Dark angel
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I mean, really. The other day I had a surprise birthday party with which I wasn't very happy about. The woman who made the indirect comment is an acquaintance of my family because she is the mother of one of my brother's friends. My mom usually does not invite her to stuff we do over here but because she is usually by herself in her house my mom told her to come over. This happened a week ago or so and I wasn't aware of the fact she said that. But yesterday my mom and I were chatting and her name came up. Mom decided to tell me that this lady started asking questions about me. She asked if I already graduated college, if I have a job, and then she asked my mom if I had a boyfriend. Now, those close to me know, that I've never being in a relationship.(not by own choices though, I just think I'm not attractive enough) Mom hesitated to tell me her comment but what this lady basically said was: "Hmmm I think she will never..." and made a face gesture. My mom got so angry but contained herself, didn't let her finish and she told her that she didn't mind If I didn't find the right person. That all she cared was of me being a good daughter and achieving my future goals and plans instead of dating the young guys of today with no good intentions and that she loved the fact of having me here.( I still live with her)When mom said this to me I was quite shocked. Not entirely because of the comment but because the nerve this lady had of saying that to my mom. I mean, yes I've contemplated the idea that probably I'll never get married, have kids or any of those and I've being trying my whole life to accept it as it may come. But then, this person comes and says out loud one of my biggest fears and insecurities. I felt so bad afterwards and try to hold up the tears that were building up but I didn't want to say anything to my mom to not scare her or worry her. Mostly I didn't felt bad only for myself but because of my mom. I don't want to feel bad or feel like she needs to take care of me and overprotect me from others and I could tell she was quite sad and worried for my reaction. I haven't being able to stop thinking about it.
Fine, I really don't want to make getting married and having children a priority because I am definitely not ready for kids. But I'm in my mid 20's, what if I wind up all alone? The only people I have around and I can count on is my brother and my mom and she isn't getting younger.
Oh and to top things up, the same day of the party a group of friends also asked the same damn question! Ugh! One of the girls said: "Oh, and do you have a boyfriend?" I replied the same old answer I give every damn year and all the others went: "really? you don't?" And then the girl that made the question went all captain obvious and said "Oh, but in all the years I've known you, you have NEVER( she really emphasized the word never) had a boyfriend" And all I answered was that she was right. I had to explain because their damn curiosity didn't stop there. So I simply said, that no one has ever came or shown interest in me( Just once, a long time ago and the ones that later said anything to me, I didn't feel anything for them except endearment).
I don't really get it. Who the hell invented or made it a damn law or requirement that you NEED to be married or in a couple to be able to survive or coexist in this world!?! Who? Because I didn't get the memo. Really, people need to get used to the fact that not everyone is as lucky to find that other half, or has the desire to start a family. We are not damn clones of one another.:kickingmyself:
Fine, I really don't want to make getting married and having children a priority because I am definitely not ready for kids. But I'm in my mid 20's, what if I wind up all alone? The only people I have around and I can count on is my brother and my mom and she isn't getting younger.
Oh and to top things up, the same day of the party a group of friends also asked the same damn question! Ugh! One of the girls said: "Oh, and do you have a boyfriend?" I replied the same old answer I give every damn year and all the others went: "really? you don't?" And then the girl that made the question went all captain obvious and said "Oh, but in all the years I've known you, you have NEVER( she really emphasized the word never) had a boyfriend" And all I answered was that she was right. I had to explain because their damn curiosity didn't stop there. So I simply said, that no one has ever came or shown interest in me( Just once, a long time ago and the ones that later said anything to me, I didn't feel anything for them except endearment).
I don't really get it. Who the hell invented or made it a damn law or requirement that you NEED to be married or in a couple to be able to survive or coexist in this world!?! Who? Because I didn't get the memo. Really, people need to get used to the fact that not everyone is as lucky to find that other half, or has the desire to start a family. We are not damn clones of one another.:kickingmyself:
I know it sucks... >_<
