Virgins: Are you jealous of friends with sexual experience?

[Freeflex]

I certainly am.

All my close friends, both online and real-life are non-virgins and all in steady relationships, except me. I'm not being peer pressured except maybe by my own conscience, but I feel like the odd one out still being a virgin, and I'm a 17 year old female. I've had the chance in the past, and I turned it down due to the fact I was suspicious about the guy's motives (no I wasn't being unreasonable, he was actually talking about having sex with me, then asked me out).

Most religious people and moral crusaders and other girls my age would be telling me to be proud of my virginity status, especially being a female, but I'm not proud. It's no so much the problem being 17 and virgin, I just know that I'll be older and still a virgin. I would never pay to get rid of it, or hook up with a random guy, but I'd certainly like a boyfriend or at least a close single male friend, which is where I've gone picky.

 

[rodinski]

no. because sex doesn't make you a better person, nor does sleeping with random chicks over the years cause any sort of benefit. I'd rather sleep with 1 person I truly love then 10 random chicks that eventually meant nothing.

 

[Honda]

Jealous? or worried about the crap, words, looks, some people would give about these things... Which is none of their f**king business actually and is something private...

 

[Felgen]

Back when I was still a virgin (not that long ago, actually), I envied anyone who wasn't. Sadly, what's make or break today when it comes to validating your own self-worth, is whether you've f*cked or not. Thanks to chick flicks, soaps and MTV, you also have to be a master in bed (i.e. not cum too soon, have a high endurance, be a master at roleplaying and so on).

 

[EasySkanking]

I don't feel jeaous (or envious), it's just not one of my feelings. I don't care about other people enough to feel it ... I'm quite busy with my own problems/life for it...

 

[Ignace]

Your problem will be solved ... soon. Don't worry, love will find you.

 

[Mr.Moon]

no. because sex doesn't make you a better person, nor does sleeping with random chicks over the years cause any sort of benefit. I'd rather sleep with 1 person I truly love then 10 random chicks that eventually meant nothing.

I agree with this 100% --^


I'm proud to be a virgin in my mid 20's. I feel it more special to save oneself for the person you plan to spend your entire life with.

 

[Jackiechanliness]

I was in a relationship some time ago, and found out after we broke up that the only reason he 'loved' me was because I gave him hand jobs. Even though we were together for some time and we never had sex, I still regret even going that far with someone who didn't really love me. It's really not worth t.

 

[Luke1993]

I do envy non-virgins, I know that I shouldn't but I do. People who have lost it seem superior. Maybe society has brainwashed me into thinking this way

 

[Luna1740]

I was 15 when I lost mine, it was with someone that I love and I don't regret it. But I think that it taught me that sex isn't really the thing that I was looking for, it was acceptance

 

[Emily_G]

I was when I was a virgin, which I lost at 15. Looking back...I have no idea what I was jelouse of. Sex with random guys, or even guys I liked a little bit, was so meaningless and only lead to trouble.

 

[danyule]

In all honesty, there is absolutely nothing wrong with being a virgin, especially at your age, if anything its a positive.
I didnt lose mine until i was 19, and im a guy >.>, who hung around other guys that would have sex with pretty much anything, it was good to be the one with standards, and girls really respected it.
nothing to be envious of.

 

[bluepixel]

jealous? Sometimes.

Not a friend, but a guy I did some freelance work for... he always came off like a complete douchebag. He had just broken up with his girlfriend and, from what I could gather, he treated her like crap and didn't pay much attention to her. A bunch of us were having lunch and he was telling us how he was out the night before and got lucky with this girl he met at a bar. That made me jealous and sad... this low-life can get a girl so easily and I can't?!

Mostly, I'm just concerned with my own lack of sexual experience. It's something I want. I don't think there's anything wrong with being a virgin, but I also don't think it's anything special or something be proud of.

 

[Tiercel]

I'm more jealous of my friends' abilities to lead somewhat normal lives than of their sexual conquests (or the lack thereof).

 

[coyote]

Having sex or not having sex doesn't make you a better or worse person.

Sex is an end to itself - enjoy it (or don't) for what it is.

It would be like envying someone who eats chocolate chip cookies when you prefer oatmeal raisin.

 

[Felgen]

Having sex or not having sex doesn't make you a better or worse person.

Sex is an end to itself - enjoy it (or don't) for what it is.

It would be like envying someone who eats chocolate chip cookies when you prefer oatmeal raisin.

What if you really wanted to taste chocolate chip cookies, but nobody would give them to you because you lacked the proper social skills and the media told people that everyone who didn't eat them were losers?

 

[Tiercel]

What if you really wanted to taste chocolate chip cookies, but nobody would give them to you because you lacked the proper social skills and the media told people that everyone who didn't eat them were losers?

I know of a place where one may acquire chocolate chip cookies. But it costs money....

 

[Felgen]

I know of a place where one may acquire chocolate chip cookies. But it costs money....

So do women.

 

[BlackPuma]

Sex without love is not worth it, in my opinion. So no, by definition, I am not jealous of people whom have lost their virginity. I'm more concerned about whether finding a relationship (which I did) is going to make me happy as many stated it will do. I have my doubts.

Loosing one's virginity is not a competition. It seems like everyone is rushing to 'get it over with'. Whether you're 17 or 170, you'd benefit yourself to make your first time special. You're ready when you're ready, and not a second sooner.

 

[Tiercel]

So do women.

But most chocolate chip cookies are cheaper. And I don't feel as bad if I get tired of them and get rid of them.

And if the cookies aren't in the mood, they never say anything. At least not to me....