Do you know how to have fun

KiaKaha

KiaKaha

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Do you know how to just relax, let loose and just enjoy yourself?

I think I may have forgotten...seriously. I dont think I now HOW to actually enjoy myself anymore. I am too shy too express joy. My god..what have I become.

But lets not make this about me. Tell me...do you know how to have fun? to relax and enjoy your surroundings and the company you keep..?
 
Sprunk

Sprunk

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I know how to relax and enjoy things in life,though very rarely with other people present::(:
 
recluse

recluse

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No i don't. No matter what i do even if it's meant to be fun i am always thinking about my anxiety, and worrying what people think of me.
 
BlueDays

BlueDays

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The only time I can relax is when I am completely alone. It is impossible for me to relax around people.
What does it mean to have fun anyway?:confused: I think I would be too scared to have fun, as I know something would eventually come along and take it away.
 
Arthur_Dent

Arthur_Dent

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Mostly I have fun with reading and videogames. With the videogames I mostly play alone (online gaming doesn't count as having company ¬¬), and not very often I may play with other people in the same room, altough I doubt how much that would count as an actual social interaction.

I have some friends at the university, but I barely have any fun with them; that's weird if you ask me.

Also I wonder is that is actually fun, or just escapism.
 
Luka

Luka

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BlueDays said:
The only time I can relax is when I am completely alone. It is impossible for me to relax around people.
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I am the same. I can enjoy doing the things I enjoy alone, as soon as another person comes in to do it with me, the fun is over. :(
 
Invisibleman

Invisibleman

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No not really, a rock museum is probably more fun than me. like others have said though I feel like it leaves me vulnerable,I set up this wall so people cant see my emotions and when I let loose I feel like people are looking over my wall into my castle:p

I wish I had friends to have fun with though, im into everything that nobody else cares about err well nobody in north america cares about;)
 
Phoenixx

Phoenixx

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I know how to have fun, but only in certain terms. "Fun" to me is relaxing, time spent alone, reading, watching tv, playing video games, cooking, etc. etc. I am much too nervous and uptight around other people to just "let loose." Not that I don't want to, but it's extremely difficult for me.

On a related note, came across this site today. It's pretty neat, made me smile anyway. :)
The Eight Irresistible Principles of Fun
 
Richey

Richey

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following a few sittings of some of my favourite bbc comedies i suddenly become cool and energetic again but it usually takes that process for it to happen, i can't just switch it on when i want to. you see the trick is to alter your environment. if you're constantly around people who are serious and intense then you'll feel like rubbish for the most part. get yourself calm and away from there immediately!!! right..so now that you're on the right track listen to some relaxing music and watch five of your favourite comedies, read a book maybe, eat some fruit, create your own little mini utopia and that will help. you don't have to just drink to reach a state of inner fun. simply going to a club/pub doesnt always work either, i've tried it and you have to be 100% in the mood to begin with and often clubs can be intimidating places to go ..unless its a chilled out indie club, that's more in the spirit of my liking!!''

by the way its incredible how even if you are in a chatty mood people are so focussed on themselves that often they don't listen to you anyway ..particularly in clique situations ...not always but often.
 
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MaliceInWickedland

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I'm sure everyone here does, but insecurity drives us away from letting loose completely in fear of being judged. The only time I really ever completely let loose my fun and outrageous side was around my friends at school. There were silly immature teens everywhere and no one really cared how you acted (well, mostly..), but its a different story among the general public where there are older people around who look at you like an alien if you so much as say the word "booger" out loud. People just need to get a better sense of humor I guess, or at least stop being so condescending to others for being different, which everyone is.
 
EscapeArtist

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I think you have to feel true enlightened joy to show and share it. If there are more important things to defend yourself against, you won't have the spare positive energy to share fun. Speaking both biologically and mental/emotional/spiritually. Environmental factors are surprisingly important in this case! Exercise, eating well, sleeping enough, vitamin D, fresh air, etc. You want to build up a strong energy reserve, and also make sure that energy isn't being spent suppressing damage in your body. This way you will have greater energy to share.

Also practice self-nurturing and self-love, so that you do not put that extra pressure on yourself to have fun when the time comes. You want to treat the inner child inside of you like a precious jewel, because usually it is that side of you that takes part in the fun things, so make sure to have that part of you trust the self-disciplined, understanding parent in yourself. It's not something you can force, but having fun socializing IS something that you were born to do as it's in your nature, as it's in all humans' nature. I think you/we just have to strip away some layers first
 
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Acegame

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No! This is something that concerns me. I knew how to have fun as a kid, but i don't know how to have fun as an adult. I feel so boring...

And like most people here i can have fun when im alone, but not when i am with company,
 
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theslowesthand

theslowesthand

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Re: Do you know how to have fun

EscapeArtist said:
I think you have to feel true enlightened joy to show and share it. If there are more important things to defend yourself against, you won't have the spare positive energy to share fun. Speaking both biologically and mental/emotional/spiritually. Environmental factors are surprisingly important in this case! Exercise, eating well, sleeping enough, vitamin D, fresh air, etc. You want to build up a strong energy reserve, and also make sure that energy isn't being spent suppressing damage in your body. This way you will have greater energy to share.

Also practice self-nurturing and self-love, so that you do not put that extra pressure on yourself to have fun when the time comes. You want to treat the inner child inside of you like a precious jewel, because usually it is that side of you that takes part in the fun things, so make sure to have that part of you trust the self-disciplined, understanding parent in yourself. It's not something you can force, but having fun socializing IS something that you were born to do as it's in your nature, as it's in all humans' nature. I think you/we just have to strip away some layers first
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Well said.

Perhaps thats partly why i can very seldom if ever, have fun, around others or by myself - my energy is constantly on "low" or "empty", due to my constant worries, issues, problems, stressors.
 
WeirdyMcGee

WeirdyMcGee

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Sure I do.
I don't ever 'let loose' and I'm always anxious no matter what but I do know how to make people laugh and I used to be quite entertaining.

Probably for the simple fact that normal people are totally boring.
Being crazy is the new cool, yo.
Instead of a cigarette in hand or thick glasses or burly muscles, a twitchy eye is what people look for in a leader. Didn't you know?
XD
 
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