Time to give up...

nicole1

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I'm considering giving up on the idea of a normal life. I have not been exactly able to function in certain situations through out these past few years. I was unable to finish school and dropped out due to difficulties with my SA, and most recently I was fired because I admitted my disorder to someone. I feel hopeless. I don't know my next step. Any advice is welcomed.
 

jaim38

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That's sad to hear. Online classes are an option to consider for people with SA. I know they helped me. I think it's illegal to fire people because they have a mental illness. As long as they can do the job and are not a threat to coworkers, there's no reason to fire them.
 
I'm considering giving up on the idea of a normal life. I have not been exactly able to function in certain situations through out these past few years. I was unable to finish school and dropped out due to difficulties with my SA, and most recently I was fired because I admitted my disorder to someone. I feel hopeless. I don't know my next step. Any advice is welcomed.

Trying to fit into a "normal life" is square peg in a round hole for people like us, so its important to seek out what is our own personal normal life
 
That's bad. I'd say your next step would be getting a different job or go back and finish school if it's possible. Keep your chin up :) I've always heard that when one door closes another one opens. Best of luck :thumbup:
 

hidwell

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I'm considering giving up on the idea of a normal life. I have not been exactly able to function in certain situations through out these past few years. I was unable to finish school and dropped out due to difficulties with my SA, and most recently I was fired because I admitted my disorder to someone. I feel hopeless. I don't know my next step. Any advice is welcomed.

Sorry to hear that. :sad:
 

hoddesdon

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I agree with jaim38 that it sounds as if what has happened is illegal. Perhaps you should see a lawyer? Often they will work on a "no-win no-fee" basis in such cases.
 

MoonBoom

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If you were fired simply because you said you have a social phobia, yeah that sounds like grounds for a lawsuit. If you feel you can't work in the conditions though because of your SA, like I have faced, it's a different story. All I can say is best of luck to you. Normal life is relative. Be you, stay positive, and let the world around you that you can't control do its thing. I agree with Phocas.
 

Flanscho

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I don't know what you mean with "normal life". Maybe you strife for something that is not the right kind of life for you, that wouldn't make you happy. You should try to find out what it truly is that you desire, and make sure you don't think about stuff that others might consider to desirable in your situation.
 

Pacific_Loner

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Trying to fit into a "normal life" is square peg in a round hole for people like us, so its important to seek out what is our own personal normal life

Don't give up, even it is only to spite the anxiety.

I don't know what you mean with "normal life". Maybe you strife for something that is not the right kind of life for you, that wouldn't make you happy. You should try to find out what it truly is that you desire, and make sure you don't think about stuff that others might consider to desirable in your situation.

Good advice. Just find what you really want to do with your life, make a plan to get there, and push until you are. Considere it as a fight
 

Nanita

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I know what it feels like, I myself have gave given up, and guess what, it feels good, it feels better than trying to be something I´m not.

There are many ways to live, many ways to get food on the table.. People are not robots and we can´t all behave the same or fit into some kind of box, all though it is often expected that we do.

I dropped out of several schools and university because of anxiety and because I really didn´t have the self discipline.. But at one school I made a deal with them that I could study on my own (not attend classes) but take the exams at school - it went very well. However I have never used that degree for anything, because I´m not able to work because of the way I am/my issues.


Trying to fit into a "normal life" is square peg in a round hole for people like us, so its important to seek out what is our own personal normal life

exactly what I was thinking.
 

laure15

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I don't know what you mean with "normal life". Maybe you strife for something that is not the right kind of life for you, that wouldn't make you happy. You should try to find out what it truly is that you desire, and make sure you don't think about stuff that others might consider to desirable in your situation.

Exactly. You should take some time off to explore what you really want out of life. The "normal life" according to many people is to graduate, get a 9-5 job and also get a partner after that. I watched many of my friends graduate, get office jobs, and start new relationships. I was envious, but this might not be the life for me. Now that you're unemployed, many opportunities open up for you. You could potentially start your own business, freelance, take courses that interest you, explore your passions, go on a journey of self-discovery, etc.
 

nicole1

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Thanks for the advice. Instead of suicide I decided life is mine still... But where to go??? I like everything you all have said because they were very constructive and helpful for me during this time.
 

Diend

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I am in the same situation as you...i became so overwhelmed with acting like an extrovert that i burned out. I basically stay at home and relax all day. There is strength in hope and being content that you will not be living like other people. Things will get better, but there may be a biological need of yours that is not met. Mine was close friends and a relationship.
 

Fighter86

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When you get a new job, my advise is not to reveal your SA to anyone. I was working four and half years, and can tell you its still better to keep certain things to yourself. I have shared things to close colleagues whom I think are my friends, only to have the info come back to bite me in the butt. Don't do it mate, no matter how close you think you and that person are. I have never revealed my SA condition to anyone ever, except online people who have SA as well.
 

ukmale

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I'm considering giving up on the idea of a normal life. I have not been exactly able to function in certain situations through out these past few years. I was unable to finish school and dropped out due to difficulties with my SA, and most recently I was fired because I admitted my disorder to someone. I feel hopeless. I don't know my next step. Any advice is welcomed.




I gave up 8yrs ago I knew I was born broken so can't fix me so yeah don't even think about it
 

Buda

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I leave with AS, Depression (bipolar) more-less since I dropped university. Lost most of friends, ended 2 long term relations, got deep in love....lost my dear love to bipolarity, went from job to job not keeping it for more then some days or a month, went to a even deeper depression, lost all hope, all friends, family, love again... never gave use to my degree for more then 30 days...lived in hell for years, barely speaking, or fighting days in a row to get out of the bed....and gave up everything to pursue a life that could feed me, that i could enjoy what I did, that could make me dream again...and in 1 year and half after I broke up with most of things that connected me to life around...I pursued my dreams against all chance, against every friend that will hardly understand you or support your craziness (that defines you as you are=just accepting u)...and I kept fighting, and fighting....this time doing what I love, i started a startup against major startups with 4-10 members team, alone....I was invited for another where we won a fundraising for some months...I still fight to go along with my team for 8h a day, and started learning again from home other passions...and I know from 1 year max from now, I'll be able to support myself doing where my soul drives me, from home, from everywhere, doing what I love, with time me to refuel energies along day as I really need....that after 6 years of hell...lost, with no jobs, with no friends, with no money, with depression....i know I'm almost there, so the question is...why should you give up now? :)
 
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Honda

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You really know that's not what you want. Deep inside your mind, instincts and your desires tell you that's not normal for your life, relations and mental health.. This situation you are in is also experienced by others here.

So let me tell you something you can live for the rest of your life not being the person you want to be or living the life you want to live OR you can chose to start learning more about your unfortunate condition and find ways to overcome it.

If will take lots of time to grow out of it but its worth doing something about making this change as its horrifying to wake up with such an attitude everyday and I would rather do anything to get it out of me.

Regarding your employer, I would never be open about such a thing with anybody besides a therapist or somebody close.. Your employee is paying you to get a benefit out of your skills not listen to your problems. I assume he saw it as an incompetence and thought it would be more appropriate for his business to fire you. That's what they think or care about, you should have known that.

Pardon me for being a jackass but I tell you I am in the same situation as you are.. I quit a job because work stress + loneliness + SA really took a toll on me. I couldn't handle it. I never got another job for the past year and a half because of my SA and depression letting me down in interviews at times.. Currently, I am self employed but Its barely working out for me and I am working almost everyday to find ways to grow out of this mess.
 
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THeCARS1979

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I'm considering giving up on the idea of a normal life. I have not been exactly able to function in certain situations through out these past few years. I was unable to finish school and dropped out due to difficulties with my SA, and most recently I was fired because I admitted my disorder to someone. I feel hopeless. I don't know my next step. Any advice is welcomed.

Wait , back up , they cant fire you for social anxiety, thats illegal ,Who the f**k do they think they are? and against the law too . Who was it who fired you? Id get a lawyer if I were you
 

nicole1

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Because of what she told me, I am not sure but I assumed that's what happened. She told me they were going in another direction.
 
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