What do you hate most about social anxiety?

[anomicdeer]

All the above! I don't even want to pick one....

 

[Joh]

im afraid of meeting new people, a few years ago i mate a girl, she said "you are boring, you dont know how to talk"

 

[teruteru]

im tied between these four:
not being able to talk/openly express yourself when u want to
being misunderstood by others (people thinking u r dumb, rude, etc)
not being able to make friends, or keep relationships with others
feeling self conscious (having low self esteem or negative thoughts and insecurities)

i had to stick with the third one, not being able to make friends, or keep relationships with others. i hate that i can't keep friends. there's always someone out there they will prefer over me as a friend and leave me alone. i suppose i can't blame them, since i'm really just a burden to have around. i don't talk much, say anything interesting, or want to do anything fun. (╯︵╰,)

 

[shyflower]

I probably could have voted 'all of the above' if that were an option, but the one answer I chose more than anything is being misunderstood by others and I think what bothers me there is that people want me to listen to them when they are talking but they don't want to listen to me when I am talking. Their lack of interest in listening to me leads to them misinterpreting and hearing the wrong thing, therefore I end up getting the " I think I will ignore you now" feeling from them.

 

[bguimaraes]

extreme blushing.

 

[Rawz]

I hate not being able to make friends.

 

[Graeme1988]

I hate not being able to make friends.

^ This and the fact social anxiety can make me seem like a total idiot.

Oh, and the fact I can't hide how uncomfortable I am in most social situations.

 

[Avatar]

Option #7
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[Zaki]

The constant holding back/feeling unable to express myself when I want and how I want. I often feel like a quirky, cool, potentially likeable person encapsulated in fear and self-doubt.

 

[jellyfishgirl02]

All of it, but definitely being unable to express my identity the way I want to and being unable to make friends.

 

[AtTheGates]

The constant holding back/feeling unable to express myself when I want and how I want. I often feel like a quirky, cool, potentially likeable person encapsulated in fear and self-doubt.

^This...definitely.

..and also the fact people with anxiety problems are often misunderstood and labeled.

 

[nicole1]

I didn't answer the poll because there's more to it than just one answer. Over all, it has inhibited my social skills and I don't feel comfortable around people. I feel like I'm not in control of myself.

The positive: I did learn more about myself as I'm more introspective and I'm happy being alone (though I attribute that part to my introversion).

 

[Sacrament]

Worst thing about social anxiety/worrying is identifying oneself with it, and letting them become you.

 

[Kaekae]

I hate feeling self-conscious all the time. I hate how it affects how I feel doing simple tasks like walking down the street.
I also hate how I am misunderstood by others. I think I come across as a bit ditzy when really I usually just feel embarrassed and so my brain goes into weird mode. Something like that anyway.

 

[CrazyGirl]

I couldn't pick just one. The first is the inability to form friendships/relationships and second, the pains of loneliness

 

[Argentum]

The effects of severe anxiety are lifelong. Even if you escape anxiety, you're left with a lack of experience, diminished ability to relate to others over life experiences, and little in the way of working social networks.

 

[Marc7]

I HATE not being able to stand up myself and express myself when needed. Also not being able to make friends irl and being alone ALL the time.

 

[Avatar]

Sa
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[oNecoOlazN]

Not being able to maintain relationships due to fear insecurities and avp.

 

[theslowesthand]

... being alone ALL the time

This ^

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