Personally, I don't think sex is a big deal. For myself, I'm more worried about the first time pain. I'm sure after I get past that, it wouldn't be a big deal for me. I've been intimate with someone, just short of the actual act, but looking back, I didn't feel much about it. Not much emotional attachment either.When things ended, we were sort of in a semi relationship, and he broke things off suddenly, no calls, text messages or emails, nothing. I was kind of upset for a couple weeks, wishing and waiting for him to call, but he just disappeared into thin air, lol. But after that period, as the weeks got by, I got over him pretty quickly, no sweat, despite him being the first person I was pretty intimate with (prior to that, I've not even held another male's hand) so I personally think sex shouldn't be an issue for me, with or without the emotional attachment. Most important is I feel comfortable with the person and then everything else would fall into place I think.