Cosmetic surgery

[Slytherin88]

Has anyone had cosmetic surgery in an attempt to curb their depression or to 'cure' their issues in a way? I'm steadily saving money for breast implants in order to actually be able to have a relationship in the future and not die alone. Was wondering if anyone has been though surgery?

 

[NathanielWingatePeaslee]

If I like a girl, I don't care if she's flat-chested or has huge boobs.

Fake boobs are a definite deal breaker, though. Iew.

 

[ForeverTheWeirdKid]

Men appreciate all bodie types, despite what they project. Love is love you don't need breast implants.

 

[BlueDays]

I believe if you have to get your healthy body cut and put a foreign object in your chest to get a guy to love you, then those guys are not worth being in a relationship with anyway.
There are men who can love a girl the way she is.
Being with a man who requires you to change yourself physically (when you are already healthy) is worse then being alone imo.

 

[Steiner]

I like the flat girls though. Ka wai i

 

[Pacific_Loner]

I understand that everyone wants to say that breast size and general appearance doesn't matter because it's more politically correct, but I'm not sure it's really honest

 

[Steiner]

I understand that everyone wants to say that breast size and general appearance doesn't matter because it's more politically correct, but I'm not sure it's really honest

True. I won't lie. Looks do matter but you also have to think of people's different tastes. What may be hideous to one person may be delightful to another.

 

[nodejesque]

I've contemplated surgery... but not breast enhancement. Ultimately its your decision... but some things to consider:
Big boobs:
back pain/problems
you'll need expensive "good" bras
being further objectified by society
possibility of botched job

 

[Slytherin88]

The point is not that the guy likes it, it is so I feel comfortable enough to be with said guy.

 

[Odo]

I've thought about it and sometimes I feel like I could actually go through with it, but ultimately I'd rather spend the money on other things.

 

[jaim38]

Who are you trying to impress? Just wondering because I heard men can be split mainly into 2 different types: 'butt men' and 'boob men'. Some countries value one part of the body over the other. 'Boob men' are probably more prevalent in UK and US than in, say Latin America. You live in the UK so if you move to another country, you would have to adjust your appearance, say get butt boosting injections, in order to conform to the beauty standards of that country and appeal to the men there. I'm just saying, this need to conform to beauty standards is a never-ending battle.

 

[Flanscho]

Has anyone had cosmetic surgery in an attempt to curb their depression or to 'cure' their issues in a way? I'm steadily saving money for breast implants in order to actually be able to have a relationship in the future and not die alone. Was wondering if anyone has been though surgery?

If you think that small breasts are going to help you get a lasting relationship, you are so utterly wrong... I mean seriously: with big boobs, all that is going to change is that you attract a certain type of men for one night stands. That's all that's going to change. Long lasting relationships have absolutely nothing to do with the size of your cleavage.

If you actually do that, it will backfire hard.

Myself, I never thought about beauty surgery. I'm no fan of that. I'm in my early 30s, and my hair is getting thinner. So what? Once it's too visible, I'll just shave most of it off. I'd rather age with dignity than trying to alter my body surgically.

 

[THeCARS1979]

At one time I lost all my hair on top and I couldnt deal with it anymore. I know they say shave your head and just go bald , its the modern thing to do. It wasnt modern for me Im One day I found myself going to Hairclub and joining for awhile, its going on 16 months ago that I had a hair transplant and abracadabra my hair grew back! I now have a style I always wanted. its the best thing I ever did. Its longer in the back and about 3 inches on top parted in the midle , going down the side like the bassist Benjamin Orr of the CARS once had. A look of about 1979 1980. I have a new found confidence but I still need to work on the girl dating thing.

Ps anyone whos losing their hair do not use anything over the counter for shampoo , you have to go to a salon and use products without sulfates and alcohol. Those dry out your hair. And this goes for women too

 

[Psychedelicious]

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Well, I have had cosmetic surgery on one facial feature, not the breasts. I think the biggest mistake you can make is thinking that this will 'cure' your issues or get a boyfriend so easily. It won't. If you want to have this surgery, you need to go in with real expectations and know that it is very likely you'll feel just as depressed or bad about yourself as you did before. I don't think big breasts really guarantee anyone a boyfriend. The only way I can see this helping you get a boyfriend is if it changes your own confidence level in having and maintaining a relationship. If you want to have surgery it's your decision, but it's best to go in with real expectations, otherwise you might come out of this experience extremely disappointed and depressed. I understand how you're feeling and why you'd want it, I did the exact same sort of thing.

 

[kilojoule]

Has anyone had cosmetic surgery in an attempt to curb their depression or to 'cure' their issues in a way? I'm steadily saving money for breast implants in order to actually be able to have a relationship in the future and not die alone. Was wondering if anyone has been though surgery?

Ok this took me all of my 20s to realise. The media is totalllllllllllllly wrong. All men do not want busty women. Some men prefer small boobs, some men prefer medium boobs, some men prefer big boobs. If your reason for having the surgery is to attract men....then you are misguided. All men are attracted to confidence, you'd be better off investing in your self esteem and self confidence.

However if you want to do this for your own personal reasons, then that is totally your choice, just make sure you are doing it for you and not someone else. Also be advised there are issues that come with big boobs.

Back pain is a bitch
You can try on the same top that your friend wears and while she looks cute in it, you will look slutty, everything looks slutty. Its almost impossible not to look slutty. Shopping is a nightmare, every tshirt you try on is like a belly top. Dresses are shorter because you lose boob fabric.
People will always talk to your boobs.
As you age, they will sag more.
If you ever have kids you will probably go up two or three sizes and then you can be in danger of taking someones eye out.

These are things worth considering. If at the end of the day you've weighed it all out and it's what you want to do and you're doing it for yourself, then it is totally your decision. In that case, you should talk to different surgeons. And research places, I have heard about a few dodgy places giving women unsafe implants and not the backstreet places either, the household name ones so be careful.Best of luck though with your decision and don't allow people to judge you over it either way, it's your body.


Now to address this.

I mean seriously: with big boobs, all that is going to change is that you attract a certain type of men for one night stands.

This is absolute nonsense Flanscho and I'm sure if you think about it, you'll realise that there's no point in even trying to defend this statement.

 

[BlackPuma]

As an outsider the best I can do is advice against it, as I've heard more stories of it merely working as a temporary fix for confidence.

But at the end of the day you know yourself better than anyone else. Before you go ahead and do it, consider whether you can work on resolving the confidence issue before undergoing a physical change.

While a bigger breast size might make you more desirable to men that exclusively like a bigger bust, cosmetic surgery also comes with a sizable quantity of taboo and prejudges. It might in turn be another source of lack of confidence. It's something to consider.

Also note that body type preference isn't always black and white. On a personal note; When it comes to physical aesthetics I can find attraction in both bigger- as well as the smaller, breasts. Nor would I really care if someone had any kind of cosmetic surgery done. I on the other hand find bad habits deal breakers. And I'm sure there's other that do too. So even when someone expresses interest in bigger breasts, it needn't mean that it is the only thing they find attractive.


What I meant with the last bit, is that there's many people for whom your current looks would suffice just fine. Maybe you could try and find confidence in that? But no matter what, this is your decision and you should stick with whatever you decide. Just consider the pros, cons and alternate solutions first.

 

[TreeofKnowledge]

I dunno about you but I'm content wearing bras with a little extra padding. I actually happen to really like my natural boobs...when I'm topless. As soon as I put something on they get squished and I look like an A-cup. The padding in my bra makes me feel more confidant about myself and I just feel all around better proportioned. It helps that I have a boyfriend who likes my boobs exactly as they are, therefore my advice is to find a guy who likes your smaller chest (so that you can feel confidant around him) and wear a push-up bra if you need confidence in daily life. If none of that works for you, then consider surgery.

 

[Zod]

I'm what you could call a boobs-guy, but I just want to say that silicon boobs (from what I've seen in porn video's) often look very hard and too round as opposed to natural breasts which are more soft, more saggy and move more jiggly. It's a turn off when breasts are stale like that.

I definately would prefer a girl with natural breasts, no matter what size, and I think most men agree. Breasts are nice, but not everything. There's much more when it comes to physical attraction. And beauty is in the eye of the beholder, for sure. There's no such thing as a one size fits all beauty standard.

 

[Odo]

All people like different physical things but OP said this is something that she wants to go for herself, not for other people.

OP I think maybe your problem is that you're too hard on yourself and not hard enough on other people. Sometimes you can get it into your head that you have this thing and then you can't stop thinking about it and the thing becomes so huge that you can't see past it enough to realize that there are freaky things about the other person as well. I think that everyone has at least one thing. And if they don't, then it still doesn't matter because all that's important is that they really care about you and you really care about them... if you have that then the other stuff doesn't matter.

As a guy, I can say that we all have things that we like, but they're not even close to being the most important thing in a relationship. I really don't think he's going to see your boobs and say 'Wow... that really ruins everything', and if he does then he's a ****.

I had a lot of issues with that too (I think you mean you want to be physically intimate but you feel ashamed of the way you look, right?) and it was kind of a barrier to intimacy for a while but in the end I just decided to go for it and not worry... people aren't as mean as you might think, and sometimes they don't even notice.

 

[THeCARS1979]

Ok this took me all of my 20s to realise. The media is totalllllllllllllly wrong. All men do not want busty women. Some men prefer small boobs, some men prefer medium boobs, some men prefer big boobs. If your reason for having the surgery is to attract men....then you are misguided. All men are attracted to confidence, you'd be better off investing in your self esteem and self confidence.

However if you want to do this for your own personal reasons, then that is totally your choice, just make sure you are doing it for you and not someone else. Also be advised there are issues that come with big boobs.

Back pain is a bitch
You can try on the same top that your friend wears and while she looks cute in it, you will look slutty, everything looks slutty. Its almost impossible not to look slutty. Shopping is a nightmare, every tshirt you try on is like a belly top. Dresses are shorter because you lose boob fabric.
People will always talk to your boobs.
As you age, they will sag more.
If you ever have kids you will probably go up two or three sizes and then you can be in danger of taking someones eye out.

These are things worth considering. If at the end of the day you've weighed it all out and it's what you want to do and you're doing it for yourself, then it is totally your decision. In that case, you should talk to different surgeons. And research places, I have heard about a few dodgy places giving women unsafe implants and not the backstreet places either, the household name ones so be careful.Best of luck though with your decision and don't allow people to judge you over it either way, it's your body.


Now to address this.




This is absolute nonsense Flanscho and I'm sure if you think about it, you'll realise that there's no point in even trying to defend this statement.

Yeah even my favorite celebrity and female singer of all time, Superstar Avril Lavigne doesnt have a big chest and your right , we dont like them enormous