's another," my favorite saying lately.
 
superfluouslyme

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upndwn said:
I had to put one of my chinchillas down today, she had been sick for a long time, and when I found her in the cage she could barely move or breathe and was squealing at the slightest touch. I'm feeling pretty depressed right now. The girl I'm in love with can't decide if she wants to get back with her ex or stay with me, and even though she calls to say she miss me and that she cares about me, she refuses to be with me alone so I can't really tell her how I feel. It feels like her ex is holding her back and she's to scared to hurt me so she's avoiding me. Sometimes I think life would be easier without all these emotions. ::(:
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Aw, I'm sorry. ::(: Losing a pet is hard, especially something as cute and cuddly as a chinchilla. As for this girl, she's giving me strange vibes from what you've said about her. Have you told her that this back and forth with emotions is driving you crazy? If you feel that it's been going on for too long, maybe it's time to give her an ultimatum... I don't know, I've never been in a relationship, but I certainly wouldn't put up with her indecision for too long.

MaliceInWickedland said:
Slightly better. Still in the mood to see some heads roll.
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Me, too.
yeah yeah yeahs - heads will roll - YouTube

FriendlessGirl said:
I feel awful. My parents have always been overprotective and it contributed to my SA a lot. Particularly my mom, everytime I gather courage to finally do something new, she is always there to discourage me by saying that I can't do it cos I'm not like everyone else and I get scared too easily. I know all she wants is to protect me but this really feels horrible.
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My parents, particularly my mom, have always been a bit protective and tend to coddle me. I sat her down on day and told her that I didn't want that any more. I may not be the most functional 24 year old in the world, but I want to start working towards that. I don't know how old you are or what you've talked to her about, but that worked for me. She's knows that I'm going to take steps forward and backward here and there, but I'm always working on taking those steps forward. Sometimes I need her to set me in the right direction again, but sometimes I just need her to step back and let me do the work myself. We actually had a conversation recently where she revealed that this whole thing isn't easy on her either. She doesn't now how to act around me: coddle or push. So take that into mind as well. She may not know how to deal with it all. It isn't easy for us, but it's hard on our families as well. I hope that helps in some way. :)

Dead_on_Arrival said:
Back from 2 hour lesson.....

Wow. Relief.

Apparently I am a natural driver. Shouldn't take long to pass
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Good on you, mate! (I love saying that. I say it all the time now!)

In crazy news, I went to bed at 10pm and woke at 6:30am. WHAT?! I took a sleeping aide so I would get some sleep before my therapist appointment. I've taken three of them in the past month and they work like a charm. But everyone tells me not to take them because they can be addicting. I don't know what to do.
 
Insane1

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FriendlessGirl said:
I feel awful. My parents have always been overprotective and it contributed to my SA a lot. Particularly my mom, everytime I gather courage to finally do something new, she is always there to discourage me by saying that I can't do it cos I'm not like everyone else and I get scared too easily. I know all she wants is to protect me but this really feels horrible.
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Same here,and I'm a guy.. I'm almost 17 years old and she's treating me like a 3 year old. She doesen't realise she won't be able to protect me forever.. :<
 
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superfluouslyme said:
Aw, I'm sorry. ::(: Losing a pet is hard, especially something as cute and cuddly as a chinchilla. As for this girl, she's giving me strange vibes from what you've said about her. Have you told her that this back and forth with emotions is driving you crazy? If you feel that it's been going on for too long, maybe it's time to give her an ultimatum... I don't know, I've never been in a relationship, but I certainly wouldn't put up with her indecision for too long.



Me, too.
yeah yeah yeahs - heads will roll - YouTube



My parents, particularly my mom, have always been a bit protective and tend to coddle me. I sat her down on day and told her that I didn't want that any more. I may not be the most functional 24 year old in the world, but I want to start working towards that. I don't know how old you are or what you've talked to her about, but that worked for me. She's knows that I'm going to take steps forward and backward here and there, but I'm always working on taking those steps forward. Sometimes I need her to set me in the right direction again, but sometimes I just need her to step back and let me do the work myself. We actually had a conversation recently where she revealed that this whole thing isn't easy on her either. She doesn't now how to act around me: coddle or push. So take that into mind as well. She may not know how to deal with it all. It isn't easy for us, but it's hard on our families as well. I hope that helps in some way. :)
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^Thanks and you're right, its not easy for her as she also suffers from anxiety. Maybe she just gets cofused about how to deal with me. I'll try talking to her again, hope she understands this time.
 
Phoenixx

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Beatrice said:
Words cannot describe my happiness. I got a dorm. And it has private bathrooms and huge beds, and temperature control. It used to be a hotel I guess. I'll be moving in Wednesday night.

I AM SO FREAKING EXCITED!!!!! :D


Here's a link on it if anyone's curious:

Inn and Conference Center : Residence Life : UMass Lowell
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^ That's awesome, Beat! :) The dorms I'm in now just suck. There's absolutely no temp. control here whatsoever, so the room is often super cold in the fall/winter, and it was super hot at the end of summer. The beds aren't too bad though, but I really hate having to use a public restroom. :S

Thankfully, I get a new dorm in December, since they're in the process of building them now (almost done!). They're like suites, complete with a little entry/study area, shared (or separate, whichever you choose) bedroom, and a private bathroom. I can't wait! It'll be much bigger than this old dorm I'm in now. And once everyone moves in the new dorms, this building will be tore down and then they'll build another dorm from there.
 
DeadmanWalking

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Beatrice said:
Words cannot describe my happiness. I got a dorm. And it has private bathrooms and huge beds, and temperature control. It used to be a hotel I guess. I'll be moving in Wednesday night.

I AM SO FREAKING EXCITED!!!!! :D


Here's a link on it if anyone's curious:

Inn and Conference Center : Residence Life : UMass Lowell
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Congrats, Beatrice:D! Private bathrooms, temp. control and big beds make for one awesome dorm room! You don't have to share anything with over 3,000 people, shower when you want to, and all of a room's conviences stored in one magnificent room! Oh, how I love it! Good luck in college;)!
 
vj288

vj288

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Beatrice said:
Words cannot describe my happiness. I got a dorm. And it has private bathrooms and huge beds, and temperature control. It used to be a hotel I guess. I'll be moving in Wednesday night.

I AM SO FREAKING EXCITED!!!!! :D


Here's a link on it if anyone's curious:

Inn and Conference Center : Residence Life : UMass Lowell
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Sounds like is was worth the wait, eh? Temperature control is the best, last year I didn't have and it was always 100 degrees in my room, and this year I do and it's soo much better.
 
twiggle

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Literally just rolled in from my fitness class. Lots of running tonight. Some old joker made a comment about laughing with me not at me as I panted round a cone. Well ho-dilly-ho-ho!
& I swallowed a fly whilst running. To regurgitate or not to regurgitate? That is the question.
Ha.
Exercise puts me in a strange mood.
 
Waybuloo

Waybuloo

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Posted on here a day ago about having had enough in my relationship. Don't know why this didn't show. Not my bf hacking into my account and deleting stuff?

Anyhow I still feel the same. Maybe someday will pick up the courage and kill him.
 
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