What do you hate most about social anxiety?

what do you hate most about social anxiety?

  • not being able to talk/openly express yourself when u want to

    Votes: 18 13.0%
  • being misunderstood by others (people thinking u r dumb, rude, etc)

    Votes: 23 16.7%
  • not being able to make friends, or keep relationships with others

    Votes: 35 25.4%
  • feeling self conscious (having low self esteem or negative thoughts and insecurities)

    Votes: 28 20.3%
  • having intense anxiety (and anxiety attacks)

    Votes: 16 11.6%
  • feeling alone and helpless

    Votes: 18 13.0%

  • Total voters
    138

HeadFace

Well-known member
#2
It's impossible for me to meet new people by myself.
I can't approach anyone.
I feel awkward asking a teacher for anything. Even if it's a question that is essential for an assignment. I'll just guess, unless it is a really nice teacher who I actually am comfortable with.
No matter how much I'd want to, I cant be the conversation starter with someone I dont know.
And sometimes I'm so anxious I dont even feel like going for a walk or anything.
 

alwaysrunning

Well-known member
#3
that whenever i seem to be getting close to ppl i panic and run away...hmmm maybe my forum name isnt as literal as i first thought i was =/
 

HeadFace

Well-known member
#4
that whenever i seem to be getting close to ppl i panic and run away...hmmm maybe my forum name isnt as literal as i first thought i was =/
I'm starting to do this.
NO REGRETS THOUGH |:<

Also you might wanna put an "all of the above" option on the poll LOL. Or an option that lets us pick multiple choices.
 

WeirdyMcGee

Well-known member
#6
low self esteem, for sure.

If I could have even a little confidence in myself, I could work and be happy doing what I like-- but I don't even know what I like anymore and I feel ashamed that I can't even take advantage of my one and only talent.
 

HeadFace

Well-known member
#7
To be honest I dont think low self-asteem is a symptom of Social Anxiety or Phobia.
I think it's more of a thing where we don't feel "normal" because we can't socialize right so society and whatnot makes us feel like misfits and disfunctional people.

Either way I still have close to no self asteem/confidence |:
 
#10
I hate that I'm afraid to be friends with my friends. I have some really close friends that have slipped away over the years because of my fear, and my fear alone. I let them slip away. I hate that. :(
 

EscapeArtist

Well-known member
#11
Not being able to maintain friendships. In the rare case that I meet somebody, I may hang out with them about 3 times and then try and quietly slip out of their life. Afraid that they will think I am boring after they know me. I can persuade myself that anybody doesn't know me yet hence why they like me, and I use it as an excuse to push away (past) good friends
 

Quiet Angel

Well-known member
#12
Missing opportunities is what I hate most.
And yes, I've missed plenty of them. D':

...sadly, I live kindof a boring life.
But I'm trying to make the most of it.
 
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carecrab

Well-known member
#14
not being able to talk/openly express yourself when u want to

it's my biggest problem, i can't even express myself well to my friends/family

not being able to make friends, or keep relationships with others

because of the above problem

feeling self conscious (having low self esteem or negative thoughts and insecurities) + feeling alone and helpless

all the time.
 

Rot

Well-known member
#17
It's hard to keep going with a deep feeling of loneliness, and more when you want and try to make new friends but it doesn't work.
 

ShyChild

Active member
#18
This was a hard one b/c at different times in my life I would have answered differently. There was a time I wouldn't come out of the house for fear of an anxiety attack. When I finally did get out I still wasn't talking to anyone (except for a psychiatrist). Right this moment the hardest has been trying to establish relationships. I've been alone too long.::(:
 

Moo

Well-known member
#19
Definitely being misunderstood by others. I know I come across as cold and distant when I don't wave or say hello as much as I probably should. I care a lot about what people think about me and I'm not able to present myself in the way I really want to. It's hard having that difference between what I feel I'm like on the inside and how I can show it. It's easy for people to mistake me for being stupid, rude or both when in reality I'm just petrified of letting go and relaxing.

Also there's the replaying of what I think were uncomfortable events over and over in my mind. It's like my brain is always switched on. I still think about things which happened over 10 years ago which, rationally, is ridiculous but I really can't help it.

To be honest I relate to everything on the poll but I still stick by that being misunderstood is the most painful for me.
 

vexatiousmind

Well-known member
#20
Having nothing to do.
Having no friends.
^Not being able to have fun b/c of the lack of those two.
Not being able to get things done that I need done.
 
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