Do you or do you not want kids?

Labyrinthine

Labyrinthine

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So torn.

On one hand, I think I'm far too self-seeking to ever be a successful parent. Though, I have heard that changes when one has a child..

On the other hand, I'm afraid I'd regret not having one later in life. Which I realize is a very selfish reason. XD
 
MissPsychNerd

MissPsychNerd

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In the future, sure. But I'll only want one when I get over my social anxiety. I'm scared that if I have kids when I still have SA that I'll raise them to be socially anxious, too and if that's gonna be the case, I'd rather not...
 
PhantomPod

PhantomPod

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I do want kids, actually. Or, at least one kid. However, I am 25 already and I feel like I'm never going to have a boyfriend/husband. Also, I don't really want to go through pregnancy and child birth. So, I then I thought that maybe I would adopt a baby and be a single parent. But being a single parent would be a ton of work. So, who am I kidding, I'll probably never have kids.

I have a 2 year old dog at least. And she's my little baby.
 
Phoenixx

Phoenixx

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Solitudes_Grace said:
I never want any kids of my own, but sometimes I think it might be cool if I had a niece in the future.
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^ Same here!

I don't want kids, at all. My mother really wants grandkids, and she's already pressuring me. Mind you, I haven't even had a boyfriend yet and I only just finished my first year of college. :rolleyes: I tell her she won't have any grandkids from me, but she can settle for grandpuppies and grandkitties. :) I also tell her not to look at me, but to look at my brother. I'm pretty sure he's going to have kids in the future. Over the last two years he's changed a lot as far as relationships and settling down goes. I would not mind being an aunt. I would love spoiling the kid and I wouldn't mind babysitting once in a while.
 
karl:-/

karl:-/

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As long as the child I have is fit nd healthy I dont care about what sex the child is male/female. Just as long as its healthy. Maybe I'd adopt to save the unwanted children... Why not I say,its better than over population due to ****ers spreading their seed Willy nilly nd forgetting about their offspring. I'm no maddona but I'm sure I'll do just as good a job than her... I'm pist can you tell??
 
MarionBerry

MarionBerry

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It seems most of the responders don't want kids. I fall into the same boat. I was on the fence about it when I was younger, maybe and maybe not. But then those shows on TLC about childbirth, A Baby Story or something, which followed expectant parents through pregnancy and childbirth totally sealed the deal for me NOT to have kids. Way too much pain and squeezing watermelons through garden hoses.

A part of me still hoped maybe someday my prince would come and I'd change my mind. Sometimes I'd even pick out baby names, Aurora for a girl and Reed for a boy. And then I got my BPD diagnosis and decided I never ever want to be off meds again so pregnancy is out of the question. My body made the decision for me and I'm fine with it.
 
PhillyFlyersGrl

PhillyFlyersGrl

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When I was 17 to about..24 I didn't want kids either. Mostly I was scared to bring kids into this world and I also just didn't have the right partner. Truthfully though this world is good and bad..all I saw was bad..and sometimes still do. I guess because its what is mostly pushed in our faces, there's a lot of beauty and good things but that doesn't make headlines I guess. Anyway I am pregnant with my first child, I'm 31yrs. So yeah I changed my mind lol..this child is 100% on purpose. I have the right partner and plus every generation I'm sure before me has struggled with the same worries I have. I have no idea what kind of mother I'm going to make, I'm just going to do the best I can.
 
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JRT

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no i don't.

i actually think its selfish TO HAVE kids.

There is no need to have them , the human race will not run out anytime soon ,and thats why species reproduce in the 1st place, to keep the species going.

I would not want to bring another person into this awful world.

Its too damn expensive.

To think of something growing inside of me makes me want to vomit.

People say you will change your mind when you hit 30... im 35 and still do not want it, ive known since i knew about the birds and bees.

some people have kids cos it fills their own big ego, to have power over someone .

no thank you
 
recluse

recluse

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^ Same here. I could never look after a kid because i can't even look after myself. It's totally selfish to bring a child up if you don't have the emotional and financial capacity to do so.
 
Section_31

Section_31

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ive thought more about this.

I dont WANT or PLAN kids....but lets face it and call a duck a duck. Sex is fun. People like it. It happens. Sometimes life tends to be full of suprises.

If it DID happen, id hope id have a girl. I dont know why but for some reason the thought of a daughter scares me less than the thought of a son.....Either way though, id do my best to be the best dad i could be....

That said im STILL not going out of my way for that!!!
 
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Silatuyok

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JRT said:
To think of something growing inside of me makes me want to vomit.
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Having something growing inside you will also make you vomit. I think it's funny that the natural response to conceiving a child is for the body to revolt against itself. Doesn't really make sense.
 
coyote

coyote

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The Lone Gunman said:
ive thought more about this.

I dont WANT or PLAN kids....but lets face it and call a duck a duck. Sex is fun. People like it. It happens. Sometimes life tends to be full of suprises.

If it DID happen, id hope id have a girl. I dont know why but for some reason the thought of a daughter scares me less than the thought of a son.....Either way though, id do my best to be the best dad i could be....

That said im STILL not going out of my way for that!!!
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i have one word for you then - vasectomy
 
Section_31

Section_31

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Ha, slight problem there coy ;).

Doctors up here wont perform a vasectomy unless a man already has a child or more. Or so ive been told by several doctors >.<
 
coyote

coyote

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The Lone Gunman said:
Ha, slight problem there coy ;).

Doctors up here wont perform a vasectomy unless a man already has a child or more. Or so ive been told by several doctors >.<
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who said anything about doctors?

all you need is an Exacto knife and a soldering iron

and a bag of frozen peas
 
Bubo

Bubo

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Sometimes I think I might like having children, but then reality hits me. I'm not well enough to care for children (or myself half the time), I would probably end up neglecting them in some way and I don't want to hurt anyone like that. I have toyed with the idea of being a surrogate for someone, but I'm too pro-adoption to be comfortable with bringing another life into this world. And in terms of biological kids, I don't want to give any of my genes for anyone else, nobody deserves that kind of fate. Plus I'd have to find someone to make babies and god knows that's never gonna happen.

So yeah. The only babies I want to raise are of the avian variety.
 
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