I keep having end of the world dreams haha
Give it a year and a bit and they'll come true!
Feel like yelling right now:
I don't know I'm really starting think that my belief system on what a relationship should be is just totally misinterpreted by people. I'm not playing mind games. Ok so I like space...don't call every day and every night. I'm not needy like that I mean yeah i want to feel special, I want a future with someone and family but there other ways to make someone feel special then being around someone 24/7. I'm scared first initial contact...DON"T PUSH THE ISSUE (no one gets that) or it wont work. I will warm up and then start perusing the person if I'm feel good vibes and some sorta connection. I work long hrs! I can't just come home and decide to talk it's a process LET ME REST FIRST!
AAAAARRRRRRHHHHHH! I'm never gonna have someone just get me. I take time. Moments in life are precious to me. People/Things in my life are precious to me. THINGS TAKE TIME WITH ME!!!!!!!!!
Doesn't anyone want something stable anymore?!
I hear what you're saying, but there's some clingy people out there. The beginning of a relationship is the most exciting for people because their partners are new and interesting and you want to touch them all the time. I guess you're not quite like that.
If you're getting into a relationship, tell the guy that you need space and alone time along with some togetherness. If he really likes you he'll understand your wants and needs and oblige them. Maybe he'll feel the same, too.
However, you must understand that sacrifices must be made on both sides. I didn't get as much alone time when I was with my ex, but that was one thing I had to give up for the relationship to continue. It'll be the same for you, too, as much as you are probably going to dislike it.
My brother and his girlfriend are almost joined at the hip after 4 years together. He won't make a move without her and I feel he's so ingrown into the relationship that if it ever breaks down he'll be completely lost. That is not healthy - while it's good to be doting on your girlfriend (or boyfriend), you have to have your own life. A friend of mine broke up with his girlfriend of 6 years recently but they respected that they had their own lives and they let each other do their own things. That was a true relationship they had, but it was too bad they broke it off.
