Who is responsible for your problem?

[Psychedelicious]

none

I don't have anyone or anything particular to blame, I think I might have just came this way. I blame myself, why isn't that an option? Then again I don't even think I can help it.

 

[Entangled]

I know EXACTLY who and what started my problem. I remember it all very clearly even though it was over a decade ago. And if I ever saw said people again I would give them a serious piece of my mind!! Basically childhood trauma.

Moral of the story: Kids do stupid stuff ok. So adults, keep your punishments reasonable, because you can seriously mess a kid up mentally. (And no, it wasn't my parents, nor was it anything illegal.) As you can see I still hold a grudge after all these years, I realize how stupid it is, but that is seriously when I started to fear people.

 

[Hellhound]

Moral of the story: Kids do stupid stuff ok. So adults, keep your punishments reasonable, because you can seriously mess a kid up mentally.

Not like they care. Some parents think their kids are property (or pets) and they can do with them whatever the hell they want.

 

[Bustn Justin]

I can only blame myself.

I am the one who has the problem

 

[MikeyC]

They're a shower of bastards. The cake is all eaten and my lotto ticket didnt win me anything. Its the Bastards fault! Those bastards! Theyre such bastards. I blame 'them'

My lack of lotto winnings is the auto-pick machine's fault!

For me, I guess I blame my school peers for starting it. Being around such hate all the time began my depression. If I could go back in time...I wouldn't, because I don't want to see them ever again.

 

[BlueDays]

Bullies.
And my mother who did nothing to help stop it for years.

 

[ForeverTheWeirdKid]

The "masses" are responsible for making me feel like I have a problem. ??????

 

[Razzlecherry]

I know EXACTLY who and what started my problem. I remember it all very clearly even though it was over a decade ago. And if I ever saw said people again I would give them a serious piece of my mind!! Basically childhood trauma.

Moral of the story: Kids do stupid stuff ok. So adults, keep your punishments reasonable, because you can seriously mess a kid up mentally. (And no, it wasn't my parents, nor was it anything illegal.) As you can see I still hold a grudge after all these years, I realize how stupid it is, but that is seriously when I started to fear people.

I suppose I could attribute my problem similarly, but my parents had me at a very young age and didn't plan on having me in the first place. Not that I'm saying that that is alright, but that's what happened. They didn't know how to prepare me for the world and quite frankly have done some terrible things. I became who I am because of myself and my parents are almost zero influence on my life. Actually, I almost base some aspects of my life on the opposites of theirs.

I don't hold a grudge and I don't hate them, but they aren't a huge part of my life (even though I don't really have anyone else). So basically, I'm still building my life from scratch almost, because they haven't done a successful job at it.

Thinking about it, that makes sense why certain things are harder for me, because I have nothing to base anything off of other than trial and error, which is really scary.

 

[MikeyC]

Bullies.
And my mother who did nothing to help stop it for years.

My parents' advice was "ignore it and it will go away."

Probably the worst thing they could've said.

I'm sorry, BlueDays.

 

[FakeID]

only myself

 

[BlueDays]

My parents' advice was "ignore it and it will go away."

Probably the worst thing they could've said.

I'm sorry, BlueDays.

Exactly, I got "Don't react to them and they will soon get sick of no reaction and stop".
Well they never got sick of no reaction, it just made them escalate their behaviour.
It's a shame we both suffered through this before schools started to take notice of it's affects and attempt to make steps to reduce it.

 

[MikeyC]

Exactly, I got "Don't react to them and they will soon get sick of no reaction and stop".
Well they never got sick of no reaction, it just made them escalate their behaviour.
It's a shame we both suffered through this before schools started to take notice of it's affects and attempt to make steps to reduce it.

Exactly. If I had my time over again, I would retaliate somehow. Fight back. Grow a spine. Slap the younger me across the face!

Schools are starting to take notice, but it's not enough. More needs to be done. It's better than when we had it, though (and I'm sure you had it worse, since I left high school in 2003).

 

[A Many Splendored Thing]

You know how you walk into school on the first day or any day that you can sit anywhere, there are a few spots open, and every spot you look at has somebody(or many people) that doesn't want you to sit there?

It's not like people say it out loud, though once I was told outright "why did you have to sit here?" I usually just get a sigh or something...

I also have an overprotective mother. She basically said and did everything for me, and would still do just that if I didn't want to be rid of her.

How does somebody build confidence after feeling so worthless.

I didn't know I was so angry... I can understand how some people turn into 'monsters'.

I try not to let people effect me, but they've done their damage.

My parents want me to go get a job, but how do you rebuild a home when it's under a constant barrage of tornadoes?

The medication doesn't fix this deep rooted pain... It's partly my fault for being so sensitive.

 

[razzle dazzle rose]

Genes and bad luck. And yeah, my family. I know exactly what 'caused all my issues, how they came to be, and why they worsened. Doesn't change anything, but it does answer some questions. I used to spend a lot of time thinking about how if x hadn't happened, I'd be way different today...and if only I knew then what I know now, I'd be very different for sure. I just want to get to the point in which I do things NOW, and not keep waiting for something to happen. I feel that would really change things for me.

 

[Honda]

I dont know whose responsible for my problem, whether it is the way I was raised or the fact I am a true pu**y or simply very unlucky in life..

 

[Rooftops]

I guess my condition was hereditary, both my parents have suffered badly. When I was a child my mum had terrible depression, she'd just sit there staring. My dad was always working or distant. My brother acted up at school so they used to lock him a room on his own all day, he wasn't very nice to me (although we're friends now). I clung to my sister and spent every day with her because I could get attention from her. Then she left for university and I couldn't stop crying (now we have a confusing relationship because she lies a lot about horrible things).

Everyone thought I was a quiet child but really I felt so sad that I couldn't fix them. I could act normally until I changed schools and I fell apart. Tbh I blame the school system a lot for my problems but it was in my genetics anyway. I'm trying to move forward now, and I hope you guys are too

 

[gustavofring]

Only myself.

I've let myself slide into depression. Of course there are factors that contribute, low self esteem, bad memories and events in the family, my difficulty concentrating, and just naturally being introverted.

But the time I've spent procrastinating life and lived in a state of arrested development for a couple of years is purely my own fault. It's my inability to unlearn behaviors and replace them with good ones. Perhaps also a lack of seeking out proper guidance and help and not being honest with myself and others.

 

[dancingintherain]

AMBER MAJOR

Go to hell.

 

[Falkor]

I am responsible because i need to change it.


all though the cause is school. bullying and emotional harassment/abuse of the teacher when i was younger.

 

[CursedSoul]

90% of the people in this thread initially considered themselves responsible for their problems...but after a few lines in the same paragraph they mentioned possible involvement of their families, school or other things...why these double standards?