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Any thoughts on bullying or situations when you don't feel adequately skilled in conversation to be able to stand up for yourself? How do you deal with bullying, whether it's the subtle taunting kind, or the extreme, physically abusive kind? Are there ways to deal with it without having to fight...

What do you reckon? Should the UK Leave the European Union or remain? Anyone have any thoughts? I know this one's mainly for the Brits, but I'd be interested to hear all opinions, wherever you're from. Especially other Europeans. I'm finding it surprisingly hard to decide. I keep swinging back...

Sometimes I worry that I don't care enough about other people. There are people in my life who are struggling, but the thought of trying to help them drains me. It's like I have enough problems in my life, I'm not sure I have the strength to deal with their problems too. But I feel guilty if I...

Or perhaps more importantly, how much do you think you should blame yourself, (if at all)? Often I look at my life and how much I lack real social experience compared to most people, and I feel pretty guilty about it. Like I'm morally at fault for ending up this way. But do you think this is...

Acquaintance: "Hey Bob, wanna come over for dinner/grab a cup of coffee sometime?" Me: "No thanks" *moment of unbearable awkwardness* Acquaintance: (hurt) "oh....ok :sad: " or (angry) "Why not? What's wrong with you?! :veryangry:" Me: "There's nothing wrong with me, and it's nothing...

Does anyone have any stories of times when they've been humiliated or ridiculed or bullied in public, that they'd like to share? Or does anyone have any insights about this fear? Like, what's the root cause, and how is the best way to deal with these situations? I was just cycling to work...

What do you think it is that makes you feel bad about your social difficulties? Is it the loneliness, or is there guilt involved? I know that sounds like a bleak question but I think it could be a potentially encouraging distinction to make because I think for me I've noticed that the guilt is...

No worries if I don't get any replies. I just have a little personal problem that's bothering me and thought I'd throw it out there. I'm in a tricky situation and I'm not sure what to do. I'm a cleaner at a school. There are 4 cleaners in total. The old caretaker of the school used to assume...

I always find Christmas to be quite an emotional time. How's everybody else feeling this time of year? I hope you're all doing ok.

I had to decline another invite recently and the worry treadmill began predictably churning again deep in my gut. So I decided to try to unpack it, and I found that I have so many conflicting thoughts and impulses that it's no wonder I find it so troublesome. So I thought I'd list them all here...

If you're like me and don't have many friends, and tend to avoid starting new relationships or getting too close to people, why do you think that is? I think I had a little revelation recently. I've been finding that when I look around at other people for potential friends and relationships...

I'm beginning to worry about my levels of hatred towards other people. Anyone else have this problem? The number of people I come across that I actually respect and kinda like, seems to be diminishing as I age. Also the closer I get to people the more likely it seems I'll end up hating them...

Has anybody been challenged to do this? What do you think of it all?

Just found a refreshing honest article here - why is it so ****ing hard to meet people? Some may find it helpful

Does anybody else have this feeling in their chest sometimes? What do you do about it? Where does it come from? EDIT: Further thoughts I want to understand the nature of connection. What is this thing that draws human beings together? I'd like to know how people make sense of these desires...

Sorry if there's already a thread like this, I couldn't find one, but I think it's a good thing to vent after experiencing socially anxious situations that we may have found ourselves in. I also find it helpful and comforting reading other people's experiences too. So feel free to tell your...

I haven't been on here for a while but really felt the need to vent. I'm feeling very much in need of some major forgiveness right now! I've been thinking a lot about life lately, what's most important, and what I'll regret the most at the end of it, and my heart keeps returning to...

Do you think it's wrong to spend too much time, energy and money on your appearance? If so, how much is too much? Sometimes I think, it doesn't matter how people appear, it's what's inside that counts. But then other times I feel like there's actually a lot of information that can be conveyed...

Is competition a good thing or a bad thing? Sometimes it seems that competition can be healthy as it can be a driving, motivating force for people to push themselves to their limits. Particularly in sports, games and entertainment. But on the other hand, sometimes competition just seems...

Anyone else watching? feeling very proud to be British right now! :D