Are you married or in a relationship?

[theoutsider]

Does SA affect it?

Oddly, my SA doesn't affect my married life at all. My wife is one of the few people I am completely at ease with so, thankfully, my home is my place where I can be myself, act silly and recharge my batteries to face the outside world.

 

[Scandic123]

I want to be in a relationship and I have a crush on a girl in my class, but now I've gone for months without telling anyone, and I'm losing interest. There's also another girl, who I think likes me, but I don't like her. Love is a mess...

 

[Betiol08]

I had been in a relationship about 3 years now. I'm glad my social anxiety doesn't affect my relationship with my girlfriend.This one is realy working!

The only weird situations are when she wants to go out with me and her bunch of friends. That makes me anxious because I usually don´t know how to handle the conversation with all that people at same time...


Any one also having trouble dealing with your girlfriend or boyfriend´s friends?

 

[Taden]

Confused at the poll...Married, in a relationship, or both? Wouldn't you be both in a relationship and married when you're married? @_@ lol I put both, cause I wasn't sure. I'm married. SA severely effects the ability to gain and maintain a loving relationship however. It's no easy feat. =S

 

[Zaki]

No, I'm not in a relationship. I'm so used to being alone I can't even imagine myself being in a relationship.

 

[dannyboy65]

I'm single and currently in love with my best friend and it hurts!!

 

[hoddesdon]

I voted in the poll without being logged-in :thinking:.

 

[FriendlyShadow]

Does SA affect it?

I'm not sure if I'd ever like to be in a relationship. There is a reason because I'm an emotionally unstable person. That would probably be a red flag to my spouse. My SA would definitely affect my relationships if I were ever to have one. I need help for myself to fight my depression before that is if I ever get into one. I don't want my spouses to suffer through the same thing I'm putting them through with my uncontrollable. depression and anger. Besides, I wouldn't want to become emotionally attached to someone where my problems will rise even higher and then I'd have to repeat that on and explain my situation all over again with my future spouses. It's too exhausting. I would rather(personally) just try dating websites because at least whoever I talk to won't get to see my anxiety in the face. For now, I'd rather like being single the best.

 

[FriendlyShadow]

By the way, I'm not sure if you guy ever get this, but whenever I tell people I'm not in a relationship or have a boyfriend they feeel it's necessary to ask personal questions such as "Well, do you like girls then?" What kind of stupid question is that? Note that I have nothing against people who are gay, I'm kind of surprised that people put that in as a big joke as if being gay is really a bad choice. Maybe they are just teasing, but I think that's kind of rude that I give you an honest answer and then people have to push even more to make me feel bad. I hate that people need to know all the details of what goes on people's personal life. They need to know exactly everything in order for them to put down others for their satisfaction.

 

[awkwardamanda]

By the way, I'm not sure if you guy ever get this, but whenever I tell people I'm not in a relationship or have a boyfriend they feeel it's necessary to ask personal questions such as "Well, do you like girls then?" What kind of stupid question is that? Note that I have nothing against people who are gay, I'm kind of surprised that people put that in as a big joke as if being gay is really a bad choice. Maybe they are just teasing, but I think that's kind of rude that I give you an honest answer and then people have to push even more to make me feel bad. I hate that people need to know all the details of what goes on people's personal life. They need to know exactly everything in order for them to put down others for their satisfaction.

That drives me nuts. I've only had one boyfriend. I remember at the time, my brother said once he had thought I was a lesbian. I've been single quite a while since then and he brought it up one other time. I don't even remember exactly what he said or how it came up. He said it in a kind of joking tone, but he may have been half serious. I think he said, "Just wait till she comes out of the closet." Then he said to my mom, who is homophobic, "Would you still love her if she was a lesbian?" I don't mean this is as anything against gay people, but it's insulting when people assume that's your reason for being chronically single when it isn't true. As if there couldn't possibly be some other explanation for it. Now, if I had a reasonably normal social life but never dated, then maybe they'd have a reason to be suspicious, but that's not the case. I've never made friends easily and I hardly go out. Is it really that shocking that I haven't met guys that have wanted to go out with me? I'm average looking and horribly socially awkward and somehow people are oblivious to how that might have a lot to do with it. They'd rather just follow their faulty logic and assume that since I'm not out dating men I must be more interested in women. Sure, it would be nice to have a boyfriend, but I have lots of reasons for not looking right now. I shouldn't have to go out of my way to find a guy just to prove to the world I'm straight.

 

[goblin]

Nah. I have plenty of trouble turning acquaintances into friendships, so a healthy relationship as a not-commodity in college is unlikely.

I imagine that, if a relationship existed in the first place, they would be a "safe" person and not trigger any kind of anxiety.

 

[Sweetyuk]

Single , I seem to attract that wronG type of guy , no idea why!

 

[SilentAndShy]

I got married in March at the age of 28 and it's a marriage which is in its infancy but also difficult to maintain.

It's a long distance marriage whilst I try to put papers together to get my wife over here but since 2011, I've been in a state of mind where I've been on my own in the sense of disengaging from my family members etc that it's tough to adjust. I find I'm just back to my normality now that I'm back home.

I don't think my wife has a clue about me and inner anxiety demons that I have to handle. I'm not so sure she, or anyone else for that matter, would truly understand what I go through in my mind.

Will have to open up I feel like it to her about my problems but that seems far away until she's here and I just feel like I'm not married. Life seems the same..

 

[Aqua]

I have mild SA, but my boyfriend has much much worse. We have an odd relationship as I don't get to see him much, as we're both young so it's more like a friendship really. I think that we help each other to be happier and when I'm around him we both seen to relax so much more than when we're around others.

 

[HyperHH]

I am also single and i have been suffering with HH & SA since childhood. It makes meeting a girl very difficult. I have never proposed anyone and In fact, I don't even try!

I don't know if God destined me to remain as a single soul forever on this earth.

Really trying hard to find a girl suffering with HH & SA around the world.

 

[Megaten]

In a relationship and yeah SA can bring some obstacles. I dont like to go many places or take pictures of us which makes me feel pretty lame. It takes a patient person to love an SA sufferer IMO.

 

[HexNoir]

Engaged to a very patient person who hasn't given up on me yet.

 

[FountainandFairfax]

The only way I could be in a 'ship right now would be to find someone even worse off than me, which would only mean double the problems.

 

[Sarah_M]

I just got out of a 7 year relationship a few months ago. Looking back on it now I really wasn't that happy.

There's probably a lot of this

and this

in my foreseeable future...

Quite possibly some if this

But, I guess I need something to keep myself busy while I wait for my lady parts to dry up and fall out.

 

[RachB]

Engaged to a very patient person who hasn't given up on me yet.

This ^. Extremely grateful to my partner for putting up with my SA.