What's worse: no friends or no partner?
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eso
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I've lived both of these lives exactly. I had a partner for 8 years with no friends. Now I have no partner but tons of friends.
My verdict: friends. This life is literally 10x better than just being with my girlfriend but living alone. At first it was fine, I could hide from the world and I had a love and my life was actually quite content. But eventually I started to get antsy about being shut off from the world, and it certainly lacked a lot of fun that everyone needs in life. When there's just the one person, everything banks on her, and if she's mad, your life is miserable.
Right now I have all friends but I'm getting antsy over not having partner... however, the fact that my life is so fulfilled by so many people and everything is just in place so wonderfully, I'm having so much fun and having lots of great relationships with people that I could stand to live like this for a far longer period if I had to.
In order to get these friends I had to fundamentally change my outlook on life and everything about how I act in public. I love that I've changed, not at my core of who I am, but with my confidence and social skills to be able to attract lots of friends to myself. That kind of life is so much better to live.
My verdict: friends. This life is literally 10x better than just being with my girlfriend but living alone. At first it was fine, I could hide from the world and I had a love and my life was actually quite content. But eventually I started to get antsy about being shut off from the world, and it certainly lacked a lot of fun that everyone needs in life. When there's just the one person, everything banks on her, and if she's mad, your life is miserable.
Right now I have all friends but I'm getting antsy over not having partner... however, the fact that my life is so fulfilled by so many people and everything is just in place so wonderfully, I'm having so much fun and having lots of great relationships with people that I could stand to live like this for a far longer period if I had to.
In order to get these friends I had to fundamentally change my outlook on life and everything about how I act in public. I love that I've changed, not at my core of who I am, but with my confidence and social skills to be able to attract lots of friends to myself. That kind of life is so much better to live.
No friends.
Happy single here.
Happy single here.
For me, having friends would be more important to me over having a loving partner. You see, I'm at nil on the friends front and frankly I would give my front teeth to have a bunch of good ones. I don't desire that type of love and affection strongly anymore. I don't crave the warmth I once had because I've grown to be used without it.
Same here.
A friend
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Very very true.
A friend
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I'm lucky enough to have friends, so there's no need for me to get depressed and rant about being single forever.
After hearing and reading about recent events in Japan, and reading about stuff that goes on in the middle east, I'd say I'm fine where I am, considering that I still have family and stuff like that.
After hearing and reading about recent events in Japan, and reading about stuff that goes on in the middle east, I'd say I'm fine where I am, considering that I still have family and stuff like that.
Hottie
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Ha! i can only agree !! Two for the price of one!!!
No but seriously, i think if i had no friends at all, i would be really lonely (more than i already am).
So my answer is its worse to have no friends....
slowmotiondaydream
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friends.. breaking up with a partner means you're done for
I would be content with one good person in my life. Partner or friend, is doesn't bother me which one it is.
I am asexual anyway, and I have no need to have a sexual partner. That has no importance to me.
Someone who is trusting, respectful, understanding, fun, and someone who likes me for who I am... things like that in example, are the things that are important to me.
A partner for me, would have to beable to be and act like a friend anyway.
I am asexual anyway, and I have no need to have a sexual partner. That has no importance to me.
Someone who is trusting, respectful, understanding, fun, and someone who likes me for who I am... things like that in example, are the things that are important to me.
A partner for me, would have to beable to be and act like a friend anyway.
twiggle
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And also, there are some relationships out there whereby the partner dislikes their other half having friends, so sometimes people do have to make a choice!
I'd prefer friends over a partner everyday and am not really that bothered about whether or not I'm having regular sex (I guess I'm weird right). I do love it but I can live without it
However if you were to ask me this question in another 20 or so years, I may give a different answer.
mr.jimbo
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I would love to have both. but if i have to choose one, i say no friends are the worse. i prefer friends to function better. having a partner/best/close friend all in one with no friends is not something i want. i've experience that with my ex gf over 3 years relationship with no contact of my friends. its pretty lonely, and i get tired of hanging out the same partner in my opinion. its nice to mix up or balance with friends and partner.
Alice In Chains
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To me: no friends. I could do without no partner, part of my problem is that I don't like drawing attention and don't like men staring at me. But life would be a lot nicer if I had friends
LonelyWonders
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Either way people turn. So whats the point of either Loneliness has it's advantages, and its crualties!
Loneliness has it's advantages, and its crualties!
Section_31
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I have almost 0 friends, the ones i do have live out of town and we maybe only see them once or twice a year....and theyre related to me so i dont know if that counts
I personally couldnt care less whether I do have friends or not. I used to have alot of friends when i was a kid growing up but over the yrs i became more withdrawn and intorverted. Over time my friends went their own ways and the strange thing is it didnt bother me. I can do what i want, when i want.
What always anooyed me is when people would just randomly show up without calling first or anything, i HATED that so much, i just didnt like the unpected social situation.
With my hunny, im lucky, because shes that way, and we have the exact same interests. Shes the only lady i know who WANTS to go to a sci fi convention and dress up for it, LOL. in short, id take a partner over friends.
I personally couldnt care less whether I do have friends or not. I used to have alot of friends when i was a kid growing up but over the yrs i became more withdrawn and intorverted. Over time my friends went their own ways and the strange thing is it didnt bother me. I can do what i want, when i want.
What always anooyed me is when people would just randomly show up without calling first or anything, i HATED that so much, i just didnt like the unpected social situation.
With my hunny, im lucky, because shes that way, and we have the exact same interests. Shes the only lady i know who WANTS to go to a sci fi convention and dress up for it, LOL. in short, id take a partner over friends.
Waybuloo
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I don't want lots of friends even if I didn't have problems.
In my ideal world I want a close group of 3 or 4 girlfriends, and a partner. I can't deal with befriending men, they either can't be platonic, or I just can't have a proper rapport with them. Anyways, I would choose a partner (a bloody good one of course) over friends anyday. As you grow older you'll find that most people do most things with a significant other. Friends don't hang around with other friends enough to provide excitement, stimulation, intimacy and connections. I also say this due to experience.
In my ideal world I want a close group of 3 or 4 girlfriends, and a partner. I can't deal with befriending men, they either can't be platonic, or I just can't have a proper rapport with them. Anyways, I would choose a partner (a bloody good one of course) over friends anyday. As you grow older you'll find that most people do most things with a significant other. Friends don't hang around with other friends enough to provide excitement, stimulation, intimacy and connections. I also say this due to experience.