she1slander
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I don't like introducing myself. See my avi? That's the expression on my face right now. lol
welcome, newbies.
welcome, newbies.
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Shyangel
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Welcome, Theone.
I'll be your friend my man. I'm interested in collecting a couple myself.
Feel free to add me on here or PM me anytime.
Welcome, Thewickedone.
I'm some what the same way. I don't like to spend to much time with people, it's exhausting. APD is hard to deal with. I deal with those problems some as well.
I hope you will find comfort on this forum and feel free to talk to me whenever.
Hi, Wicked! Have you read the book "Wicked?"
HumanZ
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Sup! I'm such a regular guy from Finland and it's really cold here. I'm 18, almost 19 years old and I can say in advance that my english isn't that good but I'll see how I get along here. 
My passive vocabulary is quite okay, but the active one of mine isn't that good. :/
Actually, I have never written on english websites and I'd love to improve my textual english skills.
My passive vocabulary is quite okay, but the active one of mine isn't that good. :/
Actually, I have never written on english websites and I'd love to improve my textual english skills.
MikeyC
Well-known member
Your English is spot on, mate. Welcome.Sup! I'm such a regular guy from Finland and it's really cold here. I'm 18, almost 19 years old and I can say in advance that my english isn't that good but I'll see how I get along here.
My passive vocabulary is quite okay, but the active one of mine isn't that good. :/
Actually, I have never written on english websites and I'd love to improve my textual english skills.
Hello everyone,
This is my very first post and so I thought this would be a great place to start.
I've only just recently been diagnosed with SA in the last few weeks after only starting with this suddenly (for reasons unknown) 4 months ago and not knowing what it was or every hearing of anything like it I finally plucked up the courage to go to the doctor, I nearly had an attack right there in the waiting room just thinking about what I was going to even say and expecting them to just turn me away telling me to get a grip but thankfully that didn't happen. I have been advised to think about going on medication and also I am waiting to find out if I am able to get reffered to a therapist because I have "early stages" and so the NHS (I'm in the UK) only take on patients who have severe anxiety which is where I really don't want to get to as mine is already getting worse each day.
Anyway a bit about myself, I'm 28, female and recently married, I live in the East Midlands of the UK and I work in IT. As I'm new to this site I would appreciate any friendly advice
Look forward to speaking to some of you
This is my very first post and so I thought this would be a great place to start.
I've only just recently been diagnosed with SA in the last few weeks after only starting with this suddenly (for reasons unknown) 4 months ago and not knowing what it was or every hearing of anything like it I finally plucked up the courage to go to the doctor, I nearly had an attack right there in the waiting room just thinking about what I was going to even say and expecting them to just turn me away telling me to get a grip but thankfully that didn't happen. I have been advised to think about going on medication and also I am waiting to find out if I am able to get reffered to a therapist because I have "early stages" and so the NHS (I'm in the UK) only take on patients who have severe anxiety which is where I really don't want to get to as mine is already getting worse each day.
Anyway a bit about myself, I'm 28, female and recently married, I live in the East Midlands of the UK and I work in IT. As I'm new to this site I would appreciate any friendly advice
Look forward to speaking to some of you
TheWickedOne
Active member
montejocarlo
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Hi everyone! I'm Carlo... actually, that's not true. I'm a girl and Carlo has been my pseudonym of sorts in the online world for years now & i use it every time i register in a website. Call me Carlo anyway. I'm 21 and i have always been shy since i was a kid. but i can't remember exactly when it started to get really really bad and became a full fledged social phobia. maybe high school. & i know it's wrong to point fingers, but i kinda blame my father for it. He's the type who'd embarrass you in front of other people if you do something stupid or silly. It surprises me how bad i must have felt every time he did that because even until now, when he doesn't do it all that often anymore, i still feel my rage from those moments. It stripped so much of my self-esteem, plus the fact that they don't understand my situation. They think i'm antisocial and snobbish. Social Phobia had been my biggest problem during college. I was relatively more relaxed when i was in high school. I went to a good university in my country (little did i know that it would be the same reason that would cause my social phobia to peak in intensity). My schoolmates and teachers intimidated me like hell. I felt small next to them. They were all smart and outgoing and confident. And they were always in groups. I remember cutting classes when i know that my school friends wouldn't be in class (the feeling that you'd have to sit alone in one corner and feel anxious because you're the only person in the room who doesn't have anybody to talk to, then somebody would ask you, "why are you being so quiet?"). But i did have better days.. I had great days, actually. There were days when i felt confident. I don't know what caused them. Maybe a good night's rest, or a food i ate, or maybe something i watched on tv or saw on the internet. I didn't have any professional help, but i'm doing so much better now.
montejocarlo
Well-known member
Thank you MikeyC!!!
StandingJelly
Well-known member
Welcome
Hope we all will feel comfort and feel encouragement from each other.
Hope we all will feel comfort and feel encouragement from each other.
me-tan
Member
I came to this forum last year thinking that I may learn something from it, because I thought I had social phobia. Though after talking to the people here I realized I didnt have it. I'm very wary of people, though I simply dont fit the decription apparently. Since I enjoy hanging out with people, just people upset and depress me no matter what they do. I dont intend to, but my room mate feels like he did something wrong because I never talk to him most of the time, i just sit in my room and work all day.
Tulicks
Well-known member
Hey all; I am yet another person in the world who feels completely ripped off. My life with social anxiety is a living hell, but I am glad to be amongst others who experience the same sort of things. I may come off from time to time as a negative person because of my social anxiety, and that is mainly because I haven't accepted that I have to live with it for the rest of my life yet. I am always hoping that I will wake up the next morning and everything will be fine, but it never is. I am eternally cursed with this damn disability, but at the same time I am going to fight it until the end of time.
DeadmanWalking
Well-known member
Hey there, welcome
! That's a good attitude to have about your SA. Fight it because it will change. It may look like it's eternal now, but, put your head, hands, and heart to it, then you'll overcome this. I hope you enjoy it here.
Man_on_the_Moon
Member
Hello everyone,
I've been browsing this forum for a bit now. Last year December I was told by my psychologist that I have avoidant personality disorder / borderline. While it was no surprise that there is something different about me - I've had the term 'social anxiety' in my head for a few years now - it was good to hear it from a psychologist. I am skeptic by nature and I don't take things without question but it does provide me with a guide or starting point.
I don't feel a need to hide myself behind a nickname but I always felt that this name fits me well.
How I can crave to belong but still feel at my best when I'm alone. I suppose that's a big reason as to why I've been single for a long time now.
My avoidant personality disorder doesn't manifest so much now as I lost my job in December 2011. But that was a choice too. I decided to choose my own health over economic reasons. I need to work on myself. Stop running into the same issues over and over again. I need to gain a lot of self confidence. If I won't fight for myself, who will?
I still need to find a new job though. And applying for jobs is hard. I'm sure you can relate. It gets harder too because I'll be going to therapy 2 times a week soon and that's not an easy thing to mention at any interview. chances of a 'no' are high enough as it is already. And just that fear of rejection, failure stops me.
And the constant playing down by others like 'oh we all have that, just bite the bullet' etc. don't help me to apply for more jobs.
Anyway.. I think I've written enough for now. I hope to participate in some discussions and hopefully learn something from others too.
Thank you for reading
I've been browsing this forum for a bit now. Last year December I was told by my psychologist that I have avoidant personality disorder / borderline. While it was no surprise that there is something different about me - I've had the term 'social anxiety' in my head for a few years now - it was good to hear it from a psychologist. I am skeptic by nature and I don't take things without question but it does provide me with a guide or starting point.
I don't feel a need to hide myself behind a nickname but I always felt that this name fits me well.
How I can crave to belong but still feel at my best when I'm alone. I suppose that's a big reason as to why I've been single for a long time now.
My avoidant personality disorder doesn't manifest so much now as I lost my job in December 2011. But that was a choice too. I decided to choose my own health over economic reasons. I need to work on myself. Stop running into the same issues over and over again. I need to gain a lot of self confidence. If I won't fight for myself, who will?
I still need to find a new job though. And applying for jobs is hard. I'm sure you can relate. It gets harder too because I'll be going to therapy 2 times a week soon and that's not an easy thing to mention at any interview. chances of a 'no' are high enough as it is already. And just that fear of rejection, failure stops me.
And the constant playing down by others like 'oh we all have that, just bite the bullet' etc. don't help me to apply for more jobs.
Anyway.. I think I've written enough for now.
I hope to participate in some discussions and hopefully learn something from others too.Thank you for reading
Ambere
Active member
Hi, I'm 18 from Michigan and I definitely haven't had social phobia forever because when I was younger I had tons of friends. I think it started in middle school, I was picked on pretty badly and I guess it made me scared of meeting new people because I think none of them will like me. I think way too much about what others think of me and I try to make it go away but it seems to always come back. It drives me crazy cause I don't know how to stop.