Since confidence is such a desirable trait and all that, my question is this: how does one
acquire it?
by accomplishing meaningful things that are important to you
widening your 'area of comfort'
doing constructive things even if you fear'em...
seeing the good things you've done and good characteristics you have - might wanna make a list
(sometimes easier said than done)
Baby steps, yup!
Confidence is for me 'confidence in specific situations' - new situation, and it can get scary again.. So getting to know people, locations, etc can all help...
For example, after you do some things well, you can kinda get the confidence to do similar things well..
My confidence goes from -130 to +10, depending on how I feel, and what I'm doing, and how successful I am in things I find important..
Right now, maybe -120, because I don't know how to do something.. but even less than 24 hours ago it was +10 cause I managed to do something I feared and it went well..
For a significant other, it's important that he doesn't have too much confidence (yup, can be annoying) - if it gets to arrogance stage or not understanding other people - no thanks! but if he'll never talk to me, than it's probably a no go too, just because of the logistics.. how will I ever know he likes me? or if I'd have to comfort him
all the time, I don't see that doable long-term either (sometimes it's acceptable, as long as it's mutual, it can be okay - if it's 'give'n'take')...
JamesSmith, when I was at uni, a classmate's man was unemployed and not much-looking, but she was very much in love with him, and a gorgeous girl! quite some girls dated guys who didn't have a degree and weren't studying.. I think he cooked well though
There are things you can work on - your physical fitness & energy, etc.