what kind of girls/guys do you like?

[LadyWench]

I'm really not that picky. When I meet someone and they have a good heart and a great sense of humor (specifically, my type of humor), I'm sold. But when it comes right down to it and I actually think about traits that I really like in another person, they are as follows:

Like I said, a great sense of humor. That means sarcasm, mostly. My whole family uses sarcasm, and I'd really like to be with someone that can joke the same way and not be offended.

Intelligence is another plus. No, they don't need to have a degree in anything. You can be a very smart person, without having an effing Ph.D or something.

I have a lot of convictions. It would be nice to date someone with similar views. When I see injust, I become fired up and desperate to make it right...even if I can't. I'm very strongly opinionated, and I'd love to be with someone that is, too.

Someone understanding and accepting. Especially of my "mental issues". If I'm having a panic attack, I'd like them to be supportive...not annoyed. Along with other things.

Loyalty is another important factor, of course.

I realize this last one would be difficult to find, but I'd like someone to be the opposite of me in a lot of ways. I mean, having things in common is fantastic, so I do want that. But what I mean is, I'm so scared of almost everything...and it's hard for me to get up and do things to get over my fears and actually live life. I'd like for my partner to be one of those people that pushes me to do things. Yeah, sounds horrible that I'd be depending on someone else to help me through it. I'm just saying, it'd be nice to have someone that's willing to help change me or at least make things a little better.

As far as looks go, I'm not that picky either. I'm not attractive, so why should I expect my partner to be? That isn't fair. But everybody has their own taste. I'm probably more picky with guys than girls, though. I'm attracted to different types of women. Whereas with guys, I hold a pretty strong sense of taste with their looks. That doesn't mean I'm going to turn down somebody just because they aren't what I "prefer". Not at all! But like I said, everybody has their own version of what's attractive. And since this thread asks what our preferences are, I figured I would share.

Jack White. I kind of like (for lack of a better term) "girly" guys, such as him. I'm not really attracted to hugely masculine men. It's just not my thing.

But as far as females go, like I said, I'm attracted to all different types. But I'll say that Kate Winslet is my dream woman. I dig chicks (and guys, as well) with accents.

 

[iamthenra]

I like my women with a pulse...

 

[redski]

I'm primarily interested in guys whose personalities I like. Physical attraction comes afterward for me... Basically once I have feelings for a guy because I really like his personality and the kind of person he is, then he starts getting more and more attractive and I find him extremely hot (even if people generally find him butt ugly)
Love is blind after all... I don't judge by appearances Potential boyfriends are all a blank slate to me, I only "see" them once I really like them, so basically I have no preferences when it comes to looks or "types"...

I am just like this but I am into females. Mostly if I like the way she carries herself and her personality
then that is usually a good sign.
The physical appearance although I have noticed it
comes after the first step.

It's nice to read that their are others like me.

 

[megalon]

I have a fetish for emo girls.

 

[Why]

i look for:

asian or half asina/white
shy/introvert
kind/nice/funny
becomes outgoing once close to select few (like me)
okay with spendin weekends on couch

 

[iamthenra]

I like my women with legs.... Duh?

 

[missmary]

I like the brooding, tall, strong, dark haired type of men. Especially if they look sinister and are muscular; I want him to be nice and romantic with me but serious and quiet with other people. He must accept my kooky yet sometimes misanthropic personality. We would be sorta like misfits or loners.

Ditto for that though, my current boyfriend is short with medium brown hair and a very pale,a bit wrinkled complexion; he's old enough to be my Father (50). I guess I haven't really been given the opportunity to meet the types of men I prefer because every time I do see them, I run and hide, or rather, I will say that some people can't afford to be choosy.

 

[Noca]

I like the brooding, tall, strong, dark haired type of men. Especially if they look sinister and are muscular; I want him to be nice and romantic with me but serious and quiet with other people. He must accept my kooky yet sometimes misanthropic personality. We would be sorta like misfits or loners.

Ditto for that though, my current boyfriend is short with medium brown hair and a very pale,a bit wrinkled complexion; he's old enough to be my Father (50). I guess I haven't really been given the opportunity to meet the types of men I prefer because every time I do see them, I run and hide, or rather, I will say that some people can't afford to be choosy.

so... you dont prefer your current boyfriend? why are you with him then?

 

[missmary]

so... you dont prefer your current boyfriend? why are you with him then?

I'm with him because we are compatible. His personality and maturity makes up for his appearance. I wouldn't gamble our relationship just because of his looks. O my, I guess I made it sound like I didn't want to be with him, but I do The dark-haired, muscular type is only something that I like in a man, but not required if I like his personality.

 

[mismeek]

I like guys who don't hit girls..


sense of humor and a nice smile would be nice too.

 

[Social_Monstrosity]

I find all sorts of women attractive in SOME way.

So I'll just list what I DON'T like...

-Stone cold bitches who wouldn't understand SAD
-Morbidly obese (Sorry...I'm typically not a choosy person but there must be SOME physical attraction...)
-Ignorance and girls who are unwilling to learn or think for themselves


Usually I like smart, sweet, shy, tall, leggy brunettes

Though I know I can never have one.

 

[Rxqueen]

I'm usually into guys that have a good sense of humor and are respectful of women, ans someone I'm attracted to...also someone who's not obsessed with having sex...which is impossible to find in our oversexed society...

 

[mismeek]

I'm usually into guys that have a good sense of humor and are respectful of women, ans someone I'm attracted to...also someone who's not obsessed with having sex...which is impossible to find in our oversexed society...

too true..did you guys know americans have more words for our sex organs and the sex act itself than any other language? smh

 

[javoon]

someone with a very calm temper..(total opposite of mine)..umm tall brown eyes dark hair..and someone i can trust and someone to make me laugh and uhh yep

 

[Lorraine Manca]

the kind that don't make you meet their family! I'm not even kidding. it takes me a hell of long time to warm up to that idea.

 

[FOR REAL]

the kind that don't make you meet their family!

i like her

 

[Generical]

hmmmm the kind that causes that uncontrollable grin which actually makes your cheeks hurt because you're that damn happy to see them.

 

[Juliegoolie]

Wow, it's unbelievable how much you remind me of a friend of mine. Anyways, if you really do intend finding someone with this exact criteria an online dateing service may be the best option. This way you can cut through all the people that just don't have what you're looking for.
Wish you luck!

 

[Juliegoolie]

I will just copy and paste from an older post of mine in the thread "Individual Partner Preferences". The list is complete and sound.

She has to be around my age to begin with and have a very profound personality that is - under expectable circumstances - unlikely to change significantly.

Some must-haves:
1. Honesty.
2. Intelligence and (working wholeheartedly on) university education: Either a mathematician, physicist, chemist or biologist, or some interdisciplinary field of science. She must be "interdisciplinary-curious" and mathematically-inclined. Certain faculties of engineering are acceptable, too.
3. Fidelity.
4. Compassion.
5. Companionship.
6. Looks.
7. Sensuality/Eroticism.
8. Conversation.
9. Partner in love.
10. Trustworthiness.
11. Demonstrates uniqueness.
12. Is ambitious and very curious.
13. Is creative, imaginative and has a well-developed capacity for abstraction.
14. Well-groomed.
15. Playful / touchy-feely.
16. Likes me for who I am.
17. Between 5'2" and 5'9".
18. Hates heels.
19. Hates to party.
20. Hates to drink alcohol.
21. Doesn't smoke and doesn't do drugs.
22. Hates to dress like women.
23. Loves trekking / hiking / going on adventurous journeys. Loves forests, as a consequence.
24. Skinny / athletic body type.
25. Is a misanthrope, a nihilist in the sense of this article: "On Misanthropy and Nihilism."
27. Has an intact, loving family, ideally.
28. Speaks at least English fluently.
29. Has no friends and is a loner.
(30. Is deeply interested in the programming language Haskell.)


Some great-to-haves:
- Long hair with low frequency curls.
- Freckles.
- Green eyes.
- Dark hair. Naturally red hair is pretty, too.

Basically, I am looking for a woman whose personality and philosophy on life is very similar to mine. Heh. Let me comment on all of this briefly.

« Has no friends and is a loner. » - I admit, that sounds a bit weird; I am just not particularly interested in having to deal with her friends. I am a lone wolf, or at least sufficiently selective to not have any friends - or people in general - to spend time with. I wouldn't want to have to befriend her friends in order to not alienate her from them. Therefore it'd be better if she hadn't any friends herself.

##2, 19, 20, 21, 23, 24, 27 and 28 are indispensable. Some criteria after #18 are probably alterable to a certain degree. The gender-independent aspects are all true for me. What would I do with a woman who, say, loves to dance? Should I constantly disappoint her, make her sad or become good at something I truly hate? Or what about a woman who loves to party (pretty much all women of my age) - should I go on a party with her and wait silently in a corner (because I don't want to kill everyone's fun) until she's done doing what makes her happy? Sounds downright silly to me. I could stay at home and hope she doesn't cheat on me after getting drunk and hit on by numerous horny guys. -- And if criterion #2 isn't met, there's not much outside of the bedroom we could do together. While that might be sufficient for some people, I doubt it's a path to happiness in the long run. Perhaps we could go trekking for weeks, but that's, again, likely something only very few women are into.

Wow, it's unbelievable how much you remind me of a friend of mine. Anyways, if you really do intend finding someone with this exact criteria an online dateing service may be the best option. This way you can cut through all the people that just don't have what you're looking for.
Wish you luck!

 

[klytus]

Wow, it's unbelievable how much you remind me of a friend of mine. Anyways, if you really do intend finding someone with this exact criteria an online dateing service may be the best option. This way you can cut through all the people that just don't have what you're looking for.

Online dating doesn't work. No variety of dating really works, if you are an uptight fuck like me. I just love being an uptight fuck, hence it's going to take some time until the right woman comes along.