..do any of you go to group meetings for avoidants or similar people?i wonder how that would work if such groups even exist?
Because you are glad to be alive / not dead, or because the night is so awful?The sun coming up on another day is a bonus for a 51 year old.
Because you are glad to be alive / not dead, or because the night is so awful?
Where I live there is a self-help group for social phobia but I've not been. On their website it says that they meet once a week, about 6-12 people, then each talks about their current situation or they chat, though no-one is forced to talk and it is OK if no-one talks. There is no therapist or psychologist present, though people are advised to have counselling. They also have guest speakers or films and do activities together.
Can't help thinking it would make a good comedy sketch, though, as a meeting for people who avoid meetings. Like the time management course that was cancelled due to prior engagements.
another thing which i have talked about before is that my avoidance has caused me to basically not have much to say to people..this problem gets worse with age i have found..i mean, i dont do much in terms of activities so this leads to a dead-end pretty quickly when it comes to socializing..i have very little to say to friends or family even much less new people i could possibly meet..ive noticed avoidance causes these other problems to start turning which leads to more avoidance..
^^well good lol..which brings me to ask, the only way for an avoidant to succeed or even blend in without a ton of effort socially is to hang around other social misfits or avoidants..do any of you go to group meetings for avoidants or similar people?i wonder how that would work if such groups even exist?
^^i dont know about hitting a giant 'age wall' but when you reach 30 and above, you will realize when you talk to peers that they have lived and done many things that you SHOULD have already done..there are certain things you should accomplish in late teenage and early 20s that simply cannot be made up for at a later age..once certain milestones are missed, thats it..you can try and make them up but it feels silly and pointless.. if you have lived a very avoidant lifestyle and you talk or hang out with 'normal' people then you will almost feel like an alien being in terms of experiences or lack thereof..
30 isnt old necessarily bits its a much different time comp[ared to teens and 20s..i wish someone could explain this better than i atm lol..