Felgen
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I never had a girlfriend before I actually started looking.
Chase love or be chased?
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I never had a girlfriend before I actually started looking.
Waybuloo
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Well some girls never have guys showing interest in them, so they would have to do the chasing or be alone. I'm not saying they are not desirable, just not noticed by the guys in their vicinity I suppose. I was like that.
BlueDays
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Exactly!!
If I did not "chase" someone at 27, I would still be a dateless/virgin now at 38!
Some girls with SA exhibit such nervous behaviour, that its hard for any guy to want to approach them!
p.s I am not ugly btw.
coyote
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yes - exactly
it's not about giving up or not caring
if you stop the looking and wanting and striving, and instead focus on making your life and yourself ready, willing, and able to love - love will inevitably arrive
the more you work on yourself, the more you will attract others
the more you pursue others, the more you will drive them away
Sounds right to me.
Though not too sure the working on yourself is really working. Shoulder still hurts. Feeling one big nail driving in, stops me cold. MRI results are slow.
Tiercel
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Exactly!!
If I did not "chase" someone at 27, I would still be a dateless/virgin now at 38!
Some girls with SA exhibit such nervous behaviour, that its hard for any guy to want to approach them!
p.s I am not ugly btw.
I'll be the judge of that, if you don't mind. And I'm not too harsh or cruel....
I'm at the point where I'm ready to train an eagle to pick a potential love interest for me. Unfortunately, I understand that the training of birds of prey solely involves food. So maybe the eagle would bring back a woman who can hunt?
Not sure I saw this thread before. Avoiding, no doubt.
I've never really been speedy without the Magnum. Chasing is out. Chased, I have no idea. This seems complicated. Or it has been made by mine own mind to be a complication.
Hell, a mid afternoon walk sounds much better.
I've never really been speedy without the Magnum. Chasing is out. Chased, I have no idea. This seems complicated. Or it has been made by mine own mind to be a complication.
Hell, a mid afternoon walk sounds much better.
awkwardamanda
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JamesSmith
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This all depends on if you are a guy or a girl. If you are a guy and are waiting for a woman to pick you up you could be waiting a LONG time, and possibly she will never find you. I know i've brought this up before, but it's true, most women refuse to make the first move. It's been like that for centuries and don't expect it to change much. I'm guessing you are waiting for the "right one" like so many people are, and that right one is a lot harder to find then that one-night-stand. So if you are going to find a woman that you have a chance of loving, you're going to have to make the first move and initiate conversation in most cases.
As for what you wear, yeah, that stuff matters, but not nearly as much as talking does. I've seen disgusting guys who don't take showers and have body odor (some of my friends) get tons of women cuz they talked to women and started conversations while I was stuck standing by myself waiting for a woman to come talk to me. Guess what happened? My friends got into a bunch of relationships while I got into zero relationships. In most cases, a man cannot wait to be found, because if he does that he'll either be alone for the rest of his life, or have to settle for a girl that he doesn't want cuz that was the girl who approached him. As for me, I'd rather be alone for the rest of my life than settle for a woman just cuz she's the only one who started talking to me.
As for what you wear, yeah, that stuff matters, but not nearly as much as talking does. I've seen disgusting guys who don't take showers and have body odor (some of my friends) get tons of women cuz they talked to women and started conversations while I was stuck standing by myself waiting for a woman to come talk to me. Guess what happened? My friends got into a bunch of relationships while I got into zero relationships. In most cases, a man cannot wait to be found, because if he does that he'll either be alone for the rest of his life, or have to settle for a girl that he doesn't want cuz that was the girl who approached him. As for me, I'd rather be alone for the rest of my life than settle for a woman just cuz she's the only one who started talking to me.
Kiwong
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I don't chase and I don't like the idea of being chased, because I'm scared that anyone catching up to me would see my fear and failings, and I have a few. I'm not so sure I have much to offer anyone I decided to chase or was chasing me.
What appeals to me most is the dream of basic relaxed and happy interaction between me and other people. Simply a conversation that went well and I didn't feel as if I stuffed up that would be enough. To be able to share adventures with someone as friends first, rather than any intense romantic tryst.
I want peace in my life, and I have found the whole business of romance and dating to be anything but.
What appeals to me most is the dream of basic relaxed and happy interaction between me and other people. Simply a conversation that went well and I didn't feel as if I stuffed up that would be enough. To be able to share adventures with someone as friends first, rather than any intense romantic tryst.
I want peace in my life, and I have found the whole business of romance and dating to be anything but.
alejandro84
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It dont work on me because ive never been chased! I think i do those three things a lot of the time but still dont get noticed. Ive come to realise im not physically attractive enough to have a girlfriend :
: so ive sort of learned to accept it in a way