Starry
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It's funny, you remind me a lot of my husband's uncle... And he has said that exact same thing!
However, I don't think either of you has inferior genes.
Do you or do you not want kids?
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It's funny, you remind me a lot of my husband's uncle... And he has said that exact same thing!
However, I don't think either of you has inferior genes.
ForeverTheWeirdKid
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It's my purpose to contribute to this world in another way. I'll leave childbirth to normal people. I love kids though.
Section_31
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I suppose mine is a divided answer.
DO i want/plan to have kids?. No. There are already too many ppl in this world. That and i dnot think id make a good father. I like kids...like my nephews and niece, but i really have no idea what to do with a child. I dont want my messed up genes in the pool. That and i honestly dont know if ill ever make enough in my lifetime to comfortably provide for a child and everything they need.
Having said that. Accidents happen. To be blunt, people like sex. Its fun. I dont want to be celibate. Take precautions as much as possible, but if things happen, then id absolutely man up and do the best i could. It would be no fault of the kids, and id want him to have a fair shake at things.
Just my thoughts.
DO i want/plan to have kids?. No. There are already too many ppl in this world. That and i dnot think id make a good father. I like kids...like my nephews and niece, but i really have no idea what to do with a child. I dont want my messed up genes in the pool. That and i honestly dont know if ill ever make enough in my lifetime to comfortably provide for a child and everything they need.
Having said that. Accidents happen. To be blunt, people like sex. Its fun. I dont want to be celibate. Take precautions as much as possible, but if things happen, then id absolutely man up and do the best i could. It would be no fault of the kids, and id want him to have a fair shake at things.
Just my thoughts.
That's one reason I forgot to mention.
CillaHasBrainActivity
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Oh, GOD NO. I would never have kids. I hate them. I have nothing in common with them, they annoy me, and they have the IQ of, well, of little kids.
Keep them away and keep them away forever.
Keep them away and keep them away forever.
Section_31
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ah.....
Untill last night i didnt want them. I STILL dont. But im feeling an unspoken pressure from my family to do so.
Untill last night i didnt want them. I STILL dont. But im feeling an unspoken pressure from my family to do so.
MikeyC
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Don't let other people pressure you into children. It's a huge, life-changing event so it's only something you know when to be ready for.
nightcrawler
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I soooooooooooo DON'T want kids! And for so many reasons too. Just off the top of my head...1) The social anxiety side of having a kid (taking them to school, docs, day outs etc). 2) For selfish reasons; I want to do what I want in my free time - kids change that completely. 3) Financial; they are expensive! 4) You need a lot of patient with kids - I am not a patient person 5) The "chores" of having a kid; cleaning them, changing their nappy/diper, feeding them etc. 6) Getting sleep. Having a kid would almost ruin what little sleep I get now. 7) They can be hugely annoying! 8)...I could go on & on
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Lonelykitsune
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Dunno. I always though I didn't want them but I've just spent 2 weeks looking after a little kid and am feeling a bit broody lol.
Reasons I don't want them:
Overpopulation
Hard work
Responsiblity and worry for them in this ****ty world of ours.
Pain of childbirth
Chance of them having SA
Chance of them having a serious mental of medical illness or disablity, how would I cope?
Not keen on teenagers
My own SA
Reasons I do:
I just sort of want one, but not for a few years.
I want grandkids.
Natural instinct I suppose?
I'll see how I feel in 10 years time, how I stand emotionally, financially and physically and whether I've found the right person to have them with. And how the rest of the country is at that time recession and peace-wise (in case China starts WWIII or something).
Kind of annoying how short womens fertility is. I need time to think and plan for christs sake.
Reasons I don't want them:
Overpopulation
Hard work
Responsiblity and worry for them in this ****ty world of ours.
Pain of childbirth
Chance of them having SA
Chance of them having a serious mental of medical illness or disablity, how would I cope?
Not keen on teenagers
My own SA
Reasons I do:
I just sort of want one, but not for a few years.
I want grandkids.
Natural instinct I suppose?
I'll see how I feel in 10 years time, how I stand emotionally, financially and physically and whether I've found the right person to have them with. And how the rest of the country is at that time recession and peace-wise (in case China starts WWIII or something).
Kind of annoying how short womens fertility is. I need time to think and plan for christs sake.
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No I dont want kids, and the biggest reason for that is fear..there is just no turning back and the change in my life would be so dramatically so much I fear losing controll to the point of becoming crazy.
Besides that I dont think I would be good father that deals with depression anxiety socially inept....my own father didnt gave me the social needs I needed as a child and is one of the reasons I got social phobia, after knowing how my parents raised me I wouldnt let my own child go through that and he also has a higher chance of developing anxiety disorders which I wouldnt wish on my worst enemies
Besides that I dont think I would be good father that deals with depression anxiety socially inept....my own father didnt gave me the social needs I needed as a child and is one of the reasons I got social phobia, after knowing how my parents raised me I wouldnt let my own child go through that and he also has a higher chance of developing anxiety disorders which I wouldnt wish on my worst enemies
I'm torn about this honestly but I'm leaning more towards not having kids.
Raising them is going to cost a bomb and the mere thought of being responsible for another human being and shaping their worldview stresses me out. I'm not sure I could handle it. Not to mention there's the issue of genes... chances are my kid will inherit a predisposition to anxiety. It runs in my family, it seems.
Hell, the world is overpopulated as it is anyway. Maybe I'll adopt or something if I decide I want a kid. Or maybe I'll just settle for having 10 cats.
Raising them is going to cost a bomb and the mere thought of being responsible for another human being and shaping their worldview stresses me out. I'm not sure I could handle it. Not to mention there's the issue of genes... chances are my kid will inherit a predisposition to anxiety. It runs in my family, it seems.
Hell, the world is overpopulated as it is anyway. Maybe I'll adopt or something if I decide I want a kid. Or maybe I'll just settle for having 10 cats.
Solitudes_Grace
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I never want any kids of my own, but sometimes I think it might be cool if I had a niece in the future.
1BlackSheep
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I like that idea!
chibiXphantom
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id like to have kids, just one or two. i already have a few names im considering if i have kids someday
the only reason i wouldnt want kids is because of the actual birthing process, the pain, and the fear that something would go terribly wrong
the only reason i wouldnt want kids is because of the actual birthing process, the pain, and the fear that something would go terribly wrong
Yes, I've always wanted kids. I love them. I understand not wanting them--not wanting to deal with the extra responsibility, especially if you're very career-oriented and you know you won't have much time and energy...but I've never understood people who hate kids. I also don't understand how most people will agree that "hate" is a very strong word, one that should be used sparingly for maybe one or two people you've met in your life, but at the same time there is this double standard where it's socially acceptable to pair it with children.
Having said that, I don't see myself with kids until I've gone through some drastic changes and I might be too old for them when I'm ready. At this rate, I don't really see it happening.
Having said that, I don't see myself with kids until I've gone through some drastic changes and I might be too old for them when I'm ready. At this rate, I don't really see it happening.
MikeyC
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Yeah. I think I'd make an okay uncle.
